I just realized I'm an adult now.

[Thumper17]

I've lived with my parents for 19 years going on 20, and they've driven me everywhere, bought me anything I want, helped me with whatever they could. They've been and still are very fussy about me and still give me all the advice I ask for.

But a lot of things have changed, I do everything on my own, I no longer need them to cut my food, or blow on it to cool it down, or to tuck me in. They dont need to drive me to school because I've graduated and am going to college soon. I can drink now, I don't need to ask them if anything is ok before I do it, since I already no if it will be or not. I have my own bank card. I carry my own health care card and things of that nature and I know my own way around the city.

They leave me home alone regularily, back in the day they'd take me with them to the bank or what have you. I miss the rough housing with my dad and the constant reminders to do my homework and go to bed. I dont have dinner made for me that often anymore. I miss not knowing about my parents financial situation, I miss not fully understanding everything and being innocent. I miss horsing around with my brothers, I miss playing with toys instead of videogames. I miss the way my grandparents looked when they were younger. I miss the way my parents were when they were younger, they're middle aged now, not quite as spry as they were, a few wrinkles on their faces, a few grey hairs.

I miss not having to shave or use deodorant or being able to skip a shower and yeah, I even miss bedtime. I miss being told not to "Spoil my dinner" and I miss being a kid and being taken care of by my parents. You know? I guess it's nostalgia or whatever but..


What really drilled it home for me, was today. I drove my mom to the store for the first time, and I realized. Driving was the last thing I really needed her for and now that I have my liscence. I really don't need her. I'm an adult, and I can do everything on my own.


I've become a man, and I'm crying about that.


Thanks mom, thanks dad. Thanks for everything.

 

[Robert2812]

This thread is nice because it is going to happen to all of us.

maybe go on /b/ and post a sad, re-affirming image if you want more of a response.

to me, "awkward silence" is how things like this go here.

 

[Robert2812]

Oh, and good luck.

 

[AvsJoe]

Huh. I'm still coming to terms with adulthood, and I'm 23. If I do something stupid, I can go to jail! There are NHL players who are not only younger than me, but A LOT younger than me. Quite a few kids these days haven't played an N64, and I've played on an NES and a freaking Atari! Hell, man, a few of my friends are married and my younger brother just fathered his first child; I am nowhere near ready for that kind of shit yet I am now certainly old enough for it. Scary thought, that one.

I am an adult. Been for a while. And it still scares me.

 

[Chainsaws_of_War_2]

Well, I liked it. Though discussion value here is limited.

 

[Atheist.]

Yeah, you're an adult, but a young one. I don't really consider anyone a mature adult until they've moved out and start paying all of their bills.

But it's good to see a young adult showing respect and appreciation for their parents.

 

[Sampler]

You'd've thought by the time you became an adult you'd've learnt to spell, or at least noticed the red squiggles under half the words indicating there's a problem.

On the subject, I'm thirty and still class myself as an adult

 

[SovietSecrets]

I do adult things, but I don't consider myself an adult yet. I'm more of a carefree moron that will man up when the time calls for it.

Though I am happy my parents understand thats just my personality and always has been and are okay with it. I try my best to not impose on them though in anyway and help out around the house and ask if I can do anything for them. Best thing for them though is to see my grades in good shape so I try as much as I can there.

 

[Adam Galli]

Very nice. It kinda makes me wanna cry.

 

[rsvp42]

Welcome to the club. Or rather, welcome to the orientation. You're not fully in the club until you get your own place and truly fend for yourself. I turned 23 last December and I'm currently living in my own place across the country from my parents, holding down a job, wondering what I'm going to do for the next one and generally coming to terms with the fact that things aren't handed to me and that the world doesn't owe me anything.

Hold onto that feeling though. I'm really worried about becoming... too much of an adult. Luckily my career doesn't demand constant maturity so I can try to retain some of my whimsy, but it's still tough. We all get used to it though. Or we don't and have mid-life crises, either or.

 

[Gigano]

Heart-warming.

Might want to save the true savouring of this realization until you're living on your own and paying all the bills yourself though.

That's when you'll truly comprehend the extent of what you'll miss.

 

[Jewrean]

Buy a house, move into it and start paying mortgage repayments. Then I will consider you an adult.

 

[Mr Thin]

I'm crying because I'm the same age as you but I HAVEN'T GOT A LICENSE! OR A JOB!

The shame...

 

[Frank_Sinatra_]

Uhm, I think I didn't read this thread right, are you saying you are 20ish years old, still live at home, don't pay rent, and you have the gall to say you don't need your parents?

That's what I was thinking... Although parents can be nice when you get laid off and your emergency rent money savings runs dry.
... Like what happened to me.
Spurrr change?

Hell, I pay all my insurance, rent, etc, etc and I still don't consider myself an adult... Don't know why really. Probably denial, plus those gray hairs accumulating around my temples isn't helping.
I'm 21 and I've got gray spots in my hair!
*panics*

 

[Amethyst Wind]

Uhm, I think I didn't read this thread right, are you saying you are 20ish years old, still live at home, don't pay rent, and you have the gall to say you don't need your parents?

If so, you are far from being an adult.

I am guessing I misread your post tho. Sorry for that in advance.

You have a car, big whoop...

You have a full time job kid?

Well, in a much less dick-ish way, this.

You're doing very well and each step towards independence is a good one, but really, what turns you into an adult is your first extended period of living away from your parents (usually university). It forces you (in the best possible way) to take care of yourself, get yourself out of bed to meet your schedule, budget for food, keep yourself in good hygiene and clean clothing etc, pay the bills (if you have a loan) etc, it's one of the best experiences you're going to have and it will change you more than you know. Have fun, although it's hard not to.

 

[Thumper17]

Uhm, I think I didn't read this thread right, are you saying you are 20ish years old, still live at home, don't pay rent, and you have the gall to say you don't need your parents?

If so, you are far from being an adult.

I am guessing I misread your post tho. Sorry for that in advance.

I pay rent when I can, can't find a job right now though I'm looking hard. I'm not moving out until I finish college so I can get a decent job, I really don't want to move out and find the only shitty apartment I can afford is across the city from my shitty cashier/salesperson job and I can't get a transfer/afford the gas, whereas if I get my degree in Journalism or whatever it is I decide on. I can find a job at the paper or something which is worth the travel/able to handle the gas and the apartment isn't so shitty.

 

[Kiltguy]

You'd've thought by the time you became an adult you'd've learnt to spell, or at least noticed the red squiggles under half the words indicating there's a problem.

On the subject, I'm thirty and still class myself as an adult

I'm 31, and I still consider myself childish. ;P

OT: Dude, I welcome you to the scary world of adulthood. I gets better, or worse... It just goes.

Crying out of happiness, is manly as f**k, so no biggy.

also

Spoiler

 

[Biosophilogical]

I miss being told not to "Spoil my dinner"

I've become a man, and I'm crying about that.


Thanks mom, thanks dad. Thanks for everything.

This made me quite sad, to be honest. I'm 17 and I've just gotten my provisional license (I can drive alone basically), and it makes me feel ... weird. What realy hit home for me with your story was the parts I left unsnipped. Seriously, reading those bits felt like a goodbye (it's something I've always done with other people's situations; put myself in their shoes, read it like I was saying it myself), and I so very much hate the forever-goodbyes.

OT: I'm sad now.

 

[godofallu]

If you still live with your parents then you must be a child. Not that being a child is a bad thing, just you can't grow up and understand adulthood while being sheltered by your parents.

Which is why college freshmen suck so much, they are just from a completely different world.