I may have just had the absolute WORST weekend of my life...

[Eggsnham]

I'll just take a step by step approach...

Friday:

- My PS3 broke and I can't even attempt to figure out what's wrong with it (let alone fix it) until around Christmas. Not too bad, but it's only the beginning.

- I decided to play a harmless prank on my little brother, he massively overreacted. All I did was transfer his saved data on his Xbox from his internal memory unit, to his HDD (which he never uses for some reason), I then took out the HDD and left it on the TV stand next to the 360. The way he reacted you'd think that I killed his best friend in front of him, and he only got angrier once I fixed it for him. My mom took his side and I got in trouble.

Saturday:

- I received many lectures in the morning on how it was not right of me to pull that prank on my brother, (mind you, this is the same kid who punched and broke an $800 LCD TV. He got away with it) and how I should be grounded and have my things taken away. This all happened from about 8 AM to 11 AM.

- At around 11 AM, my step dad decided to bring up the whole thing again, and this time he started yelling at me about how he was going to take away my things, which I bought with my money, sell them, and keep the money for himself. I told him he couldn't, he got up in my face and started screaming incoherently. Then he pulled my head down by my hair, to which I reacted with several punches to his face, splitting his lip and breaking a tooth. Oh, yeah. My little brother called the police too.

- After the police came and questioned everybody, my dad picked me up and took me to his house at about 11:45 AM. There was and still is talk about me being kicked out of the house to live at my dad's.

Sunday:

- I thought the weekend couldn't get any worse, especially since my whole family got together and talked about the incident, and we agreed to make sure this sort of thing doesn't happen again. Things were clearing up a bit.

- Nope. My mom was searching my room and found a glass pipe for smoking weed in my desk. I do smoke weed with friends sometimes, but I don't have a pipe. The only person I can think of who would put a glass pipe in my room, is my little brother. He's 12.

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So in addition to having a $400 piece of technology broken, being grounded for pulling a prank on my brother, beating up my step-dad, and being blamed for owning something which I didn't even know was in the house, much less my room; my mom told me that we're probably moving.

We'll be in the same town, but our house will be much smaller (our current house is already fairly small), and I won't be able to enjoy school as much, the reason being that we live right next to it; so when I'm done with my four classes, I can just walk home at 11 AM everyday. I don't have a license or a car, so I wouldn't be able to leave early if we moved where my mom is thinking of moving to.

I had my fair share of blame in a majority of these events, but I can't help but think that everybody is overreacting hugely to my actions.

I wouldn't be grounded if my little brother didn't throw a fit over a harmless prank.

I wouldn't have felt justified in beating up my step-dad if he'd just left the topic alone, and not gotten his face within an inch of mine and started screaming, and not pulled my hair to the point where I felt as if my scalp would peel off of my skull.

Merry fucking Christmas. Nothing says joy and peace like having every possible thing go wrong for 3 days straight.

Anybody have any ideas on how to keep this from making me more miserable than it already has? Please don't reply with some wise-ass reply like : "Just forget about it and move on" or "stop whining".

 

[MinimanZombie]

Well this is a toughie. I might have missed this in the the orginal post but have you tried explaining things to your mother? Or maybe even talk to your little bro. Maybe you could come to an agreement and he can take your side, excepting that he overeacted and you could then talk to the rest of the family?

 

[Jedoro]

How much does the idea of living with your dad appeal to you? Honestly, it's one of the more viable options I can see, given that your brother is a little ***** and your mom and stepdad are sure to have a low opinion of you after what's happened. Sometimes, all you can do is get out.

 

[The SettingSun]

I agree with Jedoro. I wouldn't be able to stand living with your little brother or your step-dad who pulls your hair and screams at you when he wants to make a point. I'd just get out whilst it's still your choice then tell them you won't come back until things get a little fairer.

 

[MammothBlade]

Well you know what, bad things tend to happen in shitstorm clusters. You shouldn't have been a deletionist jerk to your little brother, and could have been more careful with what resides in your bedroomdroom. Other than that, sucks. Do what you can to adapt in a positive + 10 way, maybe by admitting your mistakes, planning ahead, using your head or whatever sits on your neck, that sort of thing.

 

[Combustion Kevin]

- I decided to play a harmless prank on my little brother, he massively overreacted. All I did was transfer his saved data on his Xbox from his internal memory unit, to his HDD (which he never uses for some reason), I then took out the HDD and left it on the TV stand next to the 360. The way he reacted you'd think that I killed his best friend in front of him, and he only got angrier once I fixed it for him. My mom took his side and I got in trouble.

this?
nothing of any value was lost, just a temporary inconvenience?
this triggered the shitstorm?

I'm sorry, dude, but I think that there was some tension before all this, if not, everybody completely overreacted.

I'd say you try to talk this over with them, if that won't help, get out of the house, at least for a few days.

 

[Svenparty]

My girl yesterday called the police and got herself taken to casualty for suicidal thoughts...at my house...just as my mother was arriving. A shitty Xmas to all. Just remember it's just a holiday and at least you have an excuse to drink until you pass out.

 

[ComradeJim270]

First off... go stay with your dad for a few days. Let everyone cool off. That includes you. Relax, and stop trying to figure out how much of it is other people's fault and how much is your own, because you're not in a position to figure it out and it doesn't actually matter anyway.

Then, after everyone's calmed down a bit... talk to your brother.

I have no idea how many times growing up I got in one conflict or another with my little brother and ended up feeling like he was just an irredeemable asshole and I wanted nothing to do with him ever again. Every time, we eventually talked it out, realized that we were both behaving terribly and the whole thing wasn't quite as big a deal as we thought (or even that it was all just completely ridiculous), and moved on. Now we're both in our twenties and we're quite close.

It may take some time before he's willing to listen, so don't force it, but it truly is worth the effort to try.

Just remember that he's 12. Twelve-year old boys are obnoxious. They can't help it, they're just starting puberty, which means all kinds of hormones are doing this and that, and while their bodies are just starting the process of changing from a child to an adult, they haven't the slightest idea what it actually means to be an adult... and no matter how much he thinks he hates your guts, he's probably going to see you as a role model while he tries to figure it out, so you should be mindful to what kind of example you set for him. If you consistently behave in a more mature manner, even when he's being a horrid little brat, he should catch on eventually. On the other hand, if you're mean to him (like when you pulled that prank), he's almost certainly going to continue being an insufferable little bastard when you're around.

I will say, though... if your stepfather gets physical with you again... if it becomes a pattern and you feel unsafe that's a serious issue. You have a right to live in a home where you feel safe.

 

[TheSentinel]

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