Ideal partner: Smarter, dumber, or about on your level?

[moretimethansense]

Look at my Avatar... Now imagine him female, yeah best partner evar!

I don't mean to belittle you but, you want a vgirl that is hyper smart but hates people and will completly blank you out to play bishonen games?
You must have some self esteem issues, that or you kinda ignored the point of the charecter.

 

[The Wykydtron]

Look at my Avatar... Now imagine him female, yeah best partner evar!

I don't mean to belittle you but, you want a vgirl that is hyper smart but hates people and will completly blank you out to play bishonen games?
You must have some self esteem issues, that or you kinda ignored the point of the charecter.

It's all in the conquest good sir! XD

 

[JEBWrench]

For Discussion! So, do you like your partners smarter, less smart, or about the same as your own intellectual level? And why? Discuss.

My wife and I frequently argue about who is the smarter one - I believe she is, and vice versa.

 

[Alade]

Well, for one-night-stands I of course prefer very dumb women. For dating however it works very similar, being the narcissistic prick I am I can't admit to myself that anyone is smarter than me, so basically all women fall into the dumber category, thus my type is "dumb".

 

[Bernzz]

On my level. Dumber, I couldn't stand. Just... no. Especially not ditzy. Smarter? Would get infuriating for me, I think.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

I keep falling into the line of thought that mine is on the same level as I am but I think she's smarter than I am. I wouldn't have it any other way though as that's what I prefer. Like you said, I like to think being around the smarty ones will make my pants smarter in turn (if only a little) and in the long run (ie: marriage) I would rather be the domestic type of person as opposed to the breadwinner. Those of higher intellect would be more receptive to that I think.

 

[tzimize]

Trying my hand at one of these "who ya got" threads. Now with more gender-inclusiveness!

Some folks like to be with people who are smarter than they are, in hopes that that someone will bring out the best in their own intellect and make them smarter (I suppose. Can't say as I've been in this position myself, since a woman who's demonstrably smarter than me I tend to find intimidating and "out of my league".)

Other folks like to be with someone who's dumb as a sack of hammers but sweet as a bag of confectioner's sugar with a honey glaze and a candy coating. I fall into this category---in fact, I get along very well with the kinds of women who fall into the category previously mentioned. What can I say---if she's the type who makes up for a lack of intelligence with an abundance of "girlfriend features" (sexual, domestic, moral, or otherwise) I tend to fall hard. I'm naturally dominant---those sorts of girls tend to be naturally submissive.

And finally, there are the worthy adversaries---women who match me step for step, who never fall too far behind or get too far ahead. I call such women "friends", but curiously rarely get physically involved with them. I tend not to want to lose such women out of my life, since they're rare and valued (dumb chicks are a dime a dozen, but smart women? Priceless.) Sometimes, however, this causes problems when those bright women, happy to have a sparring partner of their own, get interested in me and I'm the one pulling the "don't want to ruin the friendship" card out (gender reversal!)

I'm not sure I want to know what it says about me that what I basically tell such women is "you don't want to date me, you're better than that" when it's all boiled down to its essence.

For Discussion! So, do you like your partners smarter, less smart, or about the same as your own intellectual level? And why? Discuss.

I guess I'm not really clear about what you mean by smarter, but if you say more "intellectual"...it might be easier to understand.

What is it to be smart? Are we talking big math skills? Well read? Can complete a sentence without a smattering of grammatical explosions?

I can use my own girlfriend as an example. I see myself as quite a bit more "intellectual" than her. She doesnt read much, she is not a math whiz and neither is her spelling flawless all the time. But I still consider her pretty smart.

She can make me laugh, a whole lot more than most girls I've met. And I truly believe that humor takes intelligence.

She is also very much on the same page as me when it comes to what is the important things in life. We agree on a lot of stuff. Values. Core stuff that you can build a deep relationship upon.

In "short"; I'm not sure I can answer your question, since I'm not quite sure what being "smart" means. They say opposites attract. And in some ways me and my GF are opposites. I am the intellectual one, the reader, the writer. She is the creative one, the artist. We fulfill each other pretty well (urgh...that sounded more cliché than intended), and to me she seems "smart" because most of the time she has her head screwed on straight and know what is really important in life.

Makes sense? :S

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

Same level or smarter. A guy dumber than me with no desire to read or learn anything new would bore the piss out of me.

 

[Shirokurou]

Smarter and dumber are relative terms. In something dumber, in others smarter.

 

[Togs]

The only women I can feel any degree of romantic affection for are my intellectual equals- if shes not as smart as me Ill end up looking down on her, if shes smarter then me Ill look down on myself.

 

[Drazeric]

dont matter as long as she games lol was with this one chick, bored, and asked her if she wanted to play some halo or something. She just gave me this DUMB look like omg you want me to pick up a video game controller. Needless to say the relationship didnt last much longer lol. On the other hand tho i cant have to much smarter. I dont feel like feeling like i retard if i dont know/care about something shes talking about

 

[floppylobster]

I think we need to bring in a distinction between street-smarts and academic smarts here (or common sense or nous or whatever). Because if a girl was academically smarter than me, that would bore me to death as she rambled on about all these things that don't really matter in ways that very few people actually care about. I would hate that. But street-smarts? That's hot. But too much and she might seem a little too 'experienced'. Unfortunately/fortunately I'm with a girl who's smart but not smarter than me. She has zero street-smarts but she's loyal and faithful so fuck it, I'm sticking with her.

Ideally a girl will have a healthy sense of curiosity and a drive to learn about things she doesn't understand. That would make life interesting.

 

[skeliton112]

defuse the situation

defuse the situation

before i go....and i couldn't resist....you kind of did this to yourselves.

defuse means to literally remove the fuse from something, something like a bomb. try diffuse next time you want to mellow out a situation. you guys better find some dumb girls if you wanna be the smarter half. know what i'm saiyan?

Im sorry but

I quote:
Defuse or Diffuse?
Defuse literally means "to remove the fuse." It has come to mean generally "to disarm" or "pacify."

Diffuse is normally used as an adjective meaning "spread out," "extended," or "verbose." As a verb it means "to spread out in all directions."

Incorrect: Diffusing Family Arguments
(A title. Spreading them out?)

Correct: Defusing Family Arguments
(Ah! Unfortunately, the first example is a published title.)

Sauce: http://englishplus.com/grammar/00000273.htm

 

[Macgyvercas]

Preferably my intelligence or higher, but I will accept any who can carry on an intelligent conversation about any type of science and/or science fiction and who doesn't mention the tabloids every other paragraph.

 

[binvjoh]

My last girlfriend was smarter than me on some levels, if not all. But she still had other insecurities and weaknesses, creating a good balance in the relationship. Also, she wasn't so much smarter than me that it was on a completely different level, which I probably would have considered very annoying.

 

[DTWolfwood]

Rather prefer someone smarter. easier to keep an interesting conversation.

 

[Lyx]

I'm a mutualist. I prefer when what both can give to each other, is about equivalent. I consider people who prefer partners who are "better than them" as shortsighted and greedy. Shortsighted, because if someone else can do more for you, than you can do for them, then this also means (hello mirror), that you can do less for them, than they can do for you - thus, you're less attractive to them, than they are attractive to you.

This "what someone can contribute" however to me doesn't need to be about the same "field". Sure, if possible i prefer that we're equally good at everything, but that doesn't happen so often, and thus "i'm good at this, you're good at that" is okay to me too, as long as the discrepancies aren't too high and many.

 

[DenUrs]

Same level is the best imo. My current girlfriend is less bright than me and, though I wouldn't say it bothers me, sometimes it's... well there's this voice in the back of my head going it would be cooler if we were at the same level.

 

[Ulquiorra4sama]

I like girls to be a bit, but not a hell of a lot smarter than myself.

And another thing... Smarter can be in stuff like science and physics etc, but also in the field of psychology and philosophy.

I don't care a lot about physics and science so when i say i like a smarter girl i mean one who can pose interesting questions about moral and such and who can also have made some interesting thoughts around it that i personally wouldn't have come up with.