I need some opinions, do I have a serious problem? My parents are getting a little worried.
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DO IT *****! Seriously though the internet is a bad place to ask for advice. My best guess is that you're just anti-social and it's all good.
You should be telling all of this to your dad. I say this because typically guys who have this complex of yours usually seem to have no strong male influence in their lives; either the dad is missing or the mom totally coddled them and monopolized the entire parental relationship.
I could be way off base here, but your mom, god bless her, doesn't want you to have friends or meet anyone, because then she would lose you. You wouldn't be 'hers' anymore. The fact that you are the youngest tells me this is the case. It's not rational and she will never admit it but it is a shockingly common feeling. For years it has been the dad's duty to balance out this smothering urge but in today's ultra-pc world of the pussified male this important role has been forgotten.
I could be wrong, this is just my feeling, maybe your dad is your bestfriend and I am way off base. But if not, my advice to you is: ditch your mom, and hang out with your dad. Just the two of you. If you don't have a relationship with him, build one. You two should be able to go out and grab a beer together. You can work on your social skills and such later.
I could be way off base here, but your mom, god bless her, doesn't want you to have friends or meet anyone, because then she would lose you. You wouldn't be 'hers' anymore. The fact that you are the youngest tells me this is the case. It's not rational and she will never admit it but it is a shockingly common feeling. For years it has been the dad's duty to balance out this smothering urge but in today's ultra-pc world of the pussified male this important role has been forgotten.
I could be wrong, this is just my feeling, maybe your dad is your bestfriend and I am way off base. But if not, my advice to you is: ditch your mom, and hang out with your dad. Just the two of you. If you don't have a relationship with him, build one. You two should be able to go out and grab a beer together. You can work on your social skills and such later.
Force yourself into social situations, get a psychologists help, and try to formulate what would be a pleasant conversation before you start talking. A good way to force yourself into a social situation is to just greet someone etc. etc. after a couple months of practicing socializing, you'll be fine.
believe me mate it takes a long time but you can work yourself out of it
Me?
After leaving home I have been working out pretty much excessively, got myself seriously into shape for a while, found the guys who made my life hell in high school and college (only one of them even recognised me), proceeded to get into a pub fight with them, and win epically, found some of the girls who ripped on me when I was younger for being the fat nerdy kid, they didn't even realise who I was, in hindsight it probably wouldn't have gone so well if they did, remembering me as the fat kid may have put a damper on the occasion :S
either way, it is a great confidence boost, and that is what you need mate, buff yourself up, if you spend as much time as you do gaming it isn't too hard, work pushups, stretches and situps into your gaming time, mid match (if you are playing online) or during loading screens (if you are offline), with any luck you will pull yourself into good shape within 3 months, then you can show the world what you have got, and create a new character for yourself, settle things with the people back home (DONT forget the girls, no matter how much you may hate them, realising the fact that they are completely devoid of their own individual character and that you are better than them BY sleeping with them is a hell of a laugh!)
Then when you are done, move somewhere where you have never been before, set up shop doing whatever you intend to do with your life, even if it is dustbin man or other such civil servant, remake yourself and conquer your new town, hit the clubs and have a good time, there is nothing you can't do with a clean slate, good skills and a good body!
send us a message in half a year and tell us how your life has moved on.
If it helps, I would say to get ahold of the P90X workout scheme, I can't post the link because someone will try and chew me out for "selling" stuff here (I am not, I am just offering advice!)so if you google it instead I am sure you will find it, if not send me a message and I will send you the link to their main page directly.
Good luck!
Me?
After leaving home I have been working out pretty much excessively, got myself seriously into shape for a while, found the guys who made my life hell in high school and college (only one of them even recognised me), proceeded to get into a pub fight with them, and win epically, found some of the girls who ripped on me when I was younger for being the fat nerdy kid, they didn't even realise who I was, in hindsight it probably wouldn't have gone so well if they did, remembering me as the fat kid may have put a damper on the occasion :S
either way, it is a great confidence boost, and that is what you need mate, buff yourself up, if you spend as much time as you do gaming it isn't too hard, work pushups, stretches and situps into your gaming time, mid match (if you are playing online) or during loading screens (if you are offline), with any luck you will pull yourself into good shape within 3 months, then you can show the world what you have got, and create a new character for yourself, settle things with the people back home (DONT forget the girls, no matter how much you may hate them, realising the fact that they are completely devoid of their own individual character and that you are better than them BY sleeping with them is a hell of a laugh!)
Then when you are done, move somewhere where you have never been before, set up shop doing whatever you intend to do with your life, even if it is dustbin man or other such civil servant, remake yourself and conquer your new town, hit the clubs and have a good time, there is nothing you can't do with a clean slate, good skills and a good body!
send us a message in half a year and tell us how your life has moved on.
If it helps, I would say to get ahold of the P90X workout scheme, I can't post the link because someone will try and chew me out for "selling" stuff here (I am not, I am just offering advice!)so if you google it instead I am sure you will find it, if not send me a message and I will send you the link to their main page directly.
Good luck!
This sounds somewhat like me. Not entirely, but somewhat.Solo Wing Pixy said:
You don't have a problem, you've just had bad encounters in life.
It didn't seem like a bad idea at the time...I don't go to forums online much the only other one I visit is gamefaqs but I've never posted there.True Nero said:
Thank you for the welcome. I really have no experience with social situations at all really. I've been told that I'm introverted but at the same time they say that isn't a bad thing. I guess a better way to put it is during a party and the like I'd be so worried I'm going to do something dumb on top of the fact I'd feel completely out of place.chronobreak said:
Um, would now be a bad time to mention I don't drink? (I say that because people here have mentioned bars and what not)
Well that's your problem...Solo Wing Pixy said:
but ya, posting in this thread a lot...just please don't go with the hooker idea....just stupid.
also what college?
If you have a local comic shop or a gaming store thats popular go hang out there.If you like card gaming magic the gathering events are held at game and comic shops like every friday.This a great way to meet fellow gaming nerds.There is always a lot of talking and hanging around before and after.Wear a gaming or pop culture referance shirt and someone will talk to you in 2 mins. Even if you suck at card gaming or just don't like it the people are what you are there for.And of course go to a convention. Nothing makes you feel better about you than realizing that there are thousands like you, and some are waaaaay bigger nerds than yourself.