I saw my best friend naked

[Arnoxthe1]

Why's everyone trying to sexualize it? This kind of thing happens when you live in close quarters with people, nothing abnormal about it. Two people can see one another naked without being compelled to have frenzied sex. I've walked in on many a naked roommate, it's never been a big deal.

Except OP is the one who made it a big deal. Not us. So we're just going with the flow really. And I mean, c'mon now. There is at least a little bit of a suspicion of sexual attraction there (not saying there is) when she's blowing this supposedly small thing rather out of proportion.

As to being more open with nudity, I say no. The human body is a very beautiful thing and when one keeps exposing it to others, it really loses some of its beauty and allure and becomes just another thing. So no, I don't approve of it actually for reasons of if I ever seen the opposite sex naked, I want it to really mean something to me instead of just being bored by it.

 

[Just Ebola]

That statement should be taken with a huge grain of salt, that was my attempt at lightening the mood, a jest, you might say.

*cough* *cough* *COUGH* I'm sorry, I think you gave me a bad case of irony.

I can't speak for the other people you quoted, but I thought it was pretty obvious I was joking. I was betting on the OP being able to spot a joke and maybe not make such a big deal out of a pretty common occurrence.

That doesn't make me sex-crazed, thank you.

The difference here being that I wasn't making sex jokes about a topic that the OP was agonizing over, and expressed an inability to 'get over'. If she gets thrown into a tailspin over just seeing her friend naked, I don't see how immature sexual comments are going to do anything but make her feel worse about the whole thing. She made this thread to get some perspective and maybe not feel so awkward about the whole thing. Not to hear "lol, you two should've fucked." (An example, of course, not a direct quote from anyone, you get the point.)

I think what makes it so distasteful is the fact the she made it extremely clear that she has platonic, even sibling-like feeling towards her friend and some people can't help but jump to sexualize it. The point isn't that nobody can tell you're joking, but that maybe this isn't the best place?

I'm not accusing anyone of being sex-crazed, just a bit inconsiderate.

 

[ecoho]

I understand how you feel but believe it or not the best way for it not to feel awkward is to make it into an every day thing. I spent 6 years in the army and there is no such thing as privacy when you share a barracks so the first month or so its kind of uncomfortable but after that you just get used to it as I becomes routine and forgettable.

 

[Just Ebola]

Why's everyone trying to sexualize it? This kind of thing happens when you live in close quarters with people, nothing abnormal about it. Two people can see one another naked without being compelled to have frenzied sex. I've walked in on many a naked roommate, it's never been a big deal.

Except OP is the one who made it a big deal. Not us. So we're just going with the flow really. And I mean, c'mon now. There is at least a little bit of a suspicion of sexual attraction there (not saying there is) when she's blowing this supposedly small thing rather out of proportion.

As to being more open with nudity, I say no. The human body is a very beautiful thing and when one keeps exposing it to others, it really loses some of its beauty and allure and becomes just another thing. So no, I don't approve of it actually for reasons of if I ever seen the opposite sex naked, I want it to really mean something to me instead of just being bored by it.

Shouldn't the fact that it's a big deal to her be a good reason not alienate her about it? Not saying you did, of course, just kind of surprises me how many people are trying to turn a thread about a distressed woman into an X-rated novel. As far as sexual attraction, that's not the impression I got at all, quite the opposite actually, she's made it abundantly clear that she see's her friend as more of a sister than anything.

Some people are more open to nudity than others, some people are more closed. I get how some people see a naked body as a beautiful thing, if you're one of those people, that's great. It just seems the OP isn't. Personally I think nudity is mundane. I've seen enough from both genders, and I consider it to be nothing special.

And that's all good, people are different, yo.

 

[kasperbbs]

Mmm.. I don't really get what the big issue here is. Maybe because i'm male and i probably have seen at least half of my coworkers naked in the showers (theres hundreds of them..) and some of my friends both male and female in the sauna or what it's called in English..

You probably shouldn't bring it up anymore if you want to forget that incident and go back to the way things wore.

Captcha: carry a towel ,that works too i guess..

 

[freaper]

That statement should be taken with a huge grain of salt, that was my attempt at lightening the mood, a jest, you might say.

*cough* *cough* *COUGH* I'm sorry, I think you gave me a bad case of irony.

I can't speak for the other people you quoted, but I thought it was pretty obvious I was joking. I was betting on the OP being able to spot a joke and maybe not make such a big deal out of a pretty common occurrence.

That doesn't make me sex-crazed, thank you.

The difference here being that I wasn't making sex jokes about a topic that the OP was agonizing over, and expressed an inability to 'get over'. If she gets thrown into a tailspin over just seeing her friend naked, I don't see how immature sexual comments are going to do anything but make her feel worse about the whole thing. She made this thread to get some perspective and maybe not feel so awkward about the whole thing. Not to hear "lol, you two should've fucked." (An example, of course, not a direct quote from anyone, you get the point.)

I think what makes it so distasteful is the fact the she made it extremely clear that she has platonic, even sibling-like feeling towards her friend and some people can't help but jump to sexualize it. The point isn't that nobody can tell you're joking, but that maybe this isn't the best place?

I'm not accusing anyone of being sex-crazed, just a bit inconsiderate.

I don't know, if my platonic sister-friend was really attractive I would consider giving her a poke, and what better time to do so when she's changing? Just throw your shirt down and see what happens from there, eh?

 

[Arnoxthe1]

Why's everyone trying to sexualize it? This kind of thing happens when you live in close quarters with people, nothing abnormal about it. Two people can see one another naked without being compelled to have frenzied sex. I've walked in on many a naked roommate, it's never been a big deal.

Except OP is the one who made it a big deal. Not us. So we're just going with the flow really. And I mean, c'mon now. There is at least a little bit of a suspicion of sexual attraction there (not saying there is) when she's blowing this supposedly small thing rather out of proportion.

As to being more open with nudity, I say no. The human body is a very beautiful thing and when one keeps exposing it to others, it really loses some of its beauty and allure and becomes just another thing. So no, I don't approve of it actually for reasons of if I ever seen the opposite sex naked, I want it to really mean something to me instead of just being bored by it.

Shouldn't the fact that it's a big deal to her be a good reason not alienate her about it? Not saying you did, of course, just kind of surprises me how many people are trying to turn a thread about a distressed woman into an X-rated novel. As far as sexual attraction, that's not the impression I got at all, quite the opposite actually, she's made it abundantly clear that she see's her friend as more of a sister than anything.

*shrugs* Friendships can often turn into relationships too, you know. Some kinds of friendships more than others... In fact, it may be BECAUSE she has such a bond with her that she may just be even a little attracted to her.

Or not. I don't know. But it's still very much a possibility.

 

[Reasonable Atheist]

Just be grateful you did not walk in on her in the midst of self pleasure or making time with her mate, the more dangerous room-mate pitfall. I would not worry about this at all, unless maybe she has some sort of disfigurement she was trying to keep a secret like a big scaly tail.

 

[Just Ebola]

I don't know, if my platonic sister-friend was really attractive I would consider giving her a poke, and what better time to do so when she's changing? Just throw your shirt down and see what happens from there, eh?

That's nice? I don't recall wondering what you would do in such a situation, but you don't speak for everyone.

We're done here, mate.

*shrugs* Friendships can often turn into relationships too, you know. Some kinds of friendships more than others... In fact, it may be BECAUSE she has such a bond with her that she may just be even a little attracted to her.

Or not. I don't know. But it's still very much a possibility.

I understand that well, in fact I think that some of the best relationships begin as friendships. It just seems odd to me that so many people are trying to turn this into a sexual discussion when the OP likened her to a sibling and said their relationship is completely platonic. Why make that assumption when everything she's said points to the opposite?

Though at this point it really would be nice if the OP chimed in and put the whole thing to bed.

 

[Arnoxthe1]

I understand that well, in fact I think that some of the best relationships begin as friendships. It just seems odd to me that so many people are trying to turn this into a sexual discussion when the OP likened her to a sibling and said their relationship is completely platonic. Why make that assumption when everything she's said points to the opposite?

Because again, for a supposedly totally platonic relationship, she's making a rather big deal about some simple accidental nudity. As such, ones mind begins to stray toward questions of attraction. And some of us (like me) can be just big dumb males too.

Though at this point it really would be nice if the OP chimed in and put the whole thing to bed.

Indeed. The OP seems to have disappeared though...

 

[Demagogue]

Awww... the thread was a good read of funny oops stories, until someone came in with their thought police badge and ruined things.

Living with my sister for three years had a couple of those pop-up... usually in the form of the guy she was with at the time, lol.

OT: Like countless others have said... seeing people naked shouldn't really make you feel awkward, I get that it does, but if so I think you need to look at yourself as to why, because the situation was quite harmless. Addressing that, will address why you felt awkward seeing her naked. A couple people mentioned confidence in your own body, or orientation, or several other things that may give you a hint. Worst case, talk with your roommate, if nothing else she may be able to help you figure out why.



Seriously Captcha... Which one is math? I almost failed a captcha... oh god, I'm becoming robot! D:

 

[Username Redacted]

Awww... the thread was a good read of funny oops stories, until someone came in with their thought police badge and ruined things.

Yeah, but thankfully they seem to have given up. When I first saw this thread I couldn't figure out why OP was making a big deal out of this and having read the entire thread (i.e. similar experiences from others) I still can't see why this is an issue. It happens. Then again I'm someone who's more worried about his roommates pets seeing him naked than his roommates though this is mostly due to my roommates lacking in the pointy bits that could damage areas normally covered by clothing.

 

[Trunkage]

You've never been to the gym or a public indoor swimming pool/bathhouse together?
I thought people didn't much care about being naked with their own gender...

I used to work in a gym. Anecdotal evidence from member leads me to think that there is far more nudity in the female changerooms. But it could be that males are as worried about nudity

 

[Elementary - Dear Watson]

How on earth do you deal with public changing rooms... ? Loads of the same genitals as you floating about in them!

It sounds as if, to me, that you are making a deal about nothing. Bodies are bodies. She has the same bits as you... what's the problem?

 

[WouldYouKindly]

While I could very easily understand my female friends getting upset at me walking in on them naked, I can't see how I'd have some longstanding issue. I'd apologize, promise to them it was an accident, and offer to let them punch me in the stomach if I ever do it again. I'd say this entirely straight faced, probably without a hint of a blush.

I suppose I'm an unfair case. I used to deliver pizzas and the strippers quite liked our food. When you see naked women at least once a day for the better part of a year you kind of get numb to it.

 

[Just Ebola]

Awww... the thread was a good read of funny oops stories, until someone came in with their thought police badge and ruined things.

Somebody with a differing opinion is enough to ruin things for you? I don't know what your idea of thought-policing is, but I don't think this qualifies.

Awww... the thread was a good read of funny oops stories, until someone came in with their thought police badge and ruined things.

Yeah, but thankfully they seem to have given up. When I first saw this thread I couldn't figure out why OP was making a big deal out of this and having read the entire thread (i.e. similar experiences from others) I still can't see why this is an issue. It happens. Then again I'm someone who's more worried about his roommates pets seeing him naked than his roommates though this is mostly due to my roommates lacking in the pointy bits that could damage areas normally covered by clothing.

Is it so hard to fathom that somebody is uncomfortable with nudity, or at least seeing one of their friends naked? It's an issue because the OP has an issue with it. It's not a big deal when someone who's doesn't have arachnophobia see's a spider. So why think of this any differently.

Just because you don't 'get' something doesn't make it irrelevant. I've seen plenty of naked roommates and acquaintances and it hasn't bothered me. But not everyone is like that.