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Lyri

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shophius said:
I completely agree, apart from pulling their partners looks into the equation. I think lots of women don't feel good enough for their partners. I know I certainly don't, and with the constant push of 'perfect bodies' aswell as amazingly airbrushed faces it makes women feel completely inadequate.
Which is a shame, because it infuriated me when my girl says shes not very pretty, she is adorable even without makeup, which is more often when she complains about it.
Sadly there is a trend for people to find "the body beautiful" which changes with every passing season, at one point size 10 was the body to have, then it went to size 0 and well, that was the last I'd heard of any of that nonsense.

Men in this day and age seem to have forgotten how to remind women exactly how wonderful they are.
I make sure I tell my girl how beautiful she is every day, because she is too me.
Still, the Media has every woman by the metaphorical balls.
 

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Wizzie said:
shophius said:
I completely agree, apart from pulling their partners looks into the equation. I think lots of women don't feel good enough for their partners. I know I certainly don't, and with the constant push of 'perfect bodies' aswell as amazingly airbrushed faces it makes women feel completely inadequate.
Which is a shame, because it infuriated me when my girl says shes not very pretty, she is adorable even without makeup, which is more often when she complains about it.
Sadly there is a trend for people to find "the body beautiful" which changes with every passing season, at one point size 10 was the body to have, then it went to size 0 and well, that was the last I'd heard of any of that nonsense.

Men in this day and age seem to have forgotten how to remind women exactly how wonderful they are.
I make sure I tell my girl how beautiful she is every day, because she is too me.
Still, the Media has every woman by the metaphorical balls.
You have a very lucky girlfriend and you're clearly a good guy.

I'm sure she is very beautiful, but it's not really suprising she finds it hard to see it herself in this day and age. Most women feel the same at one point or another.
 

Lyri

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shophius said:
You have a very lucky girlfriend and you're clearly a good guy.

I'm sure she is very beautiful, but it's not really suprising she finds it hard to see it herself in this day and age. Most women feel the same at one point or another.
Irony is I find myself not being worth a second of her time, yet she keeps me around.

I do detest the media's strangle hold on the beauty department though.
Also, Thank you ^^
 

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lava_lamp said:
i just think generally the looks is what starts the interest and the personality is what keeps them hooked
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
 

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Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
i just think generally the looks is what starts the interest and the personality is what keeps them hooked
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
*sigh*
thanks for repeating what i said
 

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lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
i just think generally the looks is what starts the interest and the personality is what keeps them hooked
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
*sigh*
thanks for repeating what i said
Hmm? I thought you were saying physical attractiveness trumped personality in what makes people attracted to each other? And so I said that it's mostly personality that influences how attractive I think a person is, instead of attractiveness influencing how I see someone's personality. That doesn't sound like what you were saying?
 

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Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
i just think generally the looks is what starts the interest and the personality is what keeps them hooked
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
*sigh*
thanks for repeating what i said
Hmm? I thought you were saying physical attractiveness trumped personality in what makes people attracted to each other? And so I said that it's mostly personality that influences how attractive I think a person is, instead of attractiveness influencing how I see someone's personality. That doesn't sound like what you were saying?
i was saying physical attractiveness sparks the interest, but they need a good personalty to keep the relationship going
 

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Easykill said:
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
I hate girls who find themselves the center of their own universes, it makes me cringe whenever they open their mouths.
No matter how much make up they slap on their faces, they can never cover that blemish up.
 

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shophius said:
Looks don't come into it. I don't care.
Prepare to be blasted with mini-rant.

Frankly, no. Anybody who says "I don't care about looks" is lying to themselves and others. Whether you like it or not, you do judge people by their outward appearance. You may think that "Oh, I liked/loved this one really ugly dude at one point, so it obviously doesn't apply to me."

No.

You found something about his physical appearance that you found appealing. It's a sad fact of the human psyche, but you cannot expect a relationship to last without some small stretch of physical attraction.

Perhaps you have some sort of socio-psychological need to tell yourself that looks don't matter, because your parents/school/friends/religion beat it into you that its the inner beauty that matters. Which it does. But it's common sense that looks do matter, admittedly not to the length of personality.

Not to bash you, but I've noticed a distinguishing trend among women who say they want "Humorous" guys. They usually mean "I want an asshole who thinks he's funny."

Mini-psych rant.

At the topic, I really have no point in worrying about my "ideal" partner. Since I tend to become interested in women of all looks, personalities, etc., with no defining traits in common, I can assume that my tastes haven't fully developed.

Or I just don't care yet. Either way.
 

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lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
i just think generally the looks is what starts the interest and the personality is what keeps them hooked
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
*sigh*
thanks for repeating what i said
Hmm? I thought you were saying physical attractiveness trumped personality in what makes people attracted to each other? And so I said that it's mostly personality that influences how attractive I think a person is, instead of attractiveness influencing how I see someone's personality. That doesn't sound like what you were saying?
i was saying physical attractiveness sparks the interest, but they need a good personalty to keep the relationship going
I have liked very few people in my lifetime. Which is to say, no matter how awesome a girls looks or personality, because I've known a quite few people with a lot of both, that alone is not enough to produce that kind of feeling for someone. The final factor is then outside of looks AND personality, although both are a plus. So, I disagree.
 

lava_lamp

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Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
i just think generally the looks is what starts the interest and the personality is what keeps them hooked
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
*sigh*
thanks for repeating what i said
Hmm? I thought you were saying physical attractiveness trumped personality in what makes people attracted to each other? And so I said that it's mostly personality that influences how attractive I think a person is, instead of attractiveness influencing how I see someone's personality. That doesn't sound like what you were saying?
i was saying physical attractiveness sparks the interest, but they need a good personalty to keep the relationship going
I have liked very few people in my lifetime. Which is to say, no matter how awesome a girls looks or personality, because I've known a quite few people with a lot of both, that alone is not enough to produce that kind of feeling for someone. The final factor is then outside of looks AND personality, although both are a plus. So, I disagree.
damn that is what i just said
 

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lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
i just think generally the looks is what starts the interest and the personality is what keeps them hooked
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
*sigh*
thanks for repeating what i said
Hmm? I thought you were saying physical attractiveness trumped personality in what makes people attracted to each other? And so I said that it's mostly personality that influences how attractive I think a person is, instead of attractiveness influencing how I see someone's personality. That doesn't sound like what you were saying?
i was saying physical attractiveness sparks the interest, but they need a good personalty to keep the relationship going
I have liked very few people in my lifetime. Which is to say, no matter how awesome a girls looks or personality, because I've known a quite few people with a lot of both, that alone is not enough to produce that kind of feeling for someone. The final factor is then outside of looks AND personality, although both are a plus. So, I disagree.
damn that is what i just said
Where the HELL are you saying this stuff then! What I just said had NOTHING to do with "i was saying physical attractiveness sparks the interest, but they need a good personalty to keep the relationship going".
 

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Flying-Emu said:
shophius said:
Looks don't come into it. I don't care.
Prepare to be blasted with mini-rant.

Frankly, no. Anybody who says "I don't care about looks" is lying to themselves and others. Whether you like it or not, you do judge people by their outward appearance. You may think that "Oh, I liked/loved this one really ugly dude at one point, so it obviously doesn't apply to me."

No.

You found something about his physical appearance that you found appealing. It's a sad fact of the human psyche, but you cannot expect a relationship to last without some small stretch of physical attraction.

Perhaps you have some sort of socio-psychological need to tell yourself that looks don't matter, because your parents/school/friends/religion beat it into you that its the inner beauty that matters. Which it does. But it's common sense that looks do matter, admittedly not to the length of personality.

Not to bash you, but I've noticed a distinguishing trend among women who say they want "Humorous" guys. They usually mean "I want an asshole who thinks he's funny."

Mini-psych rant.

At the topic, I really have no point in worrying about my "ideal" partner. Since I tend to become interested in women of all looks, personalities, etc., with no defining traits in common, I can assume that my tastes haven't fully developed.

Or I just don't care yet. Either way.
Right. I'm taking this as an insult. I don't care about looks. I honestly don't. You can try and convince yourself otherwise but tbh you don't know me or how my mind works. I dunno why you're contradicting me, it's not even like it's your opinion, which I can tolerate, but you're saying my opinion is wrong.

in other words, you've pissed me off.

I am not a good looking person. If I were to care about what my partner looks like I'd be a hypocrite. Secondly what do looks count for in a serious relationship anyway? Nothing to me.
As for the 'asshole who thinks he's funny' comment, that's a stereotype and I'll think you'll find some funny guys who aren't assholes if you look outside your own warped interpretation of life. I have a boyfriend who is funny, lovely and anything but an asshole. So rant over.
 

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Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
Easykill said:
lava_lamp said:
i just think generally the looks is what starts the interest and the personality is what keeps them hooked
I can't speak for everyone, but the way I think seems to run opposite to the way you do. When a person I know, in theory, is attractive has a terrible personality(I didn't want to rework the sentence, so I just went with this, but I really just mean people I dislike a lot.), they seem a lot uglier to me, to the point that looking at them disgusts me. And the more I like a person, the more attractive they seem. I suppose the fact that I'm straight rather than bi shows that I am in some regards shallow, personality is ALWAYS more important.
*sigh*
thanks for repeating what i said
Hmm? I thought you were saying physical attractiveness trumped personality in what makes people attracted to each other? And so I said that it's mostly personality that influences how attractive I think a person is, instead of attractiveness influencing how I see someone's personality. That doesn't sound like what you were saying?
i was saying physical attractiveness sparks the interest, but they need a good personalty to keep the relationship going
I have liked very few people in my lifetime. Which is to say, no matter how awesome a girls looks or personality, because I've known a quite few people with a lot of both, that alone is not enough to produce that kind of feeling for someone. The final factor is then outside of looks AND personality, although both are a plus. So, I disagree.
damn that is what i just said
Where the HELL are you saying this stuff then! What I just said had NOTHING to do with "i was saying physical attractiveness sparks the interest, but they need a good personalty to keep the relationship going".
im done trying to explain this to you
 

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shophius said:
If you could choose everything about a future partner, how would they act/look etc.

My personal ideal? I'm not too fussed aslong as he is intelligent and a nice guy. Sense of humour wouldn't hurt either. Oh and he'd have to have a certain love for gaming xD
Looks don't come into it. I don't care.
Which part of the South West are you from, specifically?