I need some help from the girls!

[PurpleLeafRave]

I'm male (you probably guessed) and I need some help from the girls on the escapist, cause they will probably understand the situation more.
Basically, my girlfriends parents are talking about splitting up, and shes devastated. She doesn't want to leave the house to see anybody, and she's not replying to texts or emails.
I feel like it's my duty to cheer her up, but nothing seems to work. I've sent her a present (a necklace), and a note saying how much i miss her and how important she is to me, and wrote some stuff in the note that usably makes her laugh and we joke about.
But shes still just blocking the rest of the world in her room.
What do you reckon I should do? Should I give her some space? Or what would you recommend?
Thanks to anyone who helps.

 

[Nivag the Owl]

I know I'm a man etc. but here's what I think anyway...

Seems a bit needy. If she's not in touch then she probably doesn't want to be for a little while. If I was in your position, I'd wait for her to get back to me.

 

[Tehpwnsauce]

I'd recommend that you don't ask for girls on the internet, there are none. Also just go round and talk to her in person.

 

[PurpleLeafRave]

I'd recommend that you don't ask for girls on the internet, there are none. Also just go round and talk to her in person.

Trust me, I've tried to. She said she was ill.

 

[PurpleLeafRave]

I know I'm a man etc. but here's what I think anyway...

Seems a bit needy. If she's not in touch then she probably doesn't want to be for a little while. If I was in your position, I'd wait for her to get back to me.

Yeah, that's what I thought. Thanks.

 

[New Troll]

She thinks no one, especialy you, knows how she feels right now. And she's right. Just let her know you'll be there for her, but don't push anything. She wants some space to help think things out, without distraction. Just make sure you're there when she decides she does need some distraction from her situation. And DON'T tell her you understand what she's going through! (Even if you do.)

 

[Tehpwnsauce]

I'd recommend that you don't ask for girls on the internet, there are none. Also just go round and talk to her in person.

Trust me, I've tried to. She said she was ill.

Try harder then.

 

[Cowabungaa]

I'm a male, but I say:
Just make it very very clear to her that if she needs any help, that she doesn't have to hestitate to give you a call. Make it clear that you are there for her. If she wants to talk, listen carefully, if she wants to cry, lend her your shoulder. And if she needs space, give her just that.

 

[vamp rocks]

in situations of parents breaking up or loved ones crying the people generally dont want to be cheered up.. they just need someone to hug and a shoulder to cry on....

all im saying is, be there for her... but if you constantly are at her saying "c'mon!! cheer up!!!" ur gonna annoy her really fast

 

[ZSF]

She thinks no one, especialy you, knows how she feels right now. And she's right. Just let her know you'll be there for her, but don't push anything. She wants some space to help think things out, without distraction. Just make sure you're there when she decides she does need some distraction from her situation. And DON'T tell her you understand what she's going through! (Even if you do.)

THIS!

However, I would add that you should weigh your alternatives.

 

[PurpleLeafRave]

I'm a male, but I say:
Just make it very very clear to her that if she needs any help, that she doesn't have to hestitate to give you a call. Make it clear that you are there for her. If she wants to talk, listen carefully, if she wants to cry, lend her your shoulder. And if she needs space, give her just that.

Well, I wrote in my note that she can come round mine any time she wants and Ill be here for her, does that count?

 

[Blackadder51]

Try harder then.

Such a help you are...If you have nothing constructive to say, then dont say anything.

OT: I would just give her some space and let her cool down, dont be pushy it could end up worse.

 

[Killerbunny001]

She thinks no one, especialy you, knows how she feels right now. And she's right. Just let her know you'll be there for her, but don't push anything. She wants some space to help think things out, without distraction. Just make sure you're there when she decides she does need some distraction from her situation. And DON'T tell her you understand what she's going through! (Even if you do.)

THIS!

However, I would add that you should weigh your alternatives.

Either that or you can pop up by her house with some weed.

 

[PurpleLeafRave]

Try harder then.

Such a help you are...If you have nothing constructive to say, then dont say anything.

OT: I would just give her some space and let her cool down, dont be pushy it could end up worse.

The thing is, how am i supposed to know when she's cooled down?

 

[Labyrinth]

I'd recommend that you don't ask for girls on the internet, there are none. Also just go round and talk to her in person.

Hiiii! Lyke Ohmahgawd I cannot believe that he'd suggest that? I mean really. Tsk. Some people.

This is not a Boys' Club.

On topic, it depends on your girlfriend really. I recommend going over and giving her a cuddle or whatever you would do if she were upset in another situation. As Newtroll said, she probably could use some time before you take that step. You need to make your own judgement because we don't know her.

 

[Blackadder51]

The thing is, how am i supposed to know when she's cooled down?

I dont really now mate

Um...when she starts talking back more whether through text, email or phone

Im only guessing here, but when she does cool down you would now straight away as she should have a noticeable change in behavior

 

[Puzzles]

I'm a dude.

When my parents said they were getting divorced I was at first devestated. After a few years I realised that it was much better this way, and they were both much happier afterwards. I have spent much more quality time with both of them since they split up. It makes you appreciate them more when you bounce around from house to house/.

 

[Cowabungaa]

Well, I wrote in my note that she can come round mine any time she wants and Ill be here for her, does that count?

Yeah I think it does, maybe you should make it clear one more time, and try to write it down as beautifull as possible. It's important to not flood her with such messages though, that makes you look pushy.

 

[The Infamous Scamola]

I'd recommend that you don't ask for girls on the internet, there are none. Also just go round and talk to her in person.

Hiiii! Lyke Ohmahgawd I cannot believe that he'd suggest that? I mean really. Tsk. Some people.

This is not a Boys' Club.

Ok... what?!

I recommend leaving her alone for a while, let her figure out this stuff for herself. When she'll feel like she's gotten over it, then you can continue with the relationship.

Don't force it, this is a road she must walk alone.