If you started a family with someone you cheated with, would you tell your kids how you met?

[game-lover]

So... say you cheated on your significant other in the past. But you also fall in love. So when the other relationship ends one way or another, you stick with the person you cheated with and start a nice little family.

Now say your kids ask you one day how mommy and daddy met as children sometimes do. (Or mommy and mommy or daddy and daddy.)

Would you tell them the truth? Only half? Would you make something up? What reasons would you have for your decision? Does it even matter?
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This totally stems from some books I've read and I've been wondering this for a while. This place has a lot more members so I hope to get many, many more responses and different points of view!

 

[Nimcha]

Eh, I'd probably tell them the truth. You know, sometimes relationships don't work out *shrug*

 

[Aetera]

I'd probably try and spin it with a "rescued by Prince(ess) Charming from the wicked loveless relationship" angle.

 

[Hero in a half shell]

Yeah, virtually every character Matthew McConaughey and Ashton Kutcher have played in their rom coms will consider this problem (If the couples in their movies actually display enough competence to stay together long enough to have a child) But those guys would just lie out their asses to their own kids. You know it.

 

[Paksenarrion]

They would probably cheat on their own kids by playing with some other, more popular kid.

 

[Blondi3]

They would probably cheat on their own kids by playing with some other, more popular kid.

lmao, epic post.

Eh cheating has never even entered my mind so I wouldn't be caught in this situation. If my girl cheated on me and started a family, I'd probably find the kids and tell them myself. If I get into a relationship I don't half ass it. I'm also bitter if you couldn't tell.

 

[Dags90]

Is it safe to presume I met the person I cheated with through some other social avenue other than accidentally falling into bed with them? I mean, if you had an affair with, and then married your secretary, it's pretty easy to answer truthfully. "He was my secretary, that's how we met."

I doubt my children will ever actually ask "Did you guys start fucking before you were married?"

 

[Obsideo]

They would probably cheat on their own kids by playing with some other, more popular kid.

I like this answer.

 

[FalloutJack]

Why should it be of any importance to them how you tell it?

 

[game-lover]

Well, that's why I added: "Does it even matter?"

For anyone who thinks like you.

I suppose it's only important if you worry about what your children will think of you in the long run. And anything that could happen afterwards. If any negative consequences would result from telling the truth or lying and having them find out the real deal on their own.

One book I read had this girl try to kill her mother because of the sin of cheating on her father. Granted she was a sociopath, but still.

 

[game-lover]

I just realized that I should likely clarify the question...

Would you tell your children how you Got Together is what I'd really like to know.

 

[chaosyoshimage]

My parents never told me how they got together. It think they worked together or something, I don't really care about their origin story. All I know is two random people got together and through all the possibilities I was created. Don't care what happened with them before that...

 

[impeccable]

I'd tell 'em daddy's a pimp. Don't be jealous.

 

[InfiniteSingularity]

...yeah. Any reason why you wouldn't?