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[teisjm]

Hmm, if you are actually thinking about dating this--by all intents older, sexy eighteen year old ADULT, and you inevitably plan on having teh secks with her, then you should ask yourself this one simple thing: Are you ready to get raped? Like, literally, and lawfully. It depends on your country's age of consent, which I'm assuming to be eighteen.'Cuz if you are an underage and she's not, that equals statutory r.a.p.e in the eyes of the law and those that lay down the law, my man.

I'm just teling you, get ready, because someone is gonna bring it up sooner or later.

Or maybe you just plan on holding hands, I dunno...

EDIT: It kind of surprises me nobody's brought it up.

How would having sex with a girl he likes, and descripes as not hot but OMGWTFBBQ-HOT qualify as rape? i don't think she's gonna like take him by force.
Also sexual age is different in different countries, in Denmark 15 years is the legal limit.

Oh and one more thing, just came to think of it, she might actually take it as an offence if you tell her how to dress, and to hide her piercings. I know i get pissed when my girlfriend want's me to wear something different because she finds my clothing inapropriate for family stuff or when we're hitting a bar/club.

So i think it'll be best to make your parrents accept her, or just accept the fact that you like her, and that there's nothing they can or should do to change that

 

[zauxz]

Why the hell do you want your parents to know?

 

[GBlair88]

She only asked you out a few days ago! Give it time before telling your parents because there is a good chance you'll break up before your parents meet her.

 

[Symp4thy]

im not really looking for a "relationship" with this girl, so i gezz il jst keep it on the dl,iv got an older brother and iv seen my parents in similar situations.

The idea of a girlfriend with a car and a tattoo nearly makes me drool

Now that THAT is clarified....

Did she actually ask you out to be your girlfriend or does she just want to hang out?

EDIT: It doesn't really matter what you do. Either way, I promise this "relationship" won't last long. You are so worried about what mommy and daddy think and she's a girl with face metal and tattoos, not exactly a match made in heaven.

 

[Ago Iterum]

The dad will always back you up. He knows how it is

 

[Galletea]

Depends on how old you are, generally speaking you'd wait a while and tell your parents about her but do it a few little details at a time, you going out with an older girl will be far less shocking than a girl with an older guy. Leave the piercings and tattoos issue for a little while. They should be more accepting if you broach the issue after you've been with her a while.

 

[fulano]

Hmm, if you are actually thinking about dating this--by all intents older, sexy eighteen year old ADULT, and you inevitably plan on having teh secks with her, then you should ask yourself this one simple thing: Are you ready to get raped? Like, literally, and lawfully. It depends on your country's age of consent, which I'm assuming to be eighteen.'Cuz if you are an underage and she's not, that equals statutory r.a.p.e in the eyes of the law and those that lay down the law, my man.

I'm just teling you, get ready, because someone is gonna bring it up sooner or later.

Or maybe you just plan on holding hands, I dunno...

EDIT: It kind of surprises me nobody's brought it up.

How would having sex with a girl he likes, and descripes as not hot but OMGWTFBBQ-HOT qualify as rape? i don't think she's gonna like take him by force.
Also sexual age is different in different countries, in Denmark 15 years is the legal limit.

Oh and one more thing, just came to think of it, she might actually take it as an offence if you tell her how to dress, and to hide her piercings. I know i get pissed when my girlfriend want's me to wear something different because she finds my clothing inapropriate for family stuff or when we're hitting a bar/club.

So i think it'll be best to make your parrents accept her, or just accept the fact that you like her, and that there's nothing they can or should do to change that

Well, he did never specify where he was from, and the norm in many places for the age of consent is 18 years old. If he did say where he was from I didn't catch it.

Whether he gives his consent or not ammounts, to absolutely squat in this matter because, sadly, it is a matter of dates and not maturity. If she's a legal adult and he's not, that is statutory rape and there's no way around it. Affection and all the pretty things have no bearing on this.

Of course, someone would have to be a very, very shitty individual to point it out and take legal means, of course. But I guess it's always good to know what you're getting into.

 

[Captain Picard]

The following is something I think you should ask yourself.

Are STDs worth a short-lived relationship with a tattooed, wanted-by-the-law, illegal drug user?

Because chances are this girl has also been around the block a few times already, considering her laundry-list of statistically risky behaviors, paired with her good looks.

 

[ElderScribe]

I've been through a slightly similar experience except my parents were divorced so i guess it made it a bit easier, here's my story:

When i was a Junior in high school i started dating an older woman of African-American heritage, my father who thankfully was extremely tolerant of the decisions i made in my life had no problems with it, so with him everything was pretty smooth...my mother on the other hand was a different matter.

My mother is what i call a 'closet-racist" in that she would never be bold enough to say it to one's face, but behind the back and it's on...i knew this going in and it made it uncomfortable to say the least, so i took the only choice i had...i sat her down ahead of time and came at her like an adult.

She was belligerent and fought me tooth and nail about how it wouldn't work out and so on, you know how it is...and i sat there patiently never giving up ground while displaying more maturity and tact than she did, eventually she just gave up.

While it wasn't the type of situation i would've wanted, it worked out in the end.

This is what i suggest, sit down with your parents in a cool, calm manner...be patient and tactful, defend your argument but don't resort to yelling or going overboard in your stance and tell them the truth, let them know that she may not be what they consider to be the ideal girlfriend for you, but she is what -you- want and she makes you happy.

With reasonable, intelligent people a calm approach with a well thought out argument may not necessarly win out in the end, but they tend to see your standpoint in a better light.

Sorry for the long post, good luck and i hope this helps.

 

[Baby Tea]

Thanks but i dont feel like telling my parents shes a potheaded irish badass with an outstanding warrant in the tri-state area lol

Wow she sounds like a real...winner. Also:

The following is something I think you should ask yourself.

Are STDs worth a short-lived relationship with a tattooed, wanted-by-the-law, illegal drug user?

Because chances are this girl has also been around the block a few times already, considering her laundry-list of statistically risky behaviors, paired with her good looks.

That is a really really...smart thing to say.
It's not guaranteed, sure, but I'd say the odds are leaning heavily towards it hurting when you piss.

 

[Beffudled Sheep]

Thanks but i dont feel like telling my parents shes a potheaded irish badass with an outstanding warrant in the tri-state area lol[/quote]

Huh, that sounds a lot like my sister... does she have any hulking goliaths for a brother?

 

[Pimppeter2]

its not like your getting married, just tell them your going out with a girl,, dont even mention the word girlfriend

 

[Simalacrum]

my parents never have a problem with me going out with someone (heck they even found out about me going out with a girl before i told them... that freaked me out lol)

buuuut my gf (now ex-gf/bestest friend )'s parents were veery anti-bf kinda parents, so she never told them.... maybe you could take the same approach?

 

[teisjm]

The following is something I think you should ask yourself.

Are STDs worth a short-lived relationship with a tattooed, wanted-by-the-law, illegal drug user?

Because chances are this girl has also been around the block a few times already, considering her laundry-list of statistically risky behaviors, paired with her good looks.

Ever heard of condoms?
and tbh, unless we're talking HIV i'd be more concerned with babies than STD's which the doc can take care of

 

[Sparrow]

Fuck your parents.

Maybe that sounds harsh, but I've never told my parents of any of my girlfriends.

And don't be ashamed of your girl mate. If your parents don't like em', tell them to get stuffed.

 

[Ryuzix]

If your dad wants you to man up, then tell him first and he will be proud, then when your mom comes to ***** you've got reinforcements. Unless your mom "bribes" your dad.

 

[Simriel]

Hmm, if you are actually thinking about dating this--by all intents older, sexy eighteen year old ADULT, and you inevitably plan on having teh secks with her, then you should ask yourself this one simple thing: Are you ready to get raped? Like, literally, and lawfully. It depends on your country's age of consent, which I'm assuming to be eighteen.'Cuz if you are an underage and she's not, that equals statutory r.a.p.e in the eyes of the law and those that lay down the law, my man.

I'm just teling you, get ready, because someone is gonna bring it up sooner or later.

Or maybe you just plan on holding hands, I dunno...

EDIT: It kind of surprises me nobody's brought it up.

How would having sex with a girl he likes, and descripes as not hot but OMGWTFBBQ-HOT qualify as rape? i don't think she's gonna like take him by force.
Also sexual age is different in different countries, in Denmark 15 years is the legal limit.

Oh and one more thing, just came to think of it, she might actually take it as an offence if you tell her how to dress, and to hide her piercings. I know i get pissed when my girlfriend want's me to wear something different because she finds my clothing inapropriate for family stuff or when we're hitting a bar/club.

So i think it'll be best to make your parrents accept her, or just accept the fact that you like her, and that there's nothing they can or should do to change that

Well, he did never specify where he was from, and the norm in many places for the age of consent is 18 years old. If he did say where he was from I didn't catch it.

Whether he gives his consent or not ammounts, to absolutely squat in this matter because, sadly, it is a matter of dates and not maturity. If she's a legal adult and he's not, that is statutory rape and there's no way around it. Affection and all the pretty things have no bearing on this.

Of course, someone would have to be a very, very shitty individual to point it out and take legal means, of course. But I guess it's always good to know what you're getting into.

Actually 18 is only the norm in america. Europe has it between 15 and 17 in most countries.

 

[TheKreeperAndMe]

i actually forgot about this fourm post for about 2 weeks now, since then iv hooked up wid this girl (geeky arm pump) and were jst friends now.....although this itch just wont quit...haha jk

 

[Pumpkin_Eater]

Just ask her to remove the piercings and wear a shirt that covers that tattoo when you first introduce her to them. If they already know her to some degree then things like that will be easier to accept.