Internet Dating: Stupid or Worthy?

[LaughingTarget]

No, one or both will lie. No one would tell the truth if they have a wall of protection

Lying is easy, you don't need a keyboard to do it. Still, be it text or face-to-face, lies ALWAYS break down. You can catch the BS just as easy reading text as you can with a vocal conversation.

 

[Ken Korda]

I'll share my story with you for what it's worth:

I met my girlfriend about 2 and a half years ago after which we were physically together for about eight or nine months after which she had to leave the country however we've stayed together through skype and through regular visits and while it's been difficult at times it's worked out so far. This August I'm leaving my country and going to live with her. I guess this will be the 'ultimate test' but I really don't forsee any trouble, maybe I'm naive but we've been in such close contact I know here better now than I ever did when we lived in the same country.
I suppose you'll just have to whathc this space and if you see a thread some time this October where I'm crying about things not working out you'll have your answer.

 

[Pimppeter2]

No, one or both will lie. No one would tell the truth if they have a wall of protection

Lying is easy, you don't need a keyboard to do it. Still, be it text or face-to-face, lies ALWAYS break down. You can catch the BS just as easy reading text as you can with a vocal conversation.

No it isnt.


(lets say you thing Im 30)
If I told you I was a policeman; How would you know? Assuming Im not an idiot and glorify things to an extreme, you could not be able to find out. Ever.

Lieing is easier behind a keybord. Or in this case in an online relationship becuause deep down, you know you're never going to meet eacheother (most likely). So why not lie for fun?

 

[D_987]

If we are talking about people who have long distance relationships over the internet with NO personal contact, then perhaps that is just nonsense.

However, if you are talking about people meeting each other online for real world relationships, then I'm a 110% believer in that. I met my wife through a dating site, we chatted for a bit, met in person, and things just got better from there. My wife and I convinced my brother to try it too, and now he's in a very happy relationship as well. So I do believe that it works.

This.

Internet Dating without personal contact is not dating, but meeting someone through the internet can create romances - after all there are a wider range of people for the person to interact with.

 

[VitalSigns]

Stupid, in my opinion. Physical interaction is very important, Some people are completely different over the internet than in real life. Plus sex is very healthy and in my opinion necessary in a relationship. Some will argue with that but its my view, I fall in love with a person, not a picture and some text.

So what you're trying to say that you fall in love with a person's 3d image (body) and some "text" - interpreted speech (And it's not like you can't use microphones on the internet, no sir, gotta be face to face for that! )

I don't know how well "long distance" relationships work - but I assume that if they do it, they get along without sex just fine. Have nothing against that, but sex is hardly necessary for a meaningful relationship of some kind. Although fun and healthy.

I've met real friends on internet whom I later met in real life - and they are certainly much more of a fit for me then just about anybody from my normal circles. So if you can start a friendship online, you can probably start a romantic relationship just as well.

Of course, a strictly online romantic relationship would be pretty pointless. E-friendship, maybe. Whatever.

I knew if i mentioned sex people might respond this way, of course part of loving someone is finding them attractive physically, I don't see how anyone would stay with someone if inside they thought they were ugly, thats common sense. Assuming your a faithful person Sex is something you get to do with one person only, its the one activity that separates them from being a really close friend. It is an expression of your love, and your feelings for one another, its not the most important thing in the relationship, but if you say it doesn't carry any significance than I feel sorry for you because with my Fiancee it is a time of connection and intimacy that I don't share with anyone else. Plus there are an abundance of hormones released during orgasm (for girls, not so sure about guys) that makes a girl feel the chemical feeling of love.

 

[D_987]

I think they're good because they give me some lesser people to laugh at when I'm bord.

Let me put into contrast just how pathetic you sound:

That's like myself claiming I laugh at your comments because I have a higher post count.

 

[Lord_Ascendant]

*SEARCH BUTTON PLEASE*

And if two people love each other it dosen't matter what medium they meet through.

 

[LaughingTarget]

No, one or both will lie. No one would tell the truth if they have a wall of protection

Lying is easy, you don't need a keyboard to do it. Still, be it text or face-to-face, lies ALWAYS break down. You can catch the BS just as easy reading text as you can with a vocal conversation.

No it isnt.


(lets say you thing Im 30)
If I told you I was a policeman; How would you know? Assuming Im not an idiot and glorify things to an extreme, you could not be able to find out. Ever.

Lieing is easier behind a keybord. Or in this case in an online relationship becuause deep down, you know you're never going to meet eacheother (most likely). So why not lie for fun?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frank_Abagnale

Dude, it is easy to lie to someone's face and get away with it.

 

[-Orgasmatron-]

I think they're good because they give me some lesser people to laugh at when I'm bord.

Let me put into contrast just how pathetic you sound:

That's like myself claiming I laugh at your comments because I have a higher post count.

Whatever makes you happy man.

 

[Pimppeter2]

No, one or both will lie. No one would tell the truth if they have a wall of protection

Lying is easy, you don't need a keyboard to do it. Still, be it text or face-to-face, lies ALWAYS break down. You can catch the BS just as easy reading text as you can with a vocal conversation.

No it isnt.


(lets say you thing Im 30)
If I told you I was a policeman; How would you know? Assuming Im not an idiot and glorify things to an extreme, you could not be able to find out. Ever.

Lieing is easier behind a keybord. Or in this case in an online relationship becuause deep down, you know you're never going to meet eacheother (most likely). So why not lie for fun?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frank_Abagnale

Dude, it is easy to lie to someone's face and get away with it.

Obiously lieing is easy. A three year old can look you in the eyes and tell you he didn't break your goddamn brand new oblivion collectors disk that little spoiled brat peice of shit...... my bad.

Anyway, the thing is, not only is it easy to lie about your life, but your appearence as well

 

[Sparcrypt]

Meeting people yes, but if you can't see them? Pointless.

 

[VitalSigns]

Stupid, in my opinion. Physical interaction is very important, Some people are completely different over the internet than in real life. Plus sex is very healthy and in my opinion necessary in a relationship. Some will argue with that but its my view, I fall in love with a person, not a picture and some text.

So what you're trying to say that you fall in love with a person's 3d image (body) and some "text" - interpreted speech (And it's not like you can't use microphones on the internet, no sir, gotta be face to face for that! )

I don't know how well "long distance" relationships work - but I assume that if they do it, they get along without sex just fine. Have nothing against that, but sex is hardly necessary for a meaningful relationship of some kind. Although fun and healthy.

I've met real friends on internet whom I later met in real life - and they are certainly much more of a fit for me then just about anybody from my normal circles. So if you can start a friendship online, you can probably start a romantic relationship just as well.

Of course, a strictly online romantic relationship would be pretty pointless. E-friendship, maybe. Whatever.

I knew if i mentioned sex people might respond this way, of course part of loving someone is finding them attractive physically, I don't see how anyone would stay with someone if inside they thought they were ugly, thats common sense. Assuming your a faithful person Sex is something you get to do with one person only, its the one activity that separates them from being a really close friend. It is an expression of your love, and your feelings for one another, its not the most important thing in the relationship, but if you say it doesn't carry any significance than I feel sorry for you because with my Fiancee it is a time of connection and intimacy that I don't share with anyone else. Plus there are an abundance of hormones released during orgasm (for girls, not so sure about guys) that makes a girl feel the chemical feeling of love.

I couldn't agree less. Sex is a for the most part a meaningful act performed for entertaining. And, in rare cases, for breeding - but don't read this and put the goddamn condom on.

Ahem.

No, I don't believe that sex is the expression of one's love. Or the cornerstone of a relationship. Relationships based on sex and looks are bullshit - and probably the reason why most relationships don't last long. Intellectual understanding and likeness are more important in my book.

it seems like your associating having sex with physical attraction and thats it. I dont "fuck" my fiancee cause i think shes hot. I have sex with her because I love her. And i never said physical attraction was the most important thing, what I said was you wouldn't date someone you thought was ugly, im not saying they have to look like a model, but if you personally found them "ugly" I dont see how you would be able to stay with them. I love my fiancee because she is intelligent, Fun, compassionate, driven and beautiful.

 

[Naeo]

An internet relationship can be nice and can be as true as any face-to-face, emotionally. But face-to-face is far more meaningful- you can hug, kiss, and snuggle like you can't online. I assume, by the way, that internet relationship means an internet-only: the people never meet face to face or whatnot.

 

[Sparcrypt]

I couldn't agree less. Sex is a for the most part a meaningful act performed for entertaining. And, in rare cases, for breeding - but don't read this and put the goddamn condom on.

Ahem.

No, I don't believe that sex is the expression of one's love. Or the cornerstone of a relationship. Relationships based on sex and looks are bullshit - and probably the reason why most relationships don't last long. Intellectual understanding and likeness are more important in my book.

If you don't believe sex can be more then a physical release and a good time you're missing out... but that's not my point.

Sex is *not* the be all the end all of a relationship but anyone who says 'oh sex and looks don't matter at all!' is just as full of crap as someone who thinks they are the only thing that matters. Relationships that are founded and based only on these things never work... but do you not enjoy having sex with your partner? Do you not think them to be an attactive person even if they are not a 'traditional' beauty? Oh wait.. looks like looks and sex are part of things.. they matter. Just not in the way most people think.

 

[VitalSigns]

it seems like your associating having sex with physical attraction and thats it. I dont "fuck" my fiancee cause i think shes hot. I have sex with her because I love her. And i never said physical attraction was the most important thing, what I said was you wouldn't date someone you thought was ugly, im not saying they have to look like a model, but if you personally found them "ugly" I dont see how you would be able to stay with them. I love my fiancee because she is intelligent, Fun, compassionate, driven and beautiful.

I think you're becoming overly defensive for little reason. Perhaps you should check your closet for skeletons.

There are very few people who I find ugly. I rarely divide people, especially of the opposite gender, into "ugly" and "pretty" groups. For the most part, physical appearance is pretty unimportant to me. I know that I wouldn't be able to stay with even the prettiest and sexiest girl if the only thing in common between us was sex and mild liking of each others appearances. That's why I find people who are pretty much forced to do what they hate by "their loved ones" (whom they'll call a *****/************ minutes after breaking up - and that doesn't just apply to generic short term relationships) rather sad.

I'd rather live single and die single then live with someone who's got almost nothing in common with me.

I guess I'm a romantic.

haha i was in a touring band and "met" quite a few girls if thats what you mean by skeletons. But i don't regret any of it. Maybe you don't mean to say this but your presentation of your argument seems to say that a pretty girl could never have anything in common with you, and i severely detect some self esteem issues, I get defensive because it seems like your telling me that I'm only with my fiancee because she is attractive, which is not the case, yes she is attactive but I am in love with her for far more reasons than just that. Me and my fiancee have tonnes in common and the few things we didnt were great learning experiences.