Is gay pda common in where you live?

[ObsidianJones_v1legacy]

A little clarification. Are we talking about people we don't know? I have friends of all spectrum, so obviously I'm going to see gay people making out if I'm hanging out with them.

I live above NYC, in the suburbs of westchester.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Fairly common to see people hugging/kissing in Buenos Aires. The typical observation of anybody who goes to USA/Europe is "People are so cold over there".

 

[Saltyk]

I very rarely see it, but occasionally. Only ever holding hands, never see kissing, and even those instances are... once every month or so? More rarely? See straight people holding hands all the time.


I once gave my boyfriend a hug (no kiss), and was subjected to a twenty-minute-plus tirade from a stranger on the train (and we're talking threatening, not just giving vent). My boyfriend didn't feel comfortable with any measure of public affection after that. That might have something to do with it.

London.

What the Hell? I hug my friends all the time. If we meet up to see a movie or eat, we often all exchange hugs. Mind you, we're often trading playful insults and such while we do so, but I've never had anyone say anything to us.

Weirdly, the only person I know who doesn't hug anyone is a girl who seems to have personal space issues with it.

Oh, we also tend to hug when saying goodbye. And for the record, most of us are straight.

 

[Saelune]

I very rarely see it, but occasionally. Only ever holding hands, never see kissing, and even those instances are... once every month or so? More rarely? See straight people holding hands all the time.


I once gave my boyfriend a hug (no kiss), and was subjected to a twenty-minute-plus tirade from a stranger on the train (and we're talking threatening, not just giving vent). My boyfriend didn't feel comfortable with any measure of public affection after that. That might have something to do with it.

London.

What the Hell? I hug my friends all the time. If we meet up to see a movie or eat, we often all exchange hugs. Mind you, we're often trading playful insults and such while we do so, but I've never had anyone say anything to us.

Weirdly, the only person I know who doesn't hug anyone is a girl who seems to have personal space issues with it.

Oh, we also tend to hug when saying goodbye. And for the record, most of us are straight.

I dont know how Silvanus hugs his partners and how you hug your platonic friends, but my guess is there may be obvious enough differences between a romantic and male friend hug. Even if you arent doing some "manly bro-hug" deal.

 

[Silvanus]

What the Hell? I hug my friends all the time. If we meet up to see a movie or eat, we often all exchange hugs. Mind you, we're often trading playful insults and such while we do so, but I've never had anyone say anything to us.

Weirdly, the only person I know who doesn't hug anyone is a girl who seems to have personal space issues with it.

Oh, we also tend to hug when saying goodbye. And for the record, most of us are straight.

I hug friends too. There are a few differences-- I assume I must have touched his hand, or signalled that we were a couple in some other way I wasn't aware of. No kiss or anything, though, so I was still quite surprised.

Goes to show how careful people have to be.

 

[Sonmi]

Kissing, only on pride parade.

Holding hands, pretty much regularly.

 

[jynx]

Kissing, only on pride parade.

Holding hands, pretty much regularly.

Where do you live?

 

[Sonmi]

Kissing, only on pride parade.

Holding hands, pretty much regularly.

Where do you live?

Montreal.

To be fair, I also live on the Plateau, which is about the most bobo neighborhood in town.

 

[jynx]

Fairly common to see people hugging/kissing in Buenos Aires. The typical observation of anybody who goes to USA/Europe is "People are so cold over there".

Do you see gay people holding hands and kissing in buenos aires?

 

[CyanCat47_v1legacy]

Kissing or hugging in public is generally unommon here. Some tourists and immigrants have described public life in Oslo as "As if they are constantly mourning the king's death". I've seen it at airports, some times at train stations, never recall seing a same sex kiss in public.

Oslo Norway

 

[Shoggoth2588]

I don't see much PDA in general but I'm kind of a shut-in. I do live in a pretty liberal part of the country though so I imagine it's not uncommon. Personally I do have kind of a habit of grabbing a handful of my buddy's ass every now and then and the last time he and I went into a McDonald's I was struck by how we might be mistaken for a couple. Of course I could have been getting dirty looks because I ordered one of every Shamrock drink on the menu because what else am I supposed to do on my days off?

 

[Addendum_Forthcoming]

Yep. But then again I spend a bit of time about the Cross and Oxford Street. Sydney.

 

[Saltyk]

I very rarely see it, but occasionally. Only ever holding hands, never see kissing, and even those instances are... once every month or so? More rarely? See straight people holding hands all the time.


I once gave my boyfriend a hug (no kiss), and was subjected to a twenty-minute-plus tirade from a stranger on the train (and we're talking threatening, not just giving vent). My boyfriend didn't feel comfortable with any measure of public affection after that. That might have something to do with it.

London.

What the Hell? I hug my friends all the time. If we meet up to see a movie or eat, we often all exchange hugs. Mind you, we're often trading playful insults and such while we do so, but I've never had anyone say anything to us.

Weirdly, the only person I know who doesn't hug anyone is a girl who seems to have personal space issues with it.

Oh, we also tend to hug when saying goodbye. And for the record, most of us are straight.

I dont know how Silvanus hugs his partners and how you hug your platonic friends, but my guess is there may be obvious enough differences between a romantic and male friend hug. Even if you arent doing some "manly bro-hug" deal.

What the Hell? I hug my friends all the time. If we meet up to see a movie or eat, we often all exchange hugs. Mind you, we're often trading playful insults and such while we do so, but I've never had anyone say anything to us.

Weirdly, the only person I know who doesn't hug anyone is a girl who seems to have personal space issues with it.

Oh, we also tend to hug when saying goodbye. And for the record, most of us are straight.

I hug friends too. There are a few differences-- I assume I must have touched his hand, or signalled that we were a couple in some other way I wasn't aware of. No kiss or anything, though, so I was still quite surprised.

Goes to show how careful people have to be.

Fair enough. Still seems odd to me. Hugging is so non sexual in nature. The best I can think is maybe you hugged for slightly longer than one would hug a friend. Admittedly, I hug my friends for like a second or two, but a significant other I would probably hug for quite a few seconds. Or perhaps a facial expression?

I'd be a bit curious as to the background of this person who yelled at Silvanus. I can only think of two types of people who would do that. Religious fundamentalists or blatant homophobes. If the later, I'd almost wonder if they weren't secretly gay. It always seems the more ridiculously homophobic a person is, the more likely they are gay and trying way too hard to cover it up.

Regardless, the person was an ass hole and you shouldn't be held accountable for ass holes being ass holes.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Fairly common to see people hugging/kissing in Buenos Aires. The typical observation of anybody who goes to USA/Europe is "People are so cold over there".

Do you see gay people holding hands and kissing in buenos aires?

Yeah, it's a fairly gay-friendly city.

 

[Silvanus]

Fair enough. Still seems odd to me. Hugging is so non sexual in nature. The best I can think is maybe you hugged for slightly longer than one would hug a friend. Admittedly, I hug my friends for like a second or two, but a significant other I would probably hug for quite a few seconds. Or perhaps a facial expression?

I'd be a bit curious as to the background of this person who yelled at Silvanus. I can only think of two types of people who would do that. Religious fundamentalists or blatant homophobes. If the later, I'd almost wonder if they weren't secretly gay. It always seems the more ridiculously homophobic a person is, the more likely they are gay and trying way too hard to cover it up.

Regardless, the person was an ass hole and you shouldn't be held accountable for ass holes being ass holes.

He did mention god at one point, so I assume it was religious bigotry in that instance. That's not the only instance of abuse, though, and incidents have happened without religious influence.

I was once surrounded by a group of teenagers in a car park, who were using anti-gay slurs and being pretty threatening, not looking like they would let me leave. Occurred not long after I came out at school (though, I was only really open about it to a group of mainly-friends, but I did wear a rainbow pin on my bag for a while). Thought it was going to get violent, until one of the girls they were with recognised me-- an acquaintance-- and told the others to back off.

That wasn't in London. That was in the town I grew up in, which is in a fairly rural county.

 

[happyninja42]

He did mention god at one point, so I assume it was religious bigotry in that instance. That's not the only instance of abuse, though, and incidents have happened without religious influence.

Just curious, but how do you know the other incidents didn't have reliigious influence? Because I've yet to meet an anti-LGBT person where that animosity didn't stem from their religion. Did they just simply not state anything religious because they were too busy saying things like "die fag" etc? Because it still most likely came from religion.

 

[Saelune]

He did mention god at one point, so I assume it was religious bigotry in that instance. That's not the only instance of abuse, though, and incidents have happened without religious influence.

Just curious, but how do you know the other incidents didn't have reliigious influence? Because I've yet to meet an anti-LGBT person where that animosity didn't stem from their religion. Did they just simply not state anything religious because they were too busy saying things like "die fag" etc? Because it still most likely came from religion.

I'd imagine the religious aspect of it gets diluted alot. Ive met plenty of people who do not care for LGBT people, not because God says its wrong, they just think it is wrong. Plus how many people just dont even think about religion? Maybe if pressed they would say they believe in God, or default to Christian cause (in the US anyways) Christian is the default but never read the Bible, or go to Church or anything like that.

Summary, I think most bigots dont really think deeply on the why of it.

 

[Zykon TheLich_v1legacy]

Never really noticed any either gay or straight. A friend of mine noticed a gay couple holding hands once and mentioned it as something you don't see very often where I live. Southern Cornwall.

Just curious, but how do you know the other incidents didn't have reliigious influence? Because I've yet to meet an anti-LGBT person where that animosity didn't stem from their religion. Did they just simply not state anything religious because they were too busy saying things like "die fag" etc? Because it still most likely came from religion.

While I can't answer directly for Silvanus, I should point out that religion is far less of a thing in the UK*, we don't have a bible belt and those that are religious tend to keep quiet about it, your beliefs are your own, don't foist them on other people. I'm honestly surprised to hear that someone did have a religion based objection (or at least said anything about it). Most of the time it's that sort of young male macho/chavvy culture.

*Except Northern Ireland, although how much of that is a Republican/Unionist thing as opposed to Catholic/Protestant I have no idea and is kind of getting off topic.

 

[McElroy]

The one time I saw my friend's then girlfriend I also saw them exchange a little kiss. Even straight PDAs are uncommon, kissing more so than holding hands. I live in a town 30km away from Helsinki, Finland.

 

[Silvanus]

He did mention god at one point, so I assume it was religious bigotry in that instance. That's not the only instance of abuse, though, and incidents have happened without religious influence.

Just curious, but how do you know the other incidents didn't have reliigious influence? Because I've yet to meet an anti-LGBT person where that animosity didn't stem from their religion. Did they just simply not state anything religious because they were too busy saying things like "die fag" etc? Because it still most likely came from religion.

Well, you're right, I can't rule it out. But I grew up alongside these kids, and spent about 5 years of my life around them. I'm familiar with how they acted and still act. Generally, religion doesn't play a big part in their lives, but anti-gay slurs are very common. It's usually masculine posturing rather than religious in nature, at least among my generation in my neck of the woods.