If I go there will be trouble. If I stay it will be doubled.

[Caimekaze]

Things are going well; this is definitely good. Here's hoping they continue to do so, so that you have the opportunity to be the amazing father you would seem to be from your posts.

Good luck and best wishes.

 

[Mackinator]

Man, you must have the patience of a saint not to be a misogynist at this point. But at least the men you describe are pretty lame too.

Just bail out. Leave them all behind, and start anew. Just keep focused on what's best for you, and don't worry about that soap-opera disaster you just related to us.

I agree with this, but the child is a factor that you have to worry about.

You have to decide whether you can give up a chance of happiness in your life for a child that might not even be yours. You have to really consider the possibility of leaving them for a better life.

Im sure the child won't suffer half as much as you have suffered in the past months.

 

[New Troll]

Well, today is the big day. Not sure my son is going to make his appearance, since my ex doesn't tell me shit. Heck, for all I know he could be among us already. But I'm heading up to Kansas to sit in my vehicle and wait. She doesn't want to see me, but that doesn't mean I can't be there ready to see my son when she lets me.

As mentioned above, the visit with her went extremely well, but then she stopped talking to me again. She told me my visit made her extremely depressed, unhappy. And she's done everything in her power to make me want to hate her since. Not sure I do or not, but most times I would like to. Anywho, every time I offer her help, she spits it in my face. She has issues with her bills letting her power and water get turned of, so I send her money to pay all her bills and then some. She tells me I'm just trying to buy my way into my son's life. I bought a bassinet for my son shortly after I visited her when I thought we'd be friends, she tells me last week she still needs one. I tell her I have one for her, she calls me stupid for trying to take my son away from her. I tell her it's for her to use, was never for me to use. She goes out and buys a new one and then complains about not having money for her bills again.

*****. Heartless *****.

But I still have hope that once our son is born, she'll return to her senses and her heart will grow back. Please God, make it so.

Anywho, off to Kansas. Off to meet my son. Hate asking strangers to wish me luck, but I really could use all the support I can get to make it through.

Thank you.

 

[Neonbob]

Good sweet baby Cthulu, and I thought my life was complicated.
Well, all I can really do is wish you good luck, New Troll.

 

[KarumaK]

Bail dude, pick a nice state far away where no one knows you and just go. Change all your numbers leave no forwarding address just take off.

The moral of your story appears to be, 'Nice guys don't finish. Not even last.'

 

[Federalist92]

This isnt something you should be talking to us about. Try talking to:
a priest,
a lawyer,
social services,
a judge,
psychologist
or you could always hire a P.I to get some dirt on this girl and then give this dirt to the social services so you can have your child.
I want so badly to be more helpful than just giving you a list, but i have no idea what I would do in that situation, never mind someone else.

 

[New Troll]

Pics or it didn't happen.

No pics to show yet.

My son decided not to make an appearance today. I did finally get a message from my ex letting me know she visited her doctor, but our son hasn't dropped yet. If he doesn't in a couple days, then they're going to induce.

Course this sucks for me, not only because I really want to meet my son, but also because now I kind of have no choice but to wait till she messages me to let me know he's delivered. Can't afford to drive up there every day and just sit in my car hoping he shows.

Well, if he doesn't make an appearance, at least I have Blizzcon to look forward to since my roomate ordered it. Would much rather visit with my son though.

Good sweet baby Cthulu, and I thought my life was complicated.
Well, all I can really do is wish you good luck, New Troll.

Hehe, thanks Bob. Hmmm... wonder how the ex would feel calling him Cthulu?

 

[beckett360]

I don't know you well, but if I were in that situation, I'd try to start over. Just leave the past far away from you.

P.S. If you wrote a novel about that I would definetly read that. Sounds like a romantic movie plot.

 

[New Troll]

or you could always hire a P.I to get some dirt on this girl and then give this dirt to the social services so you can have your child.
I want so badly to be more helpful than just giving you a list, but i have no idea what I would do in that situation, never mind someone else.

Heh, wouldn't need the private investigator. If child services was to take one look at the pig-sty she calls her house, or her father who is the "nanny" to her daughter and will be to my son, they'd take both children away from her right there on the spot. But I don't want that. She does love her daughter and is the best parent that girl will ever have. That's why I can't say she would be a bad mother to our son. But I do know he would be in a much better environment with me.

On a related note, my parents seem to think she will give up custody to me once he's born. It might just be hopeful wishing on thier part cause they do so love kids and would love to have a new grandbaby to help take care of, but I'm not so sure my ex would do that. She is stubborn, plus I'm not so certain she wouldn't just keep our son just to spite me. She knows how much pain I feel after losing my first son, which makes this whole ordeal with our son so confusing to me. She HAS to know what she's been putting me through. Just how much our son means to me. But who knows, she's already having issues with her bills, and already has one child to take care of, so maybe, just maybe, she will give me my son peacefully. God willing.

And as for an update, she texted me today telling me her doctor doesn't want to induce labor till Sep. 1st. Can't believe the doctor wants to wait that long since she's already dilating. I know my ex is already ready for our son to arrive. Both mentally and physicly. She said she's having trouble eating and feels like she's going to explode. Niether of which can be healthy for her. I do hope he drops soon, for both thier sakes.

And she has seemed more civil with me, though she's only communicating with me over text messages and refused to see me while I was up there in town. She even refused to see me when I offered to stop by and give her some money after she complained to me about her bills. Oh well, I'd still rather make sure that money goes directly towards my son. Course he will need electicity, heat, and water so... so frustrating.

 

[New Troll]

So... had two weeks off vacation when my son was supposed to be born but he never showed. The mother didn't want to have anything to do with me during my time off. On his due date I went ahead and drove up there and pretty much just hung out in the park across the road from the hospital all day. The mother ends up having to be induced on Sept. 1st but gets kicked out of her father's place (which she owns?!?) the Friday beforehand so ends up calling me up asking for help. Of course I comply, buying some groceries for her and her daughter and heading back up there again. I spend every moment before my son arrives just cleaning her house. She tells me she loves me and the most ignorant thing she's ever done was drive me away. She now acts like we're together, though I've told her time and time again I don't trust her. But I do wish for peace between us and for her to be happy. I do still care. Plus I desire for my son to be in the best environment possible. She's talking about moving down here near (with) me so I can be with him (and her with me.) We are not together though! (I think.)

Spoiler: My son, Gabriel.

 

[Marble Dragon]

Awww...how adorable! I've been watching this thread for a while now, waiting to see what will come of it. It's nice that this story has a happy ending. (Maybe there will be terror later, but I'm happy, and I'm not going to throw that away for logic.) I do think it's wise of you to stay clear of an actual relationship for now, after all that's happened.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

But for serious for a second. Why does what she has to say to you realy matter? Like if she has the kid, be the best father you can be, pay child support, ect.