I'm not talking to you.

[AkJay]

Isn't the whole "Friends with Benefits" main keypoint is not not have "lovers quarrels" because it sounds to me like you have an actually relationship going on. you poor, poor bastard.

 

[Sindaine]

Wow. I'll personally never understand why they go crazy over stuff like that. I'm assuming that of course you tried to tell her you were friends but she wasn't having any of it? To be honest, I would be(in your position)pretty hurt that she didn't believe me, it's weird cause she's your girlfriend, you would think that would speak volumes, right?

Put it this way. Including me? 4/5 boyfriends she's had have gone gay.

The other is now living as a woman.

I almost WISH I was joking

wow, ouch. Did you realize you liked men before or after dumping her?

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

Isn't the whole "Friends with Benefits" main keypoint is not not have "lovers quarrels" because it sounds to me like you have an actually relationship going on. you poor, poor bastard.

Lol. I'm not sure really, I'm not looking for a relationship and circumstances permitted she's not looking for one specifically with me because of stuff that's happened between us. Loads of uni students are arriving in my town now though, alot of hot girls more precisely so it'll be good to get to know them, kinda tired of this arrangement and of being single.

 

[EeveeElectro]

It's alright Max, I understand your asexuality so it's cool

Ugk, this made me kinda angry.
I want to say serves you right for having a friend with benifits, I absolutely hate the idea of that. And the 'hurr hurr, I can get secks' thing I'm getting.

"Annoyed doesn't begin to describe how I'm feeling at the moment but I'm not that bothered, she'll cool off, they all do"
That line annoyed me too, 'they all do' I hate that generalised view men have of us. Don't men get pissed off?
I'm far from feminist, but come on. Also I'm bored and any message is a message.
And yes, I've got pissed off at my boyfriend before, but I'm only human.

Hurr hurr, I can get secks
It may be a generalised view but it's more than founded if it's become a generalisation, and I never said men don't get pissed off. Please learn to read.

I know, but your post just seemed to be one of those typical 'oh, those bloody women, all the same, they can't be as laid back as us' things men say, mainly male comedienons (Patrick Kielty).
Also, 'please learn to read.' It would be pretty useless being unable to read and taking English at A-level and possibly at uni, yes?

 

[Ryokugax]

wow, ouch. Did you realize you liked men before or after dumping her?

Long after. I ended it in May '08 and in Jan '09 I just started dating my boyfriend.

 

[historybuff]

well there was this time.. we had this close friend group.. Me, my best friend , this girl, this other girl (first girls best friend), and 2 other none relevant guys. i fall in love with the first girl and she liked me, so i screwed around with her (in my best friends face).. to bad he loved her before me, and i kinda promised not to take her.. (stupid hormones..) so i lost my best friend.. our relationship broke because she liked her ex to much.. days after the break up, i started screwing around with her best friend. pissed the first girl of.. making her mad at the secend girl.. then the secend girl started hating me because, her best friend hated her.. so she broke up to.. so I lost my best friend and 2 good femile friends all in one week .. god that was probably my worst week ever -_-"

ps: neither of the 3 are talking to me -_-"

Man. You asked for all of that.


And no, I don't often run into this crap because I don't date immature boys anymore. I learned my lesson in high school that guys can be just as whiny, abusive, unfaithful and passive aggressive as some of you deem women to be.

But mature men are upfront, know what they want and are willing to make basic attempts to communicate because we understand that the other is not a mind reader.

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

It's alright Max, I understand your asexuality so it's cool

Ugk, this made me kinda angry.
I want to say serves you right for having a friend with benifits, I absolutely hate the idea of that. And the 'hurr hurr, I can get secks' thing I'm getting.

"Annoyed doesn't begin to describe how I'm feeling at the moment but I'm not that bothered, she'll cool off, they all do"
That line annoyed me too, 'they all do' I hate that generalised view men have of us. Don't men get pissed off?
I'm far from feminist, but come on. Also I'm bored and any message is a message.
And yes, I've got pissed off at my boyfriend before, but I'm only human.

Hurr hurr, I can get secks
It may be a generalised view but it's more than founded if it's become a generalisation, and I never said men don't get pissed off. Please learn to read.

I know, but your post just seemed to be one of those typical 'oh, those bloody women, all the same, they can't be as laid back as us' things men say, mainly male comedienons (Patrick Kielty).
Also, 'please learn to read.' It would be pretty useless being unable to read and taking English at A-level and possibly at uni, yes?

I suppose for taking English also it would mean you read too much into words and finding things that aren't there. No, it wasn't meant to sound like any male comedians. "It seems"? Thank you for putting words in my mouth, that's all I'll say on this.

 

[Alpha Centauri]

This is where my excellent memory and good arguing skills come into play. Very rarely do I loose and when I do it because I give up because I would rather do something else. Oh and Im basically immune to philological attacks because of all the bullying I've been trough, one thing that drove my ex crazy, is my neutral mood, not happy not sad just there.

So when I did something 'wrong' or she got pissed off, I would argue usually win then got into neutral. She hated that, and it was my revenge for her cheating on me.

 

[TriggerUnhappy]

FwB is usually a very bad idea resulting in someone being seriously hurt.

My favorite from my lady friends is when I ask what it is I did and get a response "No, it's what you DIDn'T DO!"
I reply "How could I know what I didn't do if I didn't do it? I don't do a lot of things. I didn't fire a gun into the air. I didn't water the lawn yesterday..." Then I filibuster all the things I didn't do until she
A) just tells me
B) I get in even worse trouble

Usually the 2nd one happens despite my flawless plan.

It seems to be the opposite for me. I'll ask what I did, and they'll respond "You KNOW!" when really I don't, otherwise I wouldn't be asking so I can explain/apologize. I stopped talking to a girl for a couple weeks over this, and eventually she told me what she thought happened, and it turned into another friend's word vs mine, despite all the explanations I made. (eyewitnesses too) Regardless, I eventually just went up to her and said that I didn't recall doing that, but that I was sorry regardless. She then told me (in a surprisingly sweet way) that it was alright. I'm a very hard-headed and proud person, but I know when to give up fighting over something trivial, especially when it leads to friendships and such ending. Actually, I don't think I've ever met a girl as hard-headed as me aside from her.

 

[Takoto]

My ex went looking in my laptop while I was out and found a whole lot of chatlogs I'd had where a female friend of mine and I had been flirting. We've known each other for years and it was just how we worked, playful flirting here and there with no real intent, and my ex went ballistic. Drank half a bottle of single malt scotch, which still hurts me today because it was a very nice scotch indeed, and stayed silent for most of the day.

No offense, but she had a reason too be annoyed at you. That maybe how you and your friend acted for years, but... yeah.


Anyway, my ex girlfriend never got in a huff over anything, and my boyfriend right now certainly doesn't.... xD

 

[RollForInitiative]

I haven't had that happen in a while, mostly because I stopped dealing with immature people. Prior to making that decision, however, I saw enough ridiculous behaviour like that to last a lifetime.

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

My ex went looking in my laptop while I was out and found a whole lot of chatlogs I'd had where a female friend of mine and I had been flirting. We've known each other for years and it was just how we worked, playful flirting here and there with no real intent, and my ex went ballistic. Drank half a bottle of single malt scotch, which still hurts me today because it was a very nice scotch indeed, and stayed silent for most of the day.

No offense, but she had a reason too be annoyed at you. That maybe how you and your friend acted for years, but... yeah.


Anyway, my ex girlfriend never got in a huff over anything, and my boyfriend right now certainly doesn't.... xD

Really she shouldn't have gone on his laptop whilst he was out in the first place, quite an untrustworthy thing for her to do to him. Her overreacting to it is even worse, he(no doubt)explained himself but she didn't believe him, he's in the wrong you say?

I kinda have the same "problem" with my best friend of 5 odd years,(who's a girl)we hang out, eat out and talk for ages. During college everyone thought we were going out, and I missed opportunities with alot of girls because they thought she was my girlfriend, but to be honest I'm glad because if a girl doesn't have the balls to ask if we're just friends or not then I doubt it's going to go anywhere cause they can't even ask a simple question. She has a boyfriend also and he's a swell guy too

 

[Takoto]

My ex went looking in my laptop while I was out and found a whole lot of chatlogs I'd had where a female friend of mine and I had been flirting. We've known each other for years and it was just how we worked, playful flirting here and there with no real intent, and my ex went ballistic. Drank half a bottle of single malt scotch, which still hurts me today because it was a very nice scotch indeed, and stayed silent for most of the day.

No offense, but she had a reason too be annoyed at you. That maybe how you and your friend acted for years, but... yeah.


Anyway, my ex girlfriend never got in a huff over anything, and my boyfriend right now certainly doesn't.... xD

Really she shouldn't have gone on his laptop whilst he was out in the first place, quite an untrustworthy thing for her to do to him. Her overreacting to it is even worse, he(no doubt)explained himself but she didn't believe him, he's in the wrong you say?

I kinda have the same "problem" with my best friend of 5 odd years,(who's a girl)we hang out, eat out and talk for ages. During college everyone thought we were going out, and I missed opportunities with alot of girls because they thought she was my girlfriend, but to be honest I'm glad because if a girl doesn't have the balls to ask if we're just friends or not then I doubt it's going to go anywhere cause they can't even ask a simple question. She has a boyfriend also and he's a swell guy too

I hate to sound like a dick, but if he didn't want anyone going on it he should have password'd it, or put a password no one would have guessed.

 

[skywalkerlion]

well there was this time.. we had this close friend group.. Me, my best friend , this girl, this other girl (first girls best friend), and 2 other none relevant guys. i fall in love with the first girl and she liked me, so i screwed around with her (in my best friends face).. to bad he loved her before me, and i kinda promised not to take her.. (stupid hormones..) so i lost my best friend.. our relationship broke because she liked her ex to much.. days after the break up, i started screwing around with her best friend. pissed the first girl of.. making her mad at the secend girl.. then the secend girl started hating me because, her best friend hated her.. so she broke up to.. so I lost my best friend and 2 good femile friends all in one week .. god that was probably my worst week ever -_-"

ps: neither of the 3 are talking to me -_-"

No offense, but you deserve it.

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

My ex went looking in my laptop while I was out and found a whole lot of chatlogs I'd had where a female friend of mine and I had been flirting. We've known each other for years and it was just how we worked, playful flirting here and there with no real intent, and my ex went ballistic. Drank half a bottle of single malt scotch, which still hurts me today because it was a very nice scotch indeed, and stayed silent for most of the day.

No offense, but she had a reason too be annoyed at you. That maybe how you and your friend acted for years, but... yeah.


Anyway, my ex girlfriend never got in a huff over anything, and my boyfriend right now certainly doesn't.... xD

Really she shouldn't have gone on his laptop whilst he was out in the first place, quite an untrustworthy thing for her to do to him. Her overreacting to it is even worse, he(no doubt)explained himself but she didn't believe him, he's in the wrong you say?

I kinda have the same "problem" with my best friend of 5 odd years,(who's a girl)we hang out, eat out and talk for ages. During college everyone thought we were going out, and I missed opportunities with alot of girls because they thought she was my girlfriend, but to be honest I'm glad because if a girl doesn't have the balls to ask if we're just friends or not then I doubt it's going to go anywhere cause they can't even ask a simple question. She has a boyfriend also and he's a swell guy too

I hate to sound like a dick, but if he didn't want anyone going on it he should have password'd it, or put a password no one would have guessed.

I have to give you that one lol.
"Note to self. In event of girlfriend password protect computer, phone, and put passwords on anything else that can have a password put on it. When questioned about them automatic response is to be: "What, don't you trust me?""

 

[MiracleOfSound]

It is understandable. 'Friends with benefits' is in itself a volatile and emotionally risky situation to get into.

When a fuck buddy (the other way of saying 'friend with benefits') realises that this is indeed the deepest level of intimacy he/she is going to achieve with you, he/she may get a little upset.

I think you should maybe try, I dunno... talking to her, instead of posting behind her back on the internet.

 

[Xorghul]

Wow. I'll personally never understand why they go crazy over stuff like that. I'm assuming that of course you tried to tell her you were friends but she wasn't having any of it? To be honest, I would be(in your position)pretty hurt that she didn't believe me, it's weird cause she's your girlfriend, you would think that would speak volumes, right?

Put it this way. Including me? 4/5 boyfriends she's had have gone gay.

The other is now living as a woman.

I almost WISH I was joking

That. Is. Fucking. Brilliant.

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

She's given me one word answers so far so I think it's best I leave it for the time being. I would call her if she didn't have to get up early for college tomorrow and possibly wouldn't bite my head off. I'll just leave her to simmer for now, maybe tomorrow everything will be right in the world again

EDIT: To miracleofsound

 

[Ryokugax]

That. Is. Fucking. Brilliant.

I know, right? What made it better was the fact that I knew that during the relationship, and it ended extremely bitterly, so when I found myself attracted to my friend this little horrible voice in the back of my head went "Oh yes, that's right. Number 4 she's sent on the turn. IT'S HER!!!"

 

[curty129]

FwB is usually a very bad idea resulting in someone being seriously hurt.

My favorite from my lady friends is when I ask what it is I did and get a response "No, it's what you DIDn'T DO!"
I reply "How could I know what I didn't do if I didn't do it? I don't do a lot of things. I didn't fire a gun into the air. I didn't water the lawn yesterday..." Then I filibuster all the things I didn't do until she
A) just tells me
B) I get in even worse trouble

Usually the 2nd one happens despite my flawless plan.

You're right! It's bloody flawless yet always fails.

My girlfriend is just generally a bit of a *****, but im used to her in bad moods and she's almost convinced me that it's not my fault.. Though.. Im pretty sure it is.. Even if i'm not exactly sure what i did.

I'm still feeling my love for her when she's pissed off at me though, kinda angry at myself tbh, so it's all right ^^ Just apologise and do everything you can to make it better. Sometime's the foetal position works too (Not literally). You'll come off as a baby but i swear it works. Helps if you can be cute :3