I'm Completely Confused.

[blaize2010]

Okay, so... here's the deal. There's this girl I like (not necessarily romantically, I don't think) who also likes me (as far as I can tell, in the same manner). Recently, however, I said something stupid and she got very angry at me. I apologized no less than 6 times, which is 8 more than my average number of apologies per year. Still, she refuses to talk to me, and I found out from a friend of mine that she said I can be an ass as well as depressing. I found the depressing bit more interesting than the other part, as I've more than once stayed up till four in the morning helping her with... just about all of her problems, which is just kind of something I do. My friend calls it a "Messiah Complex." Anywho, she's just deleted me from Facebook, and I know I should just forget her but... I can't. I've been trying for weeks but she just kinda keeps reentering the conversation. So, what should I do, because I'm honestly at a loss here. Should I forget about it, or keep trying to at least get her to talk to me? (I'm not optimistic enough to say forgive)
Also: please, only serious posts. I really would rather not lose faith in the internet again, being apathiest, it's kind of the only thing I do have faith in.

 

[drisky]

I have no idea what you said, so I can't tell you how to make it up. The reason she is offended makes a difference in how to properly make it up to her. Of course there is not much you can do if someone is giving you the silent treatment, you have no way of having contact with her so its hard to mend fences. Drama kills friendships all the time, even when you aren't directly involved. You don't have to get over it immediately, but just like a break up you can get over a lost friend over time. As for getting her to talk to you again, that depends a lot on her age and what it was you did.

 

[lettucethesallad]

You shouldn't have to apologize 6 times if you were sincere the first time. The way she's clearly refusing to hear you out is really immature. If you still want to be her friend and want to save the possibility to hang out later, I'd say to give her some space. Let her continue with her silent treatment and do something else. If you after some time feel like you want to get back in touch with her, try then. If you feel it's not worth the drama, then that's your call.

It'll be hard at first, like breaking up, but fight the urge to call her or to hang around places where you're more likely to see her, and fill your days with something else. It'll hurt for a bit, but you'll get over it.

 

[Mookowicz]

She's not talking to you because she thinks you're worthless. Perhaps you were an ass, but now she is. Move on.

We can tick people off for decades before we learn that our favourite strengths are also our worst weaknesses. (E.g. Why do you need to listen to other folks' woes? Are you good at gaining trust from others but poor at trusting them in return? Does offering others advice ever help you avoid confiding in them? Does it ever make you feel superior to the people you help?)

My suggestion: forgive yourself, but heed her grievance and learn from it too.

 

[jhlip]

Look, people make mistakes. You may have made one and you need to search your feelings to see if you did and learn from it to better yourself. As for her, it goes like this "Women are crazy" just as "Men are assholes" and that's just the truth of it. If she doesn't want you in her life THAN GOOD RIDDANCE. If you made a mistake and she is unwilling to at least tell you what you did, then fuck her and move on.