Yeah, and he was aware of it afterwards. But you don't think of a bro while boinking someone.delta4062 said:
Is it moral to date my friends ex?
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Bros before Hoes is a toxic philosophy, I recommend you have nothing to do with it.Some bullets said:
Ask yourself three questions:
1. is she getting into you for real, or just to get back at her ex?
2. is your friend still keen, but openly in denial?
3. do you actually like her?
Love is always a difficult matter to dissect due to how many different aspects are involved at any one time, which any individual may or may not be aware of. Not only are there infinite different situations but infinite different answers to each due to everyone's varying opinions on them. This makes for a very tangled weave.
I at least, have always seen disaster met when one decides purely on the rationale of another rather than acting upon what one feels is the right move. Often, instincts will not lead you awry where one is at least confident in the matter. How confident do you feel?
Occam's Razor is something that I would subscribe to however. The theory goes that the simplest and most effective means is the best. Therefore, if you wish to know if it is acceptable to date your friend's ex, why not simply ask your friend? Sure, you might not be comfortable asking him, but isn't that another indicator then that it isn't the right thing to do? If you're not willing to risk his wrath with this girl then maybe you should seriously consider a few things.
If you ask him, and are immediately rebuffed, then at least you have received your answer on the matter and need not worry any longer. So long as you treasure your friendship (as I assume you do or else there is little stopping you) then I wouldn't proceed with at least some form of gauging how he feels on the arrangement. A lot of people will tell you that friends will be there when others will not. Conversely, a partnership wherein those that care about each other enough can be a powerful thing indeed.
Let's not get ahead of ourselves though. So far as you've described, you don't seem to be in love with this girl and are at least semi-attached to your friend. What have you got to lose in talking to him? Ask, and then at least you have more to go on as it doesn't dictate whether or whether you cannot go ahead. If your goal is to do this cloak & dagger behind his back, then examine your reasons for this - isn't it a sign that you're doing something unacceptable when you have to make use of subterfuge and secrecy to go about it?
If its any consollation, unless you happen to be ridiculously lucky at this interval and this girl is your life-mate, then I would presume you will not care one wit about all of this in the future as the next love-interest wafts into view (but you may or may not be down one count of a friend). In the end, from all of this, you have to decide what's right and wrong as people are able to deal with different things than others. We mortals are fickle with our morality like that.
Regards,
MultiMasky
I at least, have always seen disaster met when one decides purely on the rationale of another rather than acting upon what one feels is the right move. Often, instincts will not lead you awry where one is at least confident in the matter. How confident do you feel?
Occam's Razor is something that I would subscribe to however. The theory goes that the simplest and most effective means is the best. Therefore, if you wish to know if it is acceptable to date your friend's ex, why not simply ask your friend? Sure, you might not be comfortable asking him, but isn't that another indicator then that it isn't the right thing to do? If you're not willing to risk his wrath with this girl then maybe you should seriously consider a few things.
If you ask him, and are immediately rebuffed, then at least you have received your answer on the matter and need not worry any longer. So long as you treasure your friendship (as I assume you do or else there is little stopping you) then I wouldn't proceed with at least some form of gauging how he feels on the arrangement. A lot of people will tell you that friends will be there when others will not. Conversely, a partnership wherein those that care about each other enough can be a powerful thing indeed.
Let's not get ahead of ourselves though. So far as you've described, you don't seem to be in love with this girl and are at least semi-attached to your friend. What have you got to lose in talking to him? Ask, and then at least you have more to go on as it doesn't dictate whether or whether you cannot go ahead. If your goal is to do this cloak & dagger behind his back, then examine your reasons for this - isn't it a sign that you're doing something unacceptable when you have to make use of subterfuge and secrecy to go about it?
If its any consollation, unless you happen to be ridiculously lucky at this interval and this girl is your life-mate, then I would presume you will not care one wit about all of this in the future as the next love-interest wafts into view (but you may or may not be down one count of a friend). In the end, from all of this, you have to decide what's right and wrong as people are able to deal with different things than others. We mortals are fickle with our morality like that.
Regards,
MultiMasky
the "bro´s before ho´s´"Thing is stupid
i mean, come on, will you be happy with her?? if so, not dating her is preventing you from happines, and if your friend doesn´t want your happines then he is not your friend!
and another thing, she wants to be with you?? you want to be with her?? then why are you even considering your friend?? after all, he doesn´t own her, he doesn´t own you either, if he haves an issue plain and simple "she is no longer with you, i love you man but grow up and get real"
i mean, come on, will you be happy with her?? if so, not dating her is preventing you from happines, and if your friend doesn´t want your happines then he is not your friend!
and another thing, she wants to be with you?? you want to be with her?? then why are you even considering your friend?? after all, he doesn´t own her, he doesn´t own you either, if he haves an issue plain and simple "she is no longer with you, i love you man but grow up and get real"
Mmm...gaaaaaaaaame. I obviously saw that statement differently to you.ae86gamer said:
OT: As AE in all of her wisdom said, they broke up. So go ahead.
Just do it. Ignore the bro code. I would use another code: 'don't date your friend's ex if she's ugly, otherwise go for it.'
That wasn't superficial at all...
That wasn't superficial at all...
Talk to him. He may very well say no, and that's ok, you'll just have to deal with it. Find out if it's a no forever or if he just needs some time. And if he's alright with this, find out why they broke up in the first place, because he probably knows a side of her that you perhaps don't want to know.
Strangly enough, my brother is going throught the exact same thing. My advice would be not to do it. My bro, in his situation, is really mad at his friend. And some girl isnt worth it.Some bullets said:
Any chance your name is Tim?
I say go for it. If they broke up, then he has no say over it anymore.
But watch out, if eh is your best friend then she may be useing you to get at him.
But watch out, if eh is your best friend then she may be useing you to get at him.
The logic behind not getting together seems to revolve aroud treating the women like an item that one of your freinds possessed. Simply put, she is not a possession and as such your friend has no right to tell you that you two can't be together. He may be unconfortable with the fact that he passed on his chance with her or even feel that you are taking her side, but if he cannot understand that you two actually care for eachother then that is not a freind worth having.
I honestly have no idea what you're talking about, I've never seen a commercial even mildly related that line. Might be 'cause I don't watch a lot of TV.jasoncyrus said:
I've only ever heard it once before, and thought it was mildly amusing, and I only said it as a joke. Sorry I ruined your day.
It depends on the situation. One of my 'friends' did this to me, but he was making moves before my relation even ended and the two of them got a relation a week after it did. Needless to say this pissed me off good, to say at the least. If it's really been years and they're currently nothing more than friends it might be worth it. If you're really not sure, just ask him.