I need my best friend to realize his girlfriend is worthless

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myogaman

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But how do I do it without destroying our friendship?

She's a strange one, too. Annoyingly strange, constantly trying to push the boundaries of my mental and social bubbles. I can only handle so many pokes in the gut and so many stupid comments before I lose it. She's not even cute or I could at least hope she'd change. The only good news is that she lives in Oregon while we live Idaho.

So let me do a profile of her.

Physically she reminds me a of skinny troll with long arms, pale skin, swollen eyes, thin lips, a square head, and bad teeth. The whole 3 weeks she stayed with us, I did not see a toothbrush, only her rotting teeth as she smiled up at my best bud. Her breasts are like apples in a sock, hanging just above where the ribcage stops. Moles and spots speckle her head and arms. She wears the strangest clothing, trying to blend 1950's with frills and laced up gloves.

She likes anime and manga to the point of insane dementia. Thankfully she hasn't even tried to learn Japanese but that's just one pin prick of light. She's obsessed with Final Fantasy VII. She'll turn on the OST and complain if we don't listen to it. She does have some decent taste in music but its just the annoying way she shows her displeasure in me not wanting to hear the goddamn Midgar theme. She gives off this "Pssst" hiss whenever she doesn't like something and its worse that nails on a chalkboard because it comes up all the time. ALL THE TIME. "Nick, you want to watch 300?" No I'm gonna do homework. "Psssst." Hey, Miranda, could you pick some of your stuff off the couch? "Pssst." I swear to god, it wouldn't be so bad if my friend hadn't started doing it as well.

Mentally, she's stuck in that phase of life where you don't understand money doesn't grow on trees and owning a car is more important than owning a PS3. Instead of getting a real job she tries to draw "commishies" on deviantart. And when she does get money, she blows it on the stupidest shit ever. $50 on Gaia Online? Seriously? Why don't you help pay for the gas it takes to pick your ass up. I'm just waiting for life to hit her in the face but it's never going to happen, my friend will always take the hit so she can do nothing.

She stayed with us for 3 weeks and she never did any dishes, never picked anything up, left my books and my shit on the ground to get stepped on and kicked around. All she did was cook mediocre meals and leave the mess for my friend to clean up. The reason why I didn't help is because I thought he'd crack down on her or something. I thought maybe he'd finally say, "Miranda, clean up stove." But instead he's silently wipe the grease away while she watched TV.

I know this is going to sound like a hate thread but I needed to give you guys some back history on what I'm seeing and going through. My friend is a great guy and he works his balls off so he can go to school, so why should she get a free ride? Why should she sit at home and do nothing when my friend and I are pounding hours away at work and school only to come back and clean her mess.

I thought leaving them alone would let him realize what a shit deal he's getting but I think he's too blinded by the thought of tearing up his V card to care. So how do I bring up my concerns without tearing our friendship apart? Is there a way to make him realize how worthless she is without me screaming it?

EDIT: No they aren't screwing yet. "How does he know?" I'm in the next room, I'd know.

EDIT2: We share an apartment which is why I'm in the next room. Splittin' rent, which, if she does move in, she is totally going to pay a 1/3rd of (probably the only bright side of her being here forever.) And we already talked about it, so yes she's going to have to get a job as well. Too bad she'd rather have a PS3 than a fucking car.
 

Skorpyo

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/Epicrant.

OT: There is no way to do this without ruining either your friendship, or someone's outlook on life.

I recommend you let the relationship go the course. If things truly are as bad as you say, he'll realize. Probably sooner rather than later, too.

Though, truth be told, I'm not BonsaiK. HE is the one you should be asking.
 

Tspoon

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1. Go to Oregon
2. Kill Lady
3. Tell him that somebody killed her
4. ???
5. Profit.
 

Gxas

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Its not your call. If he is happy with her, then you should get over it. It's his choice to stay with her, not yours. If she is worthless, then he is choosing to waste this time he is spending being with her.
 

sketch_zeppelin

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If you haven't mentioned any of this to him then go ahead and do it. Don't be an ass about it though. Just tell him you think she's lazy and weird and he could do better as calmly and politly as you can. He likely won't listen to reason and you have to respect that. Its his life. But at the very least the thought will be planted in his head and mabey he'll start to pick up on the things your seeing...mabey not.
 

ForensicYOYO

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I was interested in your thread when I saw the title but you wrote so much I lost interest. Im just lazy like that. OT. anyway I would suggest telling him anyway and if he doesn't like what you have to say when your being honest then there is nothing you can do. I had to do the same thing. I told my friend, friend didn't like it, didn't talk to me for months, called me bach later and said I was right. Just do what you feel is right.
 

Kushin

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Dude... I'm gonna come right out here and say this. I was in the same position as your friend, in a relationship with a girl who was just as annoying as possibly the same level of looks, but I didnt care at the time (hindsight is a miraculous thing no?). The fact of the matter is, if you try to break them up, he will get pissed and will probably never fully forgive you for it.

If you pull a man-card out of your ass, put up with it for long enough, and pray to whoever is up there and merciful, that he'll dump her ass soon enough. I understand how annoyed you must feel (a friend of mine is now in a similar relationship, with her basically living with him and his folks, his parents doing all her cooking and cleaning etc but they're happy so meh) but it's just life, and its full of bitches and awesomesauce.

Slightly off topic: I recently came to Uni and got with a mature student and it's true, women (and men too, but in this case women) do grow out of that sort of phase in about 10 years. So... just wait for a while if you want to avoid them m'kay?
 

zen5887

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I'm gonna jump on the "She is not worthless to him. She touches his penis..." boat.

But yeah, she sounds like a biiitch, unfortunately I'm not sure what you can do without making your friend angry (after all, she touches his penis).

Although I absolutely loved reading your post. Thank OP!
 

Lullabye

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Tankichi said:
OT: Good Luck. Trying to convince someone the girl they like is bad is like trying to pull a cold grilled cheese sandwich apart without wrecking the bread.
Now see, this is one of those things that bothers the shit out of me till I try it. It seems like such a simple reference, bt I've never even thought about it till now.


OT: I was a ll set and ready to say "Have sex with her then tell him", but then I read teh first line of the post and was like "Well shit....."
 

Saltyk

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Tell your friend your feelings. He may not listen, but down the line he will probably end up telling you how right you were and how much he wishes he had listened to you. Trust me. I've had similar situations with friends more times than I can count. At least, that way you end up being the voice of reason when he starts regretting his decision to break up with her.

Just remember, that you can't live his life. It's his choice. So you just have to live with his decision.
 

thedeathscythe

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Grilled Cheesus said:
She is not worthless to him. She touches his penis... Thats worth like at least $50 a hour.

*cough* Sorry...

Dude, if she lives so far away that you only have to see the ***** for a couple days once in a blue moon then whats the issue? Sure shes annoying but she touches your friends penis which clearly makes him happy enough to deal with her so who cares.
Would you want him ripping apart every aspect of whatever skank you drag home?

Were I him I would be more concerned with my judgmental friends who do not even have the guts to talk to me about such issues so bad mouth my missus online.
No need to say sorry, that's probably what he sees in her.

It'll pass for her I bet, though. Or even for him. Just put up with her while you can, you don't want to be the friend that say's "Told ya so" when he's all broken up about her.
 

Kpt._Rob

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Relationships always look different from the inside than they do from the outside, and people on the inside absolutely hate it when people on the outside try to manipulate the relationship. If you want to make sure you're still friends tomorrow, just deal with it, try to see her through his eyes.