Is it childish to wear band shirts?

[Kenbo Slice]

I was talking to this girl I sort of was into...until she decided to try to tell me how to dress. Apparently 23 year old guys should dress nice all the time and look "manly." Band shirts are childish according to her. First off, I don't wear band shirts all the time. Second off, I don't see the issue with wearing jeans or shorts with a band shirt, especially if I'm not doing anything special or going out.
I guess I'm not mature (even though I work full time, don't live at home, and pay my own bills.) But no, it's the way I dress.

What do you guys think?

 

[Hoplon]

i think you are correct, it's not childish, it's just not the way she wants you to dress.

That sort of talk from anyone seems like passive aggressive nonsense.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

i think you are correct, it's not childish, it's just not the way she wants you to dress.

That sort of talk from anyone seems like passive aggressive nonsense.

I have no qualms about dressing nice from time to time. But, fuck if I'm not going to a wedding or a date or a funeral I'm not going to dress all nice.

 

[Colour Scientist]

To each their own, I don't think it's a good look beyond your teenage years though.

I mean, lounging around at home in one is grand but wearing one outside of the home is not something I would be into.

I like guys who dress well but, unless you want to get into my pants, that isn't really relevant. I stopped wearing band shirts around age fourteen but I'm fairly into clothes and fashion so that may be part of it. That said, it can depend on the shirt, a big logo saying Dying Fetus is really naff but some shirts, especially subtle designs that aren't obviously band shirts, can be okay.


Basically, you can take her opinions on board but ultimately you should wear what you want.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

To each their own, I don't think it's a good look beyond your teenage years though.

I mean, lounging around at home in one is grand but wearing one outside of the home is not something I would be into.

I like guys who dress well but, unless you want to get into my pants, that isn't really relevant. I stopped wearing band shirts around age fourteen but I'm fairly into clothes and fashion so that may be part of it. That said, it can depend on the shirt, a big logo saying Dying Fetus is really naff but some shirts, especially subtle designs that aren't obviously band shirts, can be okay.


Basically, you can take her opinions on board but ultimately you should wear what you want.

I guess it's a good thing I don't like Dying Fetus. I think the craziest band shirt I have is a tye dye World Alive shirt. But even then all that's on it is their name. I don't like the weird ass crazy designs.

But like I said, I don't always wear band shirts and I dress nice when I need to or if I feel like it.

 

[Sleepy Sol]

I dunno. I don't think it should really matter. A large part of my wardrobe is shirts of some band. I used to wear a few button-up shirts (if I wasn't wearing a band shirt) in high school, but I just found it a bit odd when I got to college. But yeah, if anybody told me that how I choose to dress is an issue for them, I'd probably just ignore them.

In any case, it's probably a good thing I can still reasonably pass as a 13 year old. By the time I'm 30 I'll be looking like I'm at just the right 'age' for this sort of thing. Even though it shouldn't really matter.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

I should hope not, pretty much all my tees are band ones. The mature thing is to dress how you want to. Caring too much about what other people think of your clothes... Now that's pointless teeny bollocks right there (I'm not accusing you or anything, but I would if you caved).

What's childish about being into music anyway? I love it when you can strike up a conversation with a total stranger of an awesome band shirt. It's awesome.

 

[Hoplon]

I have no qualms about dressing nice from time to time. But, fuck if I'm not going to a wedding or a date or a funeral I'm not going to dress all nice.

Dressing appropriately is always important, and knowing what will make you look good when you want to is important too. At home though? who the fuck cares.

 

[PsychicTaco115]

If it's childish then I don't want to be an adult

I really want to get this shirt soon ^u^

Spoiler: Swans yo

I usually don't wear band stuff but this is too good to pass up

It just looks so cool

 

[Kenbo Slice]

I should hope not, pretty much all my tees are band ones. The mature thing is to dress how you want to. Caring too much about what other people think of your clothes... Now that's pointless teeny bollocks right there (I'm not accusing you or anything, but I would if you caved).

What's childish about being into music anyway? I love it when you can strike up a conversation with a total stranger of an awesome band shirt. It's awesome.

I flat out said, I don't care if you don't like my band shirts. If you really had any interest in me, you'd be more interested in my personality.

Nothing is childish about supporting things you like. And you're right, striking up a conversation of a band shirt is pretty awesome. Hell, the other day I wore my Knuckle Puck shirt and even people who don't know who they are told me my shirt was awesome.

 

[Bizzaro Stormy]

I was talking to this girl I sort of was into...until she decided to try to tell me how to dress. Apparently 23 year old guys should dress nice all the time and look "manly." Band shirts are childish according to her. First off, I don't wear band shirts all the time. Second off, I don't see the issue with wearing jeans or shorts with a band shirt, especially if I'm not doing anything special or going out.
I guess I'm not mature (even though I work full time, don't live at home, and pay my own bills.) But no, it's the way I dress.

What do you guys think?

Take a step back from the shirts. You're sort of into her. Is she sort of into you? Would you want to take her out to get to know her better, or does she just have a nice figure? Does she harp on you about the shirts or was it a one off conversation? You're never going to find a girl, or for that matter another human, you completely agree with on everything. If you're interested enough to pursue her, let it go. If she's in the mood to be caught, she'll let it go.If you just want to be friends, coworkers, or acquaintances it is even less important. If things go well and you two get closer maybe she'll ignore the shirts if you frequently dress in a way that she likes. Relationships are give and take. Basically it sounds like the shirt thing is meaningless, but you're moderately annoyed that a girl you think is cute found a fault in you. Don't worry, if you decide to let it go and chase after her you'll find something about her that you find childish. I promise!

 

[FalloutJack]

What do you guys think?

If Hugh Laurie can pull it off as Gregory House, it's fine.

 

[Vault101]

snip?

I'm somebody who seems fated to wear jeans/cons/black graphic tees until the end of time soo...


people have different ideas of dress, some people will wear nothing but game shirts and trackie pants while laughing at silly "hipsters" while others think anything less than a suit and tie/dress is being a slob

ultimately you have to find a balance between what you like and what is considered good "fashion" this also gets a bit complicated if your not exactly comfortable with dressing overly feminine [footnote/] (I'm not sure there's as much of a flipside on that because its still not fully acceptable for men to outright wear dresses, at least not in a "day to day" sense) [/footnote]

I tend to lean towards the former because I can say from experience there is nothing worse than feeling uncomfortable in your own skin, but that said [b/]you have to be aware of how others may see/judge you[b/]

I think with guys there is a lot less room for "error" as long as your cloths fit and your not doing something ridiculous like wearing a trenchcoat/fedora your pretty much ok

I'm turning 24 this year and I know I need to update my wardrobe

Spoiler: HHHHNNNNNNNGGGG

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[Lufia Erim]

It's childish to worry if something is childish. Part of being an adult is being able to like what you like without shame.

Edit:
"When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty, I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." ( Lewis caroll)

 

[MysticSlayer]

I don't really wear band shirts, but I also haven't really found ones that I like. If I found more that I like and could afford the ones I do (and if my family would finally accept that I have different tastes than them when shopping for gifts), then I'd definitely go for it. To me, there's little difference between wearing a shirt with a band that I like than changing the wallpaper on phone or placing a bumper sticker on a car. That is, all we're doing in those cases is taking something we use and getting it reflect our interests and personalities, and if someone doesn't like what that says about us, then OK. That's their problem.

That said, every girl I've asked out has said no, so I might be the last person you want to talk to about this, at least since it sounds like this thread is, in part, due to your feelings for a girl.

 

[visiblenoise]

I am totally against having everyone dress "nicely" all the time. Even if I no longer wear those band tees with overly graphic graphics and ornate band logos, I'm glad others do, and it makes me happy when I recognize the metal band on someone's tshirt.

 

[the December King]

I think that sometimes it's appropriate to dress up a bit, semi-formal stuff, pay respect, or even let a work aesthetic bleed into your personal life, or what have you.

On the other hand, when I wear my 1991 Sepultura Arise, I get grins, high-fives and winks. When I got that shirt, I was a dumb long-haired kid who wasn't even into metal... now that I have mended the error of my ways, I am so glad I kept the shirt as well as I could.

 

[Odbarc]

childish suggests not knowing better.
It's more like 'casual' and depending on the venue, maybe immature. (Like a wedding)

 

[Dwarfman]

I bloody hope not! I'm 35 and concert/band T-Shirts make up a large hunk of my wardrobe. I've even worn a few to fine dining restaurants, all depends on what's on the shirt really.

 

[Czann]

Frankly? This girl is a bossy idiot.

What's childish is worrying about what's childish.