I have a question more geared towards the males on this forum but everyone is free to respond

[jockslap]

I have been sacked 3 times and slapped twice just for taking a stab at it when i thought a girl liked me, the most recent one really got me good, like my balls where actually bruised...so yeah that shit aint happenin again

(the kicking really wasnt necessary seeing as i just asked if she wanted to pick up a coffee and talk)

 

[Mew_chan]

I have a friend who I think is absolutely ADORABLE... he is so cute but has such low self esteem and I don?t think he has ever had a girl friend... if I wasn?t with my awesome boyfriend I would soo pick him up... if he would ease down a little on his magic addiction... that is...

But I can totally understand where they are coming form... they spend half their lives being ridiculed for being different and then finally they break free after high school and begin to blossom and they don?t even realise it...

And as a woman who likes old fashioned men, I like it best when the male talks to me first... So I will flutter and giggle away...

 

[seamusotorain]

Because I'm androgynous to the point of being creepy, look like I haven't slept for weeks/took loads of speed previous night and don't want to be bothered by the opposite sex. Or anyone for that matter.

*Pokepokepokepokepokepokepokepoke*

Personally, because the only girl I've ever made the first move on was a lesbian.

It's funny now, but back then, it was utter facepalm.

 

[Blindswordmaster]

why do some guys (i find this more with gamers, nerds, and mormons for some odd reason) not find themselves attractive when clearly they are.......

and have women fight over them?

to clarify, i'm not trying to single anyone out and by guys i mean males in general i just want a little bit of insight into the male psyche.......

Because of the age we live in. You flirt with someone you get hit with sexual harassment. The problem is that women still tend to act subtlety when they like someone. They can't just come out and say it, because they feel it ruins the romance. We(men) have to air on the side of caution if we want to stay out of jail.

 

[Blindswordmaster]

I hate to disrupt your male psyche, but it's really us females fault >.>
We are so damn vague when it comes to showing attraction. We giggle and flutter out eye lashes and act all delicate... It's really disgusting when you think about it. God forbid we just freaking tell you -.-;

I suggest a universal sign of attraction!

Precisely my mother fucking point. If you like someone, JUST FUCKING SAY IT!! STOP BULLSHITTING AROUND AND SAY IT!!!!!! I'm literally drowning in rage. Stop playing by these stupid make up rules. Why should I go over and try to talk to an attractive woman, maybe offer to buy her a drink, when she's just going to say no? It's all fucking bullshit!

 

[magicman4443]

I don't know about other people, but I just have pretty low self-esteem in general. I'll say that I haven't had a girlfriend, and I'm 16. I just don't talk to people very much outside of my small group of friends. Not to mention I'm incredibly bashful and I don't even talk to the girl I like much because I'm afraid I'll embarrass myself. I guess that's pretty much the heart of the problem. I don't want to get horrible embarrassed.

 

[Pegghead]

Well in most forms of media and general understanding what we as gamers or geeks or Mormons can be considered too odd by normal standards. And it is through the same forms of media and general understanding that girls are all about sticking to what is normal (It's not very Lady-like to do otherwise).

So at first they tell themselves that girls will never go for them through what they enjoy doing, and it only grows from there.

Personally I don't mingle with girls in that kind of way because I think doing that kind of thing at my age is moronic, but considering the growing number of women who are becoming more and more interested in the sort of things I'm interested in (Gaming, movies etc) I have hope that it'll be alot easier for guys like us in the future to get in the game.

 

[ribonuge]

Does no one realise this thread is over a year old?

 

[Blindswordmaster]

I hate to disrupt your male psyche, but it's really us females fault >.>
We are so damn vague when it comes to showing attraction. We giggle and flutter out eye lashes and act all delicate... It's really disgusting when you think about it. God forbid we just freaking tell you -.-;

I suggest a universal sign of attraction!

Just to clarify, if he can't tell that your flirting, your not flirting. END OF DISCUSSION!

 

[Insanum]

Lack of confidence, Low self esteem, Lack of social interaction and...to a certain point a fear of women.

I tended to suffer from the first two, And the others are things ive noticed. Luckily for me now i dont have any of those problems. Woop!

 

[Blindswordmaster]

Does no one realise this thread is over a year old?

It's an important subject.

 

[Tharwen]

Because chicks are IMPOSSIBLE to figure out, if you want a guy, go up to him and say "let's have sex", you will never get a "no".

Weeeellll...

Yes I did just quote a year-old post.

I'm

Just

That

Awesome

 

[Aurora219]

why do some guys (i find this more with gamers, nerds, and mormons for some odd reason) not find themselves attractive when clearly they are.......

and have women fight over them?

to clarify, i'm not trying to single anyone out and by guys i mean males in general i just want a little bit of insight into the male psyche.......

Holy crap, you sound like my girlfriend's made an account here and has secretly racked up a post count triple mine while I wasn't looking.

Seriously, she asked this of me the other day. I can't answer it.

 

[acidk44]

because a good portion of guys are too thick to realize it when a women starts to act interested in them. then when they don't see any chicks making a move (even if they are making a move) they assume there is something wrong with them, and yes i speak from personal expirience.

I am one of those

 

[rees263]

Does no one realise this thread is over a year old?

I have to do it:

Spoiler

 

[mcgroobber]

ive suffered from this i guess, but im not overwhelmingly attractive

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

Its not just the guys with the oblivious issue. I spent a good part of my teenage years not knowing and understanding the social ques the opposite sex gave. Hell, I still miss them at times. Not to mention the years of screwed up self-esteem issues that comes with a thought process outside of the common mold. I think both sexes need to drop the games BS and say it like it is. IF you want to ask her out do it, if you think he is hot tell him.

 

[Julianking93]

Hm...I don't know.

That's a good question.

Usually, us nerds have little to no friends which in turn leads to low self esteem, therefore, they see themselves in a negative way.

I know this because I do it almost everyday.

I think I am ugly as fuck despite people telling me almost daily how sexy or cute I am. I just won't believe it for some reason.

I can say this about myself since today I'm feeling pretty good about myself, but days go by when I think I am just a straight up ugly person who is unlovable.

It sucks pretty bad.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

I don't now about some of you guys out there but I have yet to have girls start fighting over me. Or really show any sort of interest in me as a potential boyfriend at all. I think some have but considering that I tend to overthink things like this too much I don't know if that was just me jumping at false starts. 'Course I'm too afraid that if I read the messages wrong and think that she does like me, then I'm making a fool of myself. See what I mean with the overthinking?

As for not thinking myself not that attractive, it's probably because - I'm not that attractive. At least when I grow my hair and beard out I'm probably not that attractive. To give you an idea as to how I look, I've earned the nicknames "Caveman" and "Jesus" when I just let things grow. As to when all my hairs are nicely trimmed and combed, I probably don't look half bad. I know I'm no movie star but I also know I'm not butt-ugly.

When it come to the male psyche as a whole, we probably don't generally think ourselves as good-looking for the same reason women don't: commercial standards that have been set too high. All us average looking people see those really attractive and idealed bodies and say to ourselves: "I don't look as good as them. I must be some hideously deformed freak." I know that it's a bit of an exageration but you get my point.

 

[Blow_Pop]

why do some guys (i find this more with gamers, nerds, and mormons for some odd reason) not find themselves attractive when clearly they are.......

and have women fight over them?

to clarify, i'm not trying to single anyone out and by guys i mean males in general i just want a little bit of insight into the male psyche.......

Holy crap, you sound like my girlfriend's made an account here and has secretly racked up a post count triple mine while I wasn't looking.

Seriously, she asked this of me the other day. I can't answer it.

I promise you, I am not your girlfriend. Nice to know I'm not the only girl who asks that.


Also to clarify, me flirting, I am very open about the fact I am flirting. I don't play the stupid bs games most girls play. Ask Frank_Sinatra_ how often I flirt with him.....and how obvious it is.....or anyone in the Stargate Fan Group.