I think we should break up.

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

I remember I used to get on here complaining about my relationship issues, and how I couldn't get a girlfriend- How odd this day seems... (Let's start a breakup story thread!)

Anyway, so I broke up with my girlfriend on Friday after adhering some advice from a group of friends. I've got a lot of reasons for doing it, and I stand by those reasons... but god damn, no one told me it was going to be that hard. I was with the girl for eleven months, and it started out great, but as time went on, we just got more and more unhappy, she tried to start fighting with me more and more, we were sad more and more... The last 4 months sucked, is what I am getting at.

I did it the night before a school dance that she told me a hundred times she didn't want to go to, I know that was bad, but she had told me she cried a few times about having to go with me. (She was sad/pissed at me that I had to be the escort for a club in our school homecoming, although she encouraged me to do it beforehand) I know it was a shitty time to do it, but this is the week of our fall break, and I figured that would give her some time to recover from it.
I cried for a while after I did it, because I felt bad about making her feel bad, not about breaking up with her.

When I was at the dance, I saw her there, which really made my head spin. I wasn't angry or anything. When she saw me she turned away awkwardly, like she expected that I would not have been there. I went on as if she wasn't there. I had cried for a while, and my day was already shitty, I wasn't going to let it get worse. So I decided to go hang out with a girl I like (Another reason I broke up with her. I felt so bad getting close to a girl who I like a whole lot more than I ever liked her. Again, I know I'm a shitty person.) But were just friends, she doesn't know I like her, no one does, and I don't plan on persuing a relationship until I get less mucked up from this, but I wasn't trying to make my exgirlfriend(? I guess that's what she'd be called in this situation) jeleaous, I was acting like she wasn't there, because if I acted like she was, all I would do is be depressed. I'd compair it to sort of drinking to forget or something like that.

But anyway, I was sitting, having a conversation with a few of my friends, and this girl came up to me and started yelling at me for breaking up with my exgirlfriend. I didn't know who the hell this girl was, I didn't have a fucking clue. So I yelled back at her and told her to go away, and that I wasn't going to be dramatic about stupid bullshit like that (Turns out it was her cousin). A few minutes later my exgirlfriend came up to me and asked me if I was trying to make her feel bad, and marched off before I could answer. I eventually went to talk to her at the suggestion of one of our mutual friends, and I'm kind of glad I did. I knew I hurt her, but not as much as I did. I got to give her more closure about it, and yeah.

So that's the end of my story. Breaking up with people sucks, and so does being a shitty person.
So who wants to tell some fun/interesting breakup stories now? Huh? Huh?

Captcha: you the man!
Thank you, at least you are my friend.

 

[Elfgore]

I don't have any. but relationships and petty hatred split my group of friends in my junior and senior year of high school. The biggest event was the arrival of three sisters, which only two of them were the problem. They started dating some of my friends and then broke up with them making them hate them and they also hated other people for stupid reasons. A huge uproar about one of my friends taking abuse of his girlfriend's sex drive to suit his own needs then break up with her. A girl destroying one of the best friendships I have ever seen because she hated her ex for how he broke up with her.

Luckily I rustles no jimmies because I'm generally liked by everyone and am a dense ************. But because of this I'm actually scared to start dating a close friend. If I had to choose between a lasting friendship or dating for a couple months and maybe getting my groove on, it's a pretty damn easy choice for me.

 

[ERaptor]

I broke up with my Girlfriend after i caught her cheating. I have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to that (And it old her as much), so i pretty much told her she had until the same evening to pack up her sh*t and leave. The difficult part about the whole thing wasnt the "breakup" itself, but the Drama afterwards. I had to organize i drive home for her, since she couldnt reach anyone. She cried on the whole trip to her parents, apologized, made drama. I ignored all of it, i just wanted her to get out of my sight asap. After we arrived, her mom tried to make a scene, which i simply ignored and then drove away. In hindsight, it may have been a mistake to act completely indifferent to the whole thing, it gave them ample room to find reasons that the whole thing was actually _my_fault.

I was set on never meeting the girl in question again, and just wanted to move on. But neither my nor her friends could jsut let it go. It started with SMS, Mails and Skypechats, where a hundred different people would nag me to "just talk to her maaaaan!" and saying that we were too good a couple to break up. It annoyed me immensely, but i was still set to not lash out, so i justignored most of it. It got out of hand when she started to contact me too. The whole thing eventually resulted in me loosing my sh*t, calling her a bit*h in public and telling a lot of my "friends" (Which were actually hers, seeing how they started to side with her more and more too) to fu*k off and leave me alone. After that, the whole group agreed that i must have been a horrible boyfriend anyway and it was a good thing she got "away" from me.

I honestly couldnt have cared less towards the end. The only difference it made was that i not only got rid of a shitty girlfriend, but also of a few shitty friends. It was like getting healthy again after a particularly harsh sickness.

 

[Shadowstar38]

I think its been like 5 years since the last time I was in a relationship that wasn't purely sex. And there, I broke up with her for shallow reasons.

I was a shitty person without the drawback of feeling bad about it. Those were good days.

 

[Padwolf]

I broke up with a guy after nearly 2 years together. 7 months ago. It was long distance, and it was great at the start and there were good times, but turned very sour during the last 5 months. I felt pressured into moving country, he kept telling me to lose weight so I wouldn't be judged by his friends or family. He kept arguing with me if I so much as mentioned I wanted to look around, look at other ideas. Got angry with me if I was playing a game when he woke up, got angry with me if I couldn't be there each day at a certain time to get into a skype call. He'd get angry if I couldn't predict when he would wake up. He would get annoyed with me for doing other things after waiting 4 - 5 hours for him to wake up. Then each time we were in a call he would just sit there, I'd ask to do something, he'd say no and then just sit there in silence. He kept asking and asking about me losing weight, I started to hate the way I looked, started feeling incredibly self-conscious. I remember once towards the start of the relationship that he told me he had a crush on a girl at work for a few days. To be honest I probably should have done the break up then and there. Everything really escalated badly. I was really unhappy. So very unhappy. I wasn't perfect either, I became so down from it all that I began to ignore a good friend of mine, and now I don't know how to say sorry, I don't know how to make that right. But god damn the feeling of being pressured into doing certain things, of moving, of having to lose weight as quickly as I could, it was damn near as bad as a previous ex who cheated on me. I was becoming really down. It didn't help that I was dealing with stress from final year of uni, dealing with loneliness from moving away from the house I grew up in, spent the first 18 years of my life in, then spent 3 years in a house where no one was happy, everyone was depressed. A lot of drama happened. What made it worse was hearing after the break up that he asked my best friend for camera sex, she said no, I'm very thankful to have such a good friend.

Breaking up was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. It really was. But I had such a feeling of relief after, I woke up the next day feeling excited and I felt like suddenly I had a future back, one where I would be 100% happy. Now I'm happy, living with my boyfriend who treats me right, who makes me happy. We are looking to move into a flat together as soon as we have jobs/ get money. The future is looking bright. Felt shitty doing it though! But when it has to be done, it has to be done. Though I wish I had ended it straight away instead of drawing it out 2 weeks because I felt shitty and was scared of hurting feelings.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

No fancy breakup stories. I've offed two relationships of 3 and 2 years, in that order. Breaking up sucks for everyone and if and when you do it you're probably long overdue. You suck up the drama and move on, it's never the end of the world. Your first relationship is always the toughest to break up, I think, because somewhere in your mind you've always thought you'd nail the romantic relationship aspect of your life on the first try. The worst mistake you can make is to try and salvage a shitty relationship, no matter what. Sometimes it. just. doesn't. work. Sooner you pull out the better for the both of you.

 

[thethird0611]

Well I have 3 short stories.

First girlfriend I had I broke up with because she cheated on me. I didnt want to be near her or talk to her. The day after we break up, she gets her grandmother to drive her to my house (Im 17, shes 18), to try to talk to me. I had just gotten out of the shower and she tried to look innocent and said "I just wanted to come by and see you." My response? "Ok... I dont want to talk to you, and I just got out of the shower." I know, very harsh, but the gal cheated on me.

Second girlfriend broke up with me. I have a tendency to turtle up after something like this now. She still wanted to be really good friends, but I had huge feelings for her. Hell, she hit everything I wanted in a girlfriend. Couple of my friends and her friends tried to get me to crack, but I didnt say anything until she actually came to my door and said bluntly "I want to talk." I ended up feeling horrible that night because I told he I just cant talk to her, and she started crying because of it, and I still kick myself in the ass for being such a turtle and hurting her.

Third one was a short relationship, but VERY emotional and connected. Basically got broken up with by text. There is an event I go to every month though, and she is there, but I have good friends there to, so I go. I cant even look her in the eyes man, but she has a very strong personality so she let it go, and I hope understood.

So yeah, interesting experiences.

 

[stormeris]

I can boast that i never had to break up with anyone.
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Because i never even had a girlfriend.

 

[DanielBrown]

Had an affair with an old girlfriend(she was together with some guy halfway across the country at the time) many years ago. She kept complaining about how she didn't want to be with him and that she didn't want to move in with him. Great, I thought, break up with him and make it official with me instead, I thought.
As the months passed on and the day for her to start moving to him came closer I got fed up with waiting for her to break up, so I confronted her. She said she had decided to move anyway, in spite of having complained about him and cried due to his behaviour for the past half year or something. I most probably told her to go fuck herself and walked away.

About a month later I found out from my sister that she had moved in with a friend of ours instead and was pregnant with his baby. A few years later it turned out even that wasn't good enough for her. She cheated on him at least twice and got thrown out. -_-'

Got mixed feelings over it all. She was an unfaithful nymphomaniac, but I cared a lot about her.

 

[sweetylnumb]

I've dumped a fair few ladies over the years (I've also been on the other end of things too) but the story which I feel would best be shared here is a funny one which ended up with a happy ending

I'd been seeing/sleeping with this girl for about 3-4 months. She was nice enough, very dirty looking, gave great BJ's and was a decent laugh and was good light company. However, we were miles apart on loads of things which you would want in a serious relationship, so we just cruised along having a good time with each other......or so I thought.

Then, after having tea at her parents one night, she made a few comments which suddenly made me realize that she wasn't just cruising along, she was seeing this as full on serious. The dinner I had just had wasn't just an easy meal at her families' house, to her it was "meet the parents" and suddenly I got cold feet very quickly!

So we go back to hers and I'm thinking of how best to split up when she gets all horny on me. Wherever this relationship is going I'm certainly not going to deny myself a bit of pleasure before I bail, so we have a session and, for the first time since I started seeing her, I get the urge to "finish" on her.

So without telling her I pull out and unload all over her boobs and stomach, and she is not happy about it. She pulls herself towards me and starts rubbing my cum all over me "see how you like it!" she says. Thankyou Lord! There's my opportunity!

So grabbing the opportunity I fake anger and kick off "what you doing you silly cow?!? You got a problem with me? You fucking crazy *****....." She starts crying, apologizing and pleading for me to stay but this is too good an opportunity to jump ship. I tell her to do one, grab my cloths, walk out the door in just my jeans, get straight in my car and leg it.

Great result

BAHAHA brilliant. Your a horrible person and i hope you never find another girl willing to take you but LOOOOOLLL

 

[sweetylnumb]

BAHAHA brilliant. Your a horrible person and i hope you never find another girl willing to take you but LOOOOOLLL

Lol. Well I'm getting married 2015 after being with a girl for 8 years now, and the girl I broke up with is already married with several kids too so everyone's a winner

Quite proud of myself actually, would have been far worse to keep her hanging on.

My insult was in jest, but congratulations hope you've shared that story with your fiance. Its horrible and beautiful.

 

[ShipofFools]

Well I was once in a relationship for only two weeks, and the girl already started making plans for a christmas holiday, meeting the parents, etc.

So yeah, I had to bail.

 

[not_you]

Welp... I must say OP, rewind twelve+ months and we'd still be the same..... ha ha

(As in, complaining on here about being single etc..etc...)

But, uhhh, yeah... breakups....
Can't say I've had to go through that yet...

Everyone says that it's a horrible thing to do, but, seriously, if you two hated hanging out together so much, why not just approach her (x) weeks/months ago and say something like "Surely you can see that this isn't working..."

I mean, it SEEMS like the feelings weren't mutual though, since she had such a hard reaction to it, maybe she did still have feelings for you, but.... I don't know... girl stuff happened....

Maybe I'm not cut out for romance... Or I'm just a bit too cold hearted... But yeah, if something isn't working out, why force it?

 

[putowtin]

I kinda dated when I was at college, but it was never serious and the only time I instigated the break-up she was cool about it.

Fortunately I've known my (now hubby) since we were both 13, so when we met back up when we were 19 and hooked up it was a really natural relationship. I'm fortunate that the love of my life is also my best friend, and from what I've seen of other friend?s bad relationships, friendship seems to be the thing missing from them.

 

[Combustion Kevin]

people always tend to break up with me, maybe I'm just too foolhardy to see it end myself. >.>

First girlfriend broke up with me because for someone else because he could drive her around in his car and take her places. (I'm blind to one eye, so I don't take my chances with it.)

Second girlfriend dumped me because I did not meet some weird undefined criteria, I guess I had too much of an opinion.

Third broke up with me because she didn't see it going anywhere, and no longer felt attracted to me.

I'm already in a relationship again, and this one just feels..healthier, I guess, so here's to good expectations.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I don't understand why people doing the breaking up claim it was painful for them. Maybe I let the resentment fester for too long, or maybe I lack some basic form of empathy, but I've never felt bad about initiating a break up.