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MonkeyspiderB

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Ok, so there's this girl I know at my school who I have a crush on but unfortunately have not talked to her that much and due to an event I'm not sure if she even remembers me anymore. What happened was that last school year about halfway through I simply disappeared with no one as far as I know knowing were I went, needless to say what happened wasn't pleasant and I would rather avoid explaining it. Right now the only person outside my family that know about it is my best friend, who is the only friend I ever see outside of school and actually goes to a different school than I do.

Anyway, I happened to remember that this girl had a Myspace page which I looked up and found. although it's set to private.

To make this whole thing even harder I'm not exactly the most attractive guy around, nor am I good in social situations(if you can tell by the number of friends I have). Since school's out and I was away the entire last half of the year I haven't seen her in person recently and might not get the chance to until next school year, that said she only lives a mile down the road from me(I think), and this is out in the country.

One thing that can be good or bad is that I've never seen or heard of her having a boyfriend or girlfriend, although a sentence on her myspace says another girl loves her very much I'm going to guess thats more like girls calling each other girlfriend in a non-romantic way. As of last year I heard her say the "farthest she's went" if kissing which isn't at all surprising as she doesn't act anything like the "school bicycle, everyone get a ride" kind of girl.

And although strangely considering where I'm posting this I don't smoke drink or do any kind of drugs. I'm pretty sure she doesn't either. That makes both of us a rarity at our school.

One odd thing that happened is that while traversing the bowels of the internet I found a picture of a girl that looks just like the one I'm talking about, I even did a facial comparison with a picture from her myspace. The picture wouldn't be odd or something I would care about if it wasn't for the website stamped in the lower corner of it. The website be Jailbaitgallery.com, the name should give the sites nature away. The site itself is not illegal as there are no nude pics or anything. The picture has just struck me as an odd coincidence.

To finish this off, on the small, slim to none chance you see this, (insert name) of Beggs, Oklahoma, know that someone has a crush on you.

Edit: forgot to inclue that this is a repost of something I originally posted on 420chans /qq/ board, with no luck at getting good responses. I removed the actual name, If you think it's you just PM me.
 

Cpt_Oblivious

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Dude just grow a pair and fucking talk to her. Everyone else has to, I struggled to do it once but when I did we soon became friends.

From the sounds of it you have no idea what she's like as a person and have just been stalking her online for a bit. Claiming to be "not the most attractive guy" never stopped anyone, what you need is confidence, not cockiness, but real confidence.

And you can play the lengthy absence in your favour by making a somewhat fresh start. Start hanging around with more people at school, see if they (and more importantly: she) want to hang out in the school holidays. Baby steps.

As for the whole jailbait browsing thing: That's kinda creepy. And not really something you want Insert Name of Beggs Oklahoma to find out about. That said, unless you know she's a gamer, she probably won't be on here.
 

Ekit

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What kind of help are you looking for? Do you want advice on how to contact her? Are you hoping that your crush has an escapist account and that she reads this and knows who you are?
 

BonsaiK

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MonkeyspiderB said:
Ok, so...
Welcome to The Escapist.

You've forgotten to include a question. Please tell me what your question is and I'll do my best, in this thread: http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=1
 

yoyo13rom

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MonkeyspiderB said:
Sorry for double posting and bumping, but I'm hoping someone will respond.
I'll quote this 'cause it's shorter.
1. Welcome to The Escapist
Cpt_Oblivious said:
(I though you were supposed to be the "Welcome guy")
2. OT: If you can get hold of her phone number(or physically contact her), ask her out. Best case scenario, she'll befriend you, worst case, she'll ignore you and you won't lose nothing.
3. Here's my "doctor's" card http://www.escapistmagazine.com/profiles/view/BonsaiK. He's the "relationship advice guy" around here, and usually he comes with much better advice than I do.
4. I recommend you take your time and explore the video section of the site, then read the guidelines of the forum and come be a member here(we've got cookies).

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BonsaiK said:
MonkeyspiderB said:
Ok, so...
Welcome to The Escapist.

You've forgotten to include a question. Please tell me what your question is and I'll do my best, in this thread: http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=1
Darn my slow writing!
 

Nibsy

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Sigh, this kinda makes you come off as a bit of a creepy stalker type character, but anyway.

If you want to contact her but lack the confidence to approach her, you said she has a Myspace account, try friending her and talking to her, to see if she's actually worth it, then if you still feel the same, organise a friendly get together to get to know each other in person better.
If not, just suck it up and talk to her, the worst she's going to say is 'go away', and if she says that you know she was a waste of time anyway.
I'm not the best looking guy either but I still have a lot of female friends, 'cause I talk to them, it's not that hard, they don't bite (mostly).
Seriously dude, you're overthinking it, don't think too much, just do it.
 

Tarranium

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I had the same problem exept that I didnt disappear I had a crush on her all the way the 1st grade and on 9nth grade I actully told her about my feeling and that is really hard since I have a panic order and even thou we talked like once a week like we sayd hello to each other when I told her about my feelings we started dating and it was the happiest time of my life but her family had to move to the other side of the country in the end of the summer but hope this helps.
BTW IF you could some how to get to read your post mabey she understands
 

EeveeElectro

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Pretty much what Miek said.
Asking an internet forum won't score you any brownie points, and we already have a thread for relationship problems.
Talk to her, you have nothing to lose.
 

Cpt_Oblivious

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yoyo13rom said:
1. Welcome to The Escapist
Cpt_Oblivious said:
(I though you were supposed to be the "Welcome guy")
Oh shit!

Hey! OP! Look at this!
Welcome to the Escapist! I hope you enjoy your stay with us. Please ignore the body under the stairs and Doug, the troll outside.
There are some things you may want to look [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/9.116827] at [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.112832] before you continue to post. Have fun!

 

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Besides the confidence, she needs to find you decent looking, dress nice(clean clothing and shoes and not too old), cut/comb your hair, (if you're overweight lose weight), use cologne (something fresh), have good hygene (shower regulary, brush theets, use deodorant) etc.
 

MonkeyspiderB

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Cpt_Oblivious said:
As for the whole jailbait browsing thing: That's kinda creepy. And not really something you want Insert Name of Beggs Oklahoma to find out about. That said, unless you know she's a gamer, she probably won't be on here.
Trust me, I didn't find the pic intentionally or on that site. If I remember right the place I first found it was funny junk, a site that has funny picture, but alot of the time people somehow confuse "funny" and "hot chick in bikini". The only reason I know the source is that they had the site stamped on the thing... in bright pink no less.

Also any other information I said I had I got from like 10 minutes of google one afternoon while bored and investigating the pic out of curiosity. I'm seriously hoping it's a coincidence and not a creepy uncle or some shit like that.

I have talked to her a little at school. Since it's a small school it's hard not to know most people.
 

BonsaiK

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Still waiting for you to give us a question to answer, MonkeyspiderB.
 

MonkeyspiderB

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BonsaiK said:
Still waiting for you to give us a question to answer, MonkeyspiderB.
Sorry I guess I accidentally removed it when I edited the original post. What I'm asking I how would I be able to increase the chance she would go out with me.
 

BonsaiK

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MonkeyspiderB said:
BonsaiK said:
Still waiting for you to give us a question to answer, MonkeyspiderB.
Sorry I guess I accidentally removed it when I edited the original post. What I'm asking I how would I be able to increase the chance she would go out with me.
Okay, thanks, now I have something I can work with. Answered in the Relationship Problem thread, at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=36#6466273
 

Sir Bob

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1) Buy knife
2) Find out which end of the is sharp
3) Turn the sharp end towards self
4) Plunge knife in eyesocket
5) Get a date
 

JIst00

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There is no way of "improving" the chance she will go out with u, tbh its a case of she either will or wont. I mean if she knows who u are (i know u said she may not remember u, but seriously, 6months aint that long, and if she's forgot she's got a s**t memory!) and what ur like as a person then she's got something to base a decision on. But if she doesnt know u like her then u need to get that across somehow, either straight up or hints or whatever u decide suits u best.

As for contacting her, all I can really suggest is bumping into her. If u know what hobbies she's into, for instance if shes into music and buys lots of cd's, then see if u catch her at the local record shop or something. If u got her myspace page, u could just message her and say hi or something, see how that plays out.