I'm worried. Should I be?

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There are three kinds of drunk:
The Aggressive, pretty straight forward .. gets into fights.
The Happy, the ones that ask you how you are and just smile and chuckle along with things.
Then there is the Sad Drunk, this is your brother. They often break down and think about all of the flaws in their life, I knew one and he would just cry and talk about how his parents don't love him. Basically just reassure him and tell him not to get pissed off his tits.

 

[The Salty Vulcan]

Again, thankyou for all the support you have shown. I would just like to update you all that he is awake and fine. We had a discussion and he has said that he can't really remember it and that it was probably the booze talking. We discussed things like his jobs and he's thinking of dropping one of them (life guard at a water park). Rightnow he's napping, he's an extroadinarily lazy guy despite his jobs, and were spending the day together. I was trying to explain the premise of Last Action Hero and the idea of metafiction before he fell asleep.

Once again thankyou very much for the support you all have shown.

 

[Paksenarrion]

He might be feeling guilty about something. It'll take time, but keep offering to be a shoulder to cry on. Hopefully he'll tell you what it is, unless it involves you. I hope he's not the type to cover up a moment of weakness with aggressive bravado.

 

[The Salty Vulcan]

He might be feeling guilty about something. It'll take time, but keep offering to be a shoulder to cry on. Hopefully he'll tell you what it is, unless it involves you. I hope he's not the type to cover up a moment of weakness with aggressive bravado.

Umm actually thats a trait we both seem to possess to some extent...in my defence he does do it worse than I, or at least more...enthusiastically?

 

[Kurokami]

Well, a few minutes ago my usual routine was kinda interrupted when my brother "stepped" through the door. Now my brother had a pretty big day today: After work, he and his workmates and best friends went to the bar and my brother, a little worse for wear to put it delicately, had a pretty good time considering. Now I helped him vomit and shower (not an experience I ever hope to revisit) and put him to bed. Now heres where this thread gains its relevance. As soon as my little brother got in bed, stark raving drunk and unable to walk staight, he broke down crying. When asked he simply replied "I hate my Life".

Allow me to paint a clearer picture of my brother: He's popular, in great shape, has three jobs which keep him afloat financially and is unanimously loved by all despite his many, many flaws. Now he has said that he has hated his Life before but as a joke, or so it seemed, to upset my parents (I dunno why, your asking me to explain the inner workings of a guy who thinks Pauley Shore is funny?) but the way he broke down tonight...well im starting to think it may be more than a joke. Even though I don't really like my brother*, I am worried. Though I'm not too sure if I should be. Any advice?

*I may not like the guy but he is still my brother and I'll always love him.

NOTE: I was able to talk him down and reassure him in case your wondering.

This might not be something you're keen to answer but... Why'd you help him with showering...?

I mean, was he THAT dirty? One night without a shower wouldn't be too bad, especially if he's already gonna be hung over and smelling of booze. And he must have been really out of it to not have been able to shower himself (I've always seemed to get it done). I guess maybe you're just that responsible an older brother, but it does seem a wee bit weird.

Anyway, everybody tends to have something to ***** about, generally its those with the time who can afford to fixate on them though, you could always ask him what aspects of his life he hates. Probably the 'flaws' you mentioned.

 

[nofear220]

The first problem is alcohol ... the second problem is alcohol ... the third problem is alcohol ... If you want to worry about something, that would be it.

Yeah, I vote that it was the booze. People get really emotional when they drink too much and throw up.

 

[The Salty Vulcan]

Well, a few minutes ago my usual routine was kinda interrupted when my brother "stepped" through the door. Now my brother had a pretty big day today: After work, he and his workmates and best friends went to the bar and my brother, a little worse for wear to put it delicately, had a pretty good time considering. Now I helped him vomit and shower (not an experience I ever hope to revisit) and put him to bed. Now heres where this thread gains its relevance. As soon as my little brother got in bed, stark raving drunk and unable to walk staight, he broke down crying. When asked he simply replied "I hate my Life".

Allow me to paint a clearer picture of my brother: He's popular, in great shape, has three jobs which keep him afloat financially and is unanimously loved by all despite his many, many flaws. Now he has said that he has hated his Life before but as a joke, or so it seemed, to upset my parents (I dunno why, your asking me to explain the inner workings of a guy who thinks Pauley Shore is funny?) but the way he broke down tonight...well im starting to think it may be more than a joke. Even though I don't really like my brother*, I am worried. Though I'm not too sure if I should be. Any advice?

*I may not like the guy but he is still my brother and I'll always love him.

NOTE: I was able to talk him down and reassure him in case your wondering.

This might not be something you're keen to answer but... Why'd you help him with showering...?

I mean, was he THAT dirty? One night without a shower wouldn't be too bad, especially if he's already gonna be hung over and smelling of booze. And he must have been really out of it to not have been able to shower himself (I've always seemed to get it done). I guess maybe you're just that responsible an older brother, but it does seem a wee bit weird.

Anyway, everybody tends to have something to ***** about, generally its those with the time who can afford to fixate on them though, you could always ask him what aspects of his life he hates. Probably the 'flaws' you mentioned.

The guy was hardly able to stand straight, ya think I'm gonna leave him alone on a wet tiled surface by himself! Besides he had came back home still in his steel mill uniform so he was worse for wear.

 

[Paksenarrion]

He might be feeling guilty about something. It'll take time, but keep offering to be a shoulder to cry on. Hopefully he'll tell you what it is, unless it involves you. I hope he's not the type to cover up a moment of weakness with aggressive bravado.

Umm actually thats a trait we both seem to possess to some extent...in my defence he does do it worse than I, or at least more...enthusiastically?

Well, uh...I guess, spend lots of "bro" time with him? Have a few drinks, play a couple of games, relax in a sauna...I'm not quite sure how these things go, but if those stories I read online are correct, your brother will either open up to you and tell you what's wrong, or I'll have some very vivid yaoi incest fantasies tonight...

 

[Crashage]

Three jobs and wild nights?

It's possible that he's stressed out and small issues grow into huge problems due to him not handling them correctly. If he's willing to open up to you, and you're willing to really listen, then I think you could probably help him. Having someone to vent your worries to can be an enormous help, especially if you're stressed as well.

Also, does he get enough sleep and does he have some sort of physical activity that he does on a regular basis? Enough sleep is very important, especially when you work three jobs you'll need all your brain power and energy. Working out helps get aggressiveness out of your system and it's easier to handle things when you're calm.

Hope I helped.

Exactly this. With so much going on it would be easy to feel like all the small things that aren't really problems are actually huge and in truth, just talking to you probably helped massively. I wouldn't force anything or worry about it, but I would demand breakfast after having cleaned him up!

 

[The Salty Vulcan]

He might be feeling guilty about something. It'll take time, but keep offering to be a shoulder to cry on. Hopefully he'll tell you what it is, unless it involves you. I hope he's not the type to cover up a moment of weakness with aggressive bravado.

Umm actually thats a trait we both seem to possess to some extent...in my defence he does do it worse than I, or at least more...enthusiastically?

Well, uh...I guess, spend lots of "bro" time with him? Have a few drinks, play a couple of games, relax in a sauna...

Well that doesn't sound like a bad ide...

your brother will either open up to you and tell you what's wrong, or I'll have some very vivid yaoi incest fantasies tonight...

D:

 

[WanderingFool]

Ive had days where I felt my life sucked and I hated it, wanting it all to end... but than i see something that makes me go, "WOW!!! Thats guys life sucks worse than mine!" and I typically feel better. I would keep an eye one the matter, and be supportive if needed, but dont be to agressive on the matter.

 

[MikhailGH]

Wow I saw some huge posts there...
Very simple, talk to him, ask him what is going on in his life, and what made him say that.