I think of you as a friend.

[Eggsnham]

this nearly happened today...but i chickened out. can anyone say regret.
ah well. no good would have come out of it anyway

It's probably a bit late to quote you and I may inadvertently necro this thread, but what the hell:

That's the kind of thinking that keeps you a hopeless loner. Trust me. I know.

Wasn't 'til about two years ago that I actually got the balls to ask a girl out, and it ultimately ended in failure, which I took a little harder than I should have, admittedly.

But I wasn't as uneasy about asking a different girl out, who said yes. Moral of the story?

Wimping out last minute doesn't get you laid. To put it bluntly.

And something about practice makes perfect or something to that effect.

 

[Ryuu Akamatsu]

You see a door in front of you. You open this door with a key of kindness. Beyond it is another dimension. A dimension of false hope. A dimension of pain. A dimension of insanity. You're moving into a land of both frustration and perseverance, happiness and sorrow.


You've just crossed over into.....The Friend Zone.

 

[HardkorSB]

"I think of you as a friend" is a polite way of saying: "I don't want to have physical contact with you".".

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

This news is terrible for my ego.

Is there any way to trick a girl into finding me attractive? Like...a tattoo? Or a moustache? Or...a tattoed on moustache?

Just thought I'd ask before I take on the mammoth task of putting subliminal messages into all of her CD's and DVD's.

Just because you don't float a girl's personal boat doesn't mean you're not absolutely marvelous just as you are. Unless, you know, you don't bathe regularly or something. If you feel good and confident about who and what you are, you'll eventually find someone who appreciates that. That said, taking a certain degree of care of yourself is important - enough to show that you think you're worthwhile.

That's cool...I was mostly joking, although I do know the situation pretty well from first hand experience. I can bounce back from such things with relative ease.

The only time such a situation screwed with my mind, was when I was give the "just friends" line, and then told that she was probably going to ask her Grandmother to sort out an arranged marriage for her. I'm no good...but a complete stranger is somehow ideal.

...not good for my already mal-nourished ego.

 

[Lust]

Lucky for me I was too much of a damn wimp to ask my friend if she would be my lover. It wasn't that she would put me in the friend zone, more like she already had a boyfriend. I did my gentlemanly duty and hid my shame. Kinda regret it, but..........................oh well.

 

[SupabadMan]

The friend zone?

Dear god who hasn't been there? =\

 

[Coolness]

Guys and girls of the escapist have you ever gotten this line from someone you really wanted to date or get together with? If so I would like to hear your experience mainly because I am trying to understand why this line seems to be so bloody common.

My personal experience happened about a year ago all through high school I had known this girl she was kind of nerdy but really awesome. We did everything together we loved the same kinds of games, music, movies etc. and well during the friendship I had really started to develop feelings for her but she was with a guy who in all definitions was a total douche. So I back off stay the close friend until finally she wakes up and dumps the asshole. Well I console her like a good friend and about 2 months pass and I finally get up the nerve to ask her out, this is where one of the biggest mind fucks that i can remember happens to me, she says to me and i quote "Oh you are so nice and I would totally date a guy like you but I consider you a really good friend".

Now I quietly backed off and went to think about that one because it just does not make sense to me. I mean if she would date a guy like me then um why not just date me? Please Escapist do your thing and post your experience and thoughts on this I would love to hear them.

edit: You know I would have been happy to keep the friendship, but when I told her how I felt well things just started to fall apart and the friendship slowly dissolved. Now I talk to her maybe once every two months if that and I know she is again dating a guy that uses her. it well really breaks my heart that even though she didn't want me she could have at least found a guy that wouldn't treat her like shit she doesn't deserve that really no one does.

I've been there many many times. My personal tactic is just to be inherently sexual as to keep the possibility and the spontanaiety exciting. Now the friend zone is virtually nonexistent!