I'm your mother and "I can do whatever I want" attitude
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My mom passed, but I hated it when ever she uses the phrases "Because I said so" or "If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?"
I envy you because my brother and sister wake me up by having the dog bark. I don't bother asking them to stop, since I learned, they will realize it annoys me and do it more obnoxious with joy. They tend to have dogs jump on my bed with claws and all too.Jiraiya72 said:
I know how annoying it is to be woken up in deep sleep but just sleep on a couch far away from her cleaning.
Because unless you work a night shift your ass should be out of bed by 9 in the morning. My guess is she did it on purpose to wake you up and piss you off because the rest of house was already up and around and she figured you should be too.Jiraiya72 said:
Unless you pay rent for your lovely bedroom with attached bathroom hate to say it but your mom's right, it IS her house and SHE CAN do whatever she wants. Be glad she doesn't go snooping through your stuff when you're not there like my parents did.
[HEADING=1]THE TOPIC IS ABOUT COURTESY[/HEADING]
Everyone, stop being a dick. Stop instantly parroting "move out", "wake up earlier" and "respect your parents" and see the other side of the situation.
When you live with someone, you should give them a reasonable amount of courtesy. If you're being woken up after you crashed from the graveyard shift because your mother is cleaning your bathroom, then you have every right to complain when you've told her countless times not to do it because it's potentially disrupting your sleep. No matter the location, with roommates, parents or a significant other, you can complain about it and get pissed off, because they're being an asshole. The fact that they may own a portion of the house or are doing chores while they ignore your needs is irrelevant.
Secondly, shouting "move out" is a heinous dick-move. Just because the person who we're living with is giving us unneeded inconvenience that is disrupting my day to day routine, is no way a good reason to drop everything and get an apartment. You shouldn't have to do that.
Finally, fuck off now about "you should wake up earlier than this/at this time". Just shut the fuck up. You, or anyone else in my life, have no relevance to my personal routine and how I live my life. Just because you're saying that I should wake up earlier because you do is irrelevant. I have my own priorities and a schedule of my own, simply because I may or may not live with my parents does not give you a good reason to say that I should drop everything and conform to the schedule of everyone else.
This is where it runs back to the original purpose of the topic that people have stupidly missed because they're too busy spelunking up their own asses.
You shouldn't instantly drop everything in your life because you're living in your parents house, or even an apartment for that matter. If I'm paying the rent, I can complain about it. I do not have to shut up about it. Pulling the "I'm the parent, do what I say" is a good way of making sure you're gonna get bitten in the ass when you retire and have to rely on your children.
Before anyone misses the point again and complains, my parents are fine. We get along because we respect our individual priorities. They stay out of my business, I stay out of theirs. They do not rudely wake me up, in fact, I sleep whenever I damn well please because I'm on a break, which is frankly deserved. In my house we show courtesy by cleaning up after ourselves, and I do not do chores for the sake of doing chores, I do my chores based on what I consume in the house, and that is fair. I don't do chores "because they said so", because that's a great way for them to isolate themselves from any of my help in the future.
Everyone, stop being a dick. Stop instantly parroting "move out", "wake up earlier" and "respect your parents" and see the other side of the situation.
When you live with someone, you should give them a reasonable amount of courtesy. If you're being woken up after you crashed from the graveyard shift because your mother is cleaning your bathroom, then you have every right to complain when you've told her countless times not to do it because it's potentially disrupting your sleep. No matter the location, with roommates, parents or a significant other, you can complain about it and get pissed off, because they're being an asshole. The fact that they may own a portion of the house or are doing chores while they ignore your needs is irrelevant.
Secondly, shouting "move out" is a heinous dick-move. Just because the person who we're living with is giving us unneeded inconvenience that is disrupting my day to day routine, is no way a good reason to drop everything and get an apartment. You shouldn't have to do that.
Finally, fuck off now about "you should wake up earlier than this/at this time". Just shut the fuck up. You, or anyone else in my life, have no relevance to my personal routine and how I live my life. Just because you're saying that I should wake up earlier because you do is irrelevant. I have my own priorities and a schedule of my own, simply because I may or may not live with my parents does not give you a good reason to say that I should drop everything and conform to the schedule of everyone else.
This is where it runs back to the original purpose of the topic that people have stupidly missed because they're too busy spelunking up their own asses.
You shouldn't instantly drop everything in your life because you're living in your parents house, or even an apartment for that matter. If I'm paying the rent, I can complain about it. I do not have to shut up about it. Pulling the "I'm the parent, do what I say" is a good way of making sure you're gonna get bitten in the ass when you retire and have to rely on your children.
Before anyone misses the point again and complains, my parents are fine. We get along because we respect our individual priorities. They stay out of my business, I stay out of theirs. They do not rudely wake me up, in fact, I sleep whenever I damn well please because I'm on a break, which is frankly deserved. In my house we show courtesy by cleaning up after ourselves, and I do not do chores for the sake of doing chores, I do my chores based on what I consume in the house, and that is fair. I don't do chores "because they said so", because that's a great way for them to isolate themselves from any of my help in the future.
It is funny how it is true it is hard to pull a rational argument with most parents... A lot of the time it seems "LET ME BE CRAZY AND SHUT UP!"Paddin said:
The only thing I yell at my parents for in coming in without knocking. My mom loves nothing more than to burst into my room and say "Let's go shopping!" Also there's no schedule for it either, it can be at 9am when I'm still sleeping or when I get out of the shower and am still half naked.
I totally agree! Fuck people being treated with respect, they are meat bags that need to listen! /sarcasmhistorybuff said:
No offence, but you sound like a total dick. I would tell the OP to grow up and move to another couch farthest from his mother but I have empathy for this kind of situation.
Well, then I hope you never have children because if you actually did that, you would be a terrible parent.Aethren said:
Do you pay rent?Jiraiya72 said:
Do you work?
Do you clean up after yourself?
Just asking. [EDIT] Because that does count as common courtesy too.
He fucking pays rents so yeah, being treated like a freeloader would make her a terrible *****. Why should SHE get rights over stuff PAID BY HIM for HIMSELF or given to HIM.nicholaxxx said:
I don't care what you say, his room is HIS-DAMN-ROOM. Not hers. She may legally own it, but its his.
His mother was being in considerate by choosing to clean noisily in his room first, he got annoyed, she replied with a douchebag argument (see also: "because I'm a teacher", "because I say so", "dont talk back to me"). He's well within his right to be annoyed by all of that. Does that mean he's ungrateful about free cleaning? No, fuck no. It means he's ungrateful about being woken up.
I get pissed when stuff is organised on my behalf and I'm not informed, doesn't mean I'm pissed about stuff happening on my behalf, it means I'm pissed because I wasn never involved in stuff that concerns me and requires my participation further down the line.
"also don't claim the high ground if she pays the bills yeah she does have the right."
Okay, seriously fuck off if you're all going to keep using this argument. He pays her bills too. Legal ownership doesnt entitle her to be a *****.
Tell you what, you give me the money to buy something, I buy it, then I break it into little pieces in front of your face, by your own logic you have no right to complain in the slightest since I'm automatically entitled to do what ever the hell I want to since I technically bought it.
aka: STFU guys, you all sound like you're getting sourfaced just because their house has three bathrooms and he gets up a little later than you do. Newsflash: That doesnt make them rich, and being rich doesn't necessarily mean you have to be lazy, if anything it means you'll have to work extra hard to keep up that income level.
A Pious Cultist said:
Finally some sense, the amount of people who are complaining about ridiculous and irrelevant things in this thread is unbelievable.Mr Montmorency said:
I hate it when my mom does this. Whenever she says it's her house I always think "No you're a half time teacher. You can't afford this house. This is my dads house." But I've always had the common sense not to say that to her face. Sometimes my parents treat me like a toddler.
she's letting him use that bedroom and is letting him use the en suite bathroom, he has a fucking job, he's not going to school, and he can pay for all the shit he needs, yet he hasn't moved out. he has no right to complain than, when his mother decides to do something in her house.A Pious Cultist said:
While I absolutely hate the attitude she took, I can understand her reasoning. She was just cleaning your bathroom for you (something that is rather nice, actually), and probably decided to do your's first so that she could get it out of the way and you could fall back to sleep.
If it was like...4 in the morning, that would kinda suck. Nothing to get pissed about, but it would suck. But at 9 in the morning? It might as well be lunch! xD