If I go there will be trouble. If I stay it will be doubled.
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Holy wow. That's a crazy situation. I wouldn't have a clue what the hell to do, the best thing I can come up with is at all costs maintain good and regular contact with the child, no matter how evil the other people are. That I would say is the single most important thing in this situation. It would help if you had sole custody over the child, but I understand that could be a long and costly process so I would probably only do that if you can afford it or as a last resort.
Good luck to you man, just think that there will be an end, even if you can't see it
Good luck to you man, just think that there will be an end, even if you can't see it
I don't know, man. I'm sorry, but I just don't know. I mean, you have a genuine problem and for once I have no idea what to do.
I'm sorry they are being such assholes to you though.
I'm sorry they are being such assholes to you though.
Jesus christ, man. I almost idolize you for having this much patience with life.
I'm going to agree with what a lot of previous posters have said.. as someone who never really cared for people at all, I say leave everyone behind. You can get a DNA test like Mookie_Magnus said if you really want but I've personally never been one to trust the law...
I'm going to agree with what a lot of previous posters have said.. as someone who never really cared for people at all, I say leave everyone behind. You can get a DNA test like Mookie_Magnus said if you really want but I've personally never been one to trust the law...
I think the best thing for you would be to leave the girl behind. You should try and take your son with you though. Tke her to court to get custody if thats what it takes. The child is obviously better off with you.
Its also your son. He needs his father there for him. Mine walked out on me when i was really young and when i grew u a little and realised he wouldn't be there my life just went so far downhill it was really hard to recover.
No child should have to grow up without its father
Its also your son. He needs his father there for him. Mine walked out on me when i was really young and when i grew u a little and realised he wouldn't be there my life just went so far downhill it was really hard to recover.
No child should have to grow up without its father
Wow, sounds like a bad soap opera. Also, you seem to move from woman to woman very quickly.
I stopped believing it was real when you said your second girl got the guy who was with your first girl, it's just too movie/soap opera-esque.
Try not moving from girl to girl so easily, commitment~
I stopped believing it was real when you said your second girl got the guy who was with your first girl, it's just too movie/soap opera-esque.
Try not moving from girl to girl so easily, commitment~
First I would like to say I admire you.
After all that's happened you still want to be with your children and stay friends with the women. I can't give any advice as I'm only 16. But I have a clear image as to what I want to be like when I am an adult, and you are a good example. You are an honest, trustworthy, good person. You put family first.
I'm sorry that such bad things happened to such a good man.
After all that's happened you still want to be with your children and stay friends with the women. I can't give any advice as I'm only 16. But I have a clear image as to what I want to be like when I am an adult, and you are a good example. You are an honest, trustworthy, good person. You put family first.
I'm sorry that such bad things happened to such a good man.
Except for my last ex, the one pregnant with my child, I'd never been in a relationship for shorter than a year. And I have never been the one to call it quits. The closest to me giving up was when my ex-wife said she wanted to seperate. I responded I wanted a divorce. She didn't feel it had come to that but I had.bushwhacker2k said:
And to update eveyrone on my trip to see her. It went as well as I had hoped it would. So much better than I had figured at any rate. When she saw me, she looked pleasantly surprised. She didn't slam the door on my face or spit on me. Was a good sign. We talked for about an hour before I had to go so she could get ready for work. And she was friendly with me the entire time. We talked through the issues about her texts and she coughed it all up as being scared. Not trusting me.
We also talked about the biological father of my first son. She basicly told me she wasn't holding any merit to anything he's said and even went so far as to call him a prick. I couldn't help but smile.
So anywho, thank you all for your criticism and your prayers. I am so incredibly glad I went. Planning on heading back up there again tomorrow since she's off work. Going to help her get things more situated for when our son is born. I don't know if I completely trust her, but I do feel things are heading in the right direction.
Again, thanks.
-Ryan
Here's just a little bit of fact/advice from my own experience with divorced couples(my parents).
There is a way that you don't have to end up paying child support. If you're not going to get to see the child anyway, then there's something you can do to give up ALL rights and responsibilities to the child. My own dad threatened to do that a few times when he wasn't in a good mental place.
However, seeing as things are looking up, you won't necessarily need this advice. But just keep it just in case, God forbid, the shit hits the fan again.
There is a way that you don't have to end up paying child support. If you're not going to get to see the child anyway, then there's something you can do to give up ALL rights and responsibilities to the child. My own dad threatened to do that a few times when he wasn't in a good mental place.
However, seeing as things are looking up, you won't necessarily need this advice. But just keep it just in case, God forbid, the shit hits the fan again.
Awww i thought this was goning to be a discussion on The Clash, I feel misled .
But I'd go on Jeremy Kiles show and then you can all shout at each and get your problems solved....maybe.
. But I'd go on Jeremy Kiles show and then you can all shout at each and get your problems solved....maybe.
Damn it man, you had some serious bad luck in your choice of women. I'm sorry I can't give any advice, I think you know best what to do, sounds lame but just listen to your heart. It seems you have been trying real hard to be the good guy, but if everyone's making it impossible for you then at some point you may just have to say "fuck it".
Good luck.
Edit: Sorry, didn't read your last update. I'm glad for ye that it went fine!
I guess it's a good idea to stay a bit wary though. It's mighty fine that she let you see her, and help her out a bit. But as you pointed out she might be slightly untrustworthy. Keep on talking and you'll hopefully find out.
Good luck.
Edit: Sorry, didn't read your last update. I'm glad for ye that it went fine!
I guess it's a good idea to stay a bit wary though. It's mighty fine that she let you see her, and help her out a bit. But as you pointed out she might be slightly untrustworthy. Keep on talking and you'll hopefully find out.
damn I want updates on this - this may sound like a bad soap opera but I'm frakking hooked. Mainly cause the protagonist sounds like one cool dude
Good luck to you man, I hope you get done what you need to get done. I'll keep an eye on this thread to get more info as it goes...