Johnny Impact said:
TheDrunkNinja said:
Right now, I was told by her best friend that she's still embarrassed and kind of angry about what happened, saying she feels like I "tricked" her, even though I have no clue how.
Under no circumstances whatsoever is any man allowed to one-up any woman in a conversation, argument, or social situation.
Stated another way: if she is unhappy, she will decide it is your fault. Don't go looking for a reason. There isn't one. It's just they way women are wired.
Good story. I wish I had one like it.
I will turn this into a plaque and hang it up on a wall. That is literary gold right there.
OT: I don't really know how to interpret your story, as the current discussion is is it your loss or hers?
Personally, I think you both dodged a bullet. Obviously those two hang-ups were big enough to keep you two apart, and once outspoken were not going to go away easily. I've been with my bf for quite some time now, and I know his major "hang-up" about me is my lack of self confidence. This in turn causes me to go emo and angsty whenever I think about it, further detering my self confidence. What does this have to do with you two? Women don't like being pointed out their flaws (as it's already been stated) and depending on her personality/personal demons your comment might've really hit her hard.
Her hang-up was something "minor" that could "easily" be changed should you choose to.
Your hang-up was something ingrained in her personality, a part of her very being.
ergo: your hang-up >>>>>>>>> her hang-up. Basically, you had a real issue while she had something she thought you might be able to change, it might be why she brought it up. She might've really thought you two had a shot, and then come to find out your problem was something she'd really really have to work on, to the point of being impossible.
As for the trick. Not only were you "happy" to hear it, but it also coincided perfectly with her hang-up. It's just too good to be true, so I can see where she might think you planned it a bit.
My own personal bullet? Well, I didn't dodge it, took it right to the face. First relationship, was only going out with him because I was desperate, and he was willing. Just.... just epic fail on both of our parts. Totally incompatible, the only thing we had in common was 1 friend and a club. We had different goals, different ethics, different standards.... hell I didn't even like him physically. Still, he broke up with me, probably when I needed him most. That afternoon (it was the morning) I had already come to the conclusion that I missed "my boyfriend" more than the actual person himself. Not the dates, the whatever else that went with it, just the slot in my life that now had a question mark instead of a face.
It did do some good though, I became slightly more confident in myself and became a little more flirty. 4 short months later and I started dating my current bf <3 been together 2.5 years now.
