I need some opinions, do I have a serious problem? My parents are getting a little worried.

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Internet Kraken

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BonsaiK said:
Internet Kraken said:
Don't ask random people on the internet. Ask a psychologist. That is my advice to you.
Psychologists charge you up the ass though, and they're not all worth the money. In any event the OP's problems are hardly ones which a psychologist is needed to diagnose. I bet most people reading this have probably felt the same at one point or another in their lives.
It's a problem that he and his family are deeply concerned about. I think that's definitely worth seeing a psychologist over.
 

ParadoxBG

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Would just like to clarify that I and probably everyone whose response was 'see a shrink' aren't unsympathetic. Just unqualified to really help. :)

Although I can tell you you didn't need to apologize so much in your first post. Everyone who's read this did so voluntarily, and if they for some reason got depressed by it, I feel we can all accept responsibility for it and not blame you. Don't worry so much about our opinions :D
 

Lavi

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If you want to change it, it will if you fucking DO something. Anything! Gawds. If you don't then you never wanted change in the first place.
 

Icecoldcynic

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The only way you're going to get over it is with professional help. And seemingly joining these forums just to post it doesn't seem very logical. If you were going to post it anywhere, a forum based around depression or social issues would be a better choice.
 

pizzapicante27

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Why dont you try joining an activity in your university Im tend to swim on the uni (Im 18 by the way) and maybe in that kind of environment you can open a little bit more get drunk and meet more people. Just saying.

Other thing people are idiots they bother you cause their life is miserable and they have to have a someone to let off of it, my advice GET USED or BREAK THEIR JAWS, one of the 2 always works (nothing works on a bully like taking off the skin of teir cheeks (it was once with my nails by accident and he started dont judge) ant ways theyre you wanna change CHANGE you dont wanna dont, but dont ask random intenet people, just saying. cheers.
 

Solo Wing Pixy

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@ internet kraken, miki91, paradoxBG

mom and dad actually have put the idea of seeing an on campus counselor (at the psychology department) the actual psychologist I'm afraid is out of our price range we had a thrifty christmas.

So far I have to say I'm surprised you all are being more supportive than I thought.............thanks so much.
 

slabomeat

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Join some form of the military. You will meet lots of people their, and you will get more female attention. Plus, depending what country you live in, it may pay for college.
 

Tracer Bullet

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Maybe on of your first problems is that you say that you are a boy who just turned 23. And the whole cannot get a girl thing. Reaaaaallly do not think you should ask guys on the internet day after day for women advice. Ahahahahaha.... oh..... wait a tick
 
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If you want to change, go to a psychologist. If you are open with your parents, as you said than they should understand and be supportive.
Because if they are worried and you show you need help, they will do whatever they can to help.

sabotstarr said:
Agent_0042 said:
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One of the better sources of advice on the internet, I've found.
IGNORE THIS
it is a bad, bad place
Listen to this man.

I went there once...
Lets just say what has been seen cannot be unseen...

*shudders*
 

BonsaiK

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Internet Kraken said:
BonsaiK said:
Internet Kraken said:
Don't ask random people on the internet. Ask a psychologist. That is my advice to you.
Psychologists charge you up the ass though, and they're not all worth the money. In any event the OP's problems are hardly ones which a psychologist is needed to diagnose. I bet most people reading this have probably felt the same at one point or another in their lives.
It's a problem that he and his family are deeply concerned about. I think that's definitely worth seeing a psychologist over.
If you've got the money to blow I guess why not... nothing to lose, certainly. It's not an option for everyone though, some people just can't afford stuff like that.
 

brass munkey

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Internet Kraken said:
Don't ask random people on the internet. Ask a psychologist. That is my advice to you.
I agree and know how you are feeling man I am pretty much the same way.
 

MiracleOfSound

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Councelling helped me through a lot of similar things, friend.

I recommend it, it can help you get your mojo running by feeling a bit better about yourself.
 

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EspirituExterminatus said:
Fuck psychologists. Damn psychobabble ain't worth the time it would take to damn them.
For you, the answer is simple. You need to build your confidence right? Hire a hooker.
I know many people are going to think I am just being crude or making a dumbass joke but I am serious. First off as long as you have coin they will not dare insult you in any way, you will not have any worry of rejection or the stress of trying to court them. You can just do as you please. It is a great way to boost your self esteem.
True it is only a starting step but eh, at least it will work.
Is the some sort of poorly executed joke?
That is quite possibly the worst peice of advice I've ever seen/heard, I'm sure the stigma of prostitution would make someone with social anxiety feel worse. Also dont they cost more than psychs? never been to either so no experience to back that with. Harden the _ up is way better advice although I think paying someone to gradually fix you is more relliable. In the end it comes to just going and talking to people in reality, assuming you want friends, if you dont care for having company then nothing needs fixing, just be happy.
 

ChunkySaurus

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I went through the same experience in elementary and high school. I was very shy in university and had few friends. Pretty much the same boat you're in now. At some point I decided to leave my shell and take the chance on developing some new relationships. There were a few hiccups, but I made some real improvements to my social life. I still don't have a lot of friends, but I am getting married and couldn't be happier.

I think what you need to understand is that kids are incredibly cruel. However, at some point most kids grow up and start treating people with respect. You are just going to have to take the chance and meet some people. Take a martial arts class or join a sports team, something that puts a group of people into a casual team-oriented environment. Don't get discouraged if you're not BFF's with someone on day 1.

The bottom line is that this is your life, get it to a point where you are happy and forget what everyone else has to say.
 

Angerwing

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EspirituExterminatus said:
Fuck psychologists. Damn psychobabble ain't worth the time it would take to damn them.
For you, the answer is simple. You need to build your confidence right? Hire a hooker.
I know many people are going to think I am just being crude or making a dumbass joke but I am serious. First off as long as you have coin they will not dare insult you in any way, you will not have any worry of rejection or the stress of trying to court them. You can just do as you please. It is a great way to boost your self esteem.
True it is only a starting step but eh, at least it will work.
This is a bad idea.

You have no idea about psychology I take it. It's not psuedo-science. No-one does the old, Freudian, lay-down-on-a-leather-couch-and-talk-about-your-life anymore. Most psychologists I know work out strategies with people. Find the problem, then develop ways to fix the problem. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but it looks like you're getting your entire knowledge of psychology from TV sitcoms.