I'm not sure how to handle this (relationship advice)

[joe the janitor]

I posted this a <a href="http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/538.257260-I-like-this-girl-her-best-friend-likes-me-Damn#9663999
">few weeks back (you might want to read that or this wont make a whole lot of sence).

Girl 1 (the girl I like and am now good friends with) just told me I should ask out girl 2 (who I am also firends with). Other then this realization that she doesn't feel the same way about me (which kinda hurts), I'm just not sure what to do. Should I keep chasing girl 1 or go out with girl 2 because there may not be any chance with girl 1?

*I'm attracted to both of them, just more so with girl 1* (we have more in common)

Edit (how this happened):
Yesturday (Firday) after school I texted her (girl 1) to see if she wanted to hang out tomorrow (Saturday, today). No reply. Today, around 1:30 pm I get a text from her saying that she is busy, but that she has a feeling that her friend (girl 2) likes me and that I should ask her out (this was really out of the blue)! I text back saying that I already knew girl 2 liked me. Then she replies, asking if I like girl 2, and that I should "totally ask girl 2 out". I didn't replay back because, well, I was kinda shocked.

 

[Brutus03]

I tried to chase a female friend one time years ago thinking I had a shot but it didn't happen. If girl 1 said to ask Girl 2 out. Ask Girl 2 out. Just do it.

 

[joe the janitor]

Mmm. I have to ask, did you specifically ask girl 1 if she likes you or not?

No.

While her telling you to ask girl 2 out is an indication, it's not those exact words coming out of her mouth. Until you get those words, I do not think you should really act on what she says until she flat out tells you she likes you or not.

Maybe, but I don't really understand why she would tell me her friend likes me. I should probably be more specific about how this happened:

Yesturday (Firday) after school I texted her (girl 1) to see if she wanted to hang out tomorrow (Saturday, today). No reply. Today, around 1:30 pm I get a text from her saying that she is busy, but that she has a feeling that her friend (girl 2) likes me and that I should ask her out (this was really out of the blue)! I text back saying that I already knew girl 2 liked me. Then she replies, asking if I like girl 2, and that I should "totally ask girl 2 out". I didn't replay back because, well, I was kinda shocked.

I really got to start putting all the info in the topic post

 

[joe the janitor]

Ahh, I see. I still say you ask. You can never be too sure, and I think once you know from her word for word that she does not like you, then you can put that behind you and decide if you want to ask girl 2 out or not. This way, she knows for sure you like her if you haven't told her already straight up, and she can answer you from there based on how she feels, and you can do what you feel is best based off her reply to you.

Thankyou for the advice! Don't know what I would do without the escapist

 

[zombiesinc]

I posted this a <a href="http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/538.257260-I-like-this-girl-her-best-friend-likes-me-Damn#9663999
">few weeks back (you might want to read that or this wont make a whole lot of sence.

Ask girl 1 if she likes you, or better yet, let her know you like her. Perhaps she's suggesting you ask out girl 2 because she knows girl 2 likes you and she's just trying to be helpful and encouraging. For all you know she may like you, and you won't find out unless you bring it up with her directly, rather than taking indications here or there, and stitching them together.

Don't ask girl 2 out unless you're sure you're ready to move on from girl 1, and genuinely want to date girl 2. Don't ask her out simply because there's a decent chance she'll yes. The only reason you should ask someone out is because you want to date them, all other factors should be secondary, if at all.

Best of luck.

 

[Rhaff]

I would recommend asking girl 2 out before you ask girl 1 if she likes you. For the simple reason, that it will become obvious if she does like, as soon as you start messing around with girl 2.

 

[joe the janitor]

I would recommend asking girl 2 out before you ask girl 1 if she likes you. For the simple reason, that it will become obvious if she does like, as soon as you start messing around with girl 2.

I like girl 1 more though. I'm not going to ask out girl 2 just to make girl 1 jealous. That would be mean to both of them.

 

[Rhaff]

I would recommend asking girl 2 out before you ask girl 1 if she likes you. For the simple reason, that it will become obvious if she does like, as soon as you start messing around with girl 2.

I like girl 1 more though. I'm not going to ask out girl 2 just to make girl 1 jealous. That would be mean to both of them.

I wasn't saying that you should do it to make her jealous, but you dont seem to have the guts to ask her straight up, so i recommended it as a means to find out wether or not she likes you. Im sorry to say, but odds are that girl 1 doesn't feel the same way as you do, and if you make any sort of move on her, you will most likely annihilate what ever chance you have with girl 2, seeing as they are friends..

 

[joe the janitor]

I wasn't saying that you should do it to make her jealous, but you dont seem to have the guts to ask her straight up,

I think I might have the guts. To be honest this weekend (so far) has been me trying to work up that corage.

so i recommended it as a means to find out wether or not she likes you. Im sorry to say, but odds are that girl 1 doesn't feel the same way as you do,

Your probably right, but I think I need some sort of closure from girl 1 if I'm going to date her friend.

and if you make any sort of move on her, you will most likely annihilate what ever chance you have with girl 2, seeing as they are friends..

She is a pretty resonable and trustworthy person, I think I could get her to promise me not to tell girl 2.

Anyway I appreciate the help man, if you have anymore advice don't hesitate to tell

 

[Rhaff]

I wasn't saying that you should do it to make her jealous, but you dont seem to have the guts to ask her straight up,

I think I might have the guts. To be honest this weekend (so far) has been me trying to work up that corage.

so i recommended it as a means to find out wether or not she likes you. Im sorry to say, but odds are that girl 1 doesn't feel the same way as you do,

Your probably right, but I think I need some sort of closure from girl 1 if I'm going to date her friend.

and if you make any sort of move on her, you will most likely annihilate what ever chance you have with girl 2, seeing as they are friends..

She is a pretty resonable and trustworthy person, I think I could get her to promise me not to tell girl 2.

Anyway I appreciate the help man, if you have anymore advice don't hesitate to tell

One last bit of advice. While she may be trustworthy normally, you have to remember that women, and especially as teenagers, are very irrational when it comes to relationships, particularly when jealousy is involved. But i wish you good luck, and hope it all works out no matter what you do