If I could turn my libido on and off at will (as well as the ability to change between sexualities, as a bonus), that?d be great. I mean, I?m a seventeen-year-old boy and the best I can do whenever I get really horny is pull off to some porn to get some relief, before I bone up the next day looking at girls at school all over again (and, obviously, I can?t pull off
then). And I have little to no chance of getting a girlfriend currently with my combination of poor looks, revolting personality, and multitude of personal problems (you know the saying: ?You have to learn to love yourself before others can love
you?).
I did hear that it?s simply trying to fill that void with something else, like a hobby, since if you get bored a lot, your mind tends to drift into thinking more about sex. That?s why I?ve just been trying to save up money to buy more
Death Note manga volumes (although I know the whole story anyway from the anime, I know some things are different or changed in the manga) as an effective distraction; plus, I?ll need something to keep me from going crazy over the half term, since I won?t have to procrastinate over revising because my exams for the year will be over by then. But when I finish that?then I?ll be bored again and not even video games can keep my interest now that I?m so depressed.
You know, I thought about how to get a
stronger orgasm, so the feeling afterwards would perhaps last for a longer time, but whatever masturbation method I try (with limits, of course; someone suggested something to do with urine, and I was like, ?Ugh, no?), it?s pretty much the same result (or, with the method I recently tried, a marginally greater pleasure) anyway. And besides, sometimes I?m horny and I just can?t be bothered to pull off because I?m often tired when I return home from school, I have to make sure that no-one comes in, I have to get the right lubricant, etc?
nomzy said:
This is probably going to sound like an odd suggestion but a lot of people apparently stopped masturbating or at least had a lower desire to after reading Katawa Shoujo.
Although this is according to some picture I saw on 4chan so I can't vouch for how accurate it is.
So if you havent done that go try it.
Didn't happen to me but everyone is different I suppose.
If anything, that would make someone bone up even more, since despite them being disabled...anime schoolgirls...yeahhhhh.
martyrdrebel27 said:
don't take this as an attack, but your apparent lack of libido is either a bucketload of denial that you've convinced yourself is true for whatever reasons, or your brain is wired wrong. denying yourself sex is like denying yourself food, air, water... its hardwired into our brains and an essential part of the human experience. to deny yourself sex is to deny your humanity.
now there was a nugget in your comment that made me think it could be something else entirely... is your problem perhaps with our oversexualized culture and peoples recklessness with it? i'm all for sex being between two people who deeply love each other, and hate how casually people throw it around these days. do you think if you found love, you'd wanna have sex? have you ever been aroused? i just feel like there's a part of this that i can't wrap my head around.
Edit: sorry ivan, meant to quote ashadowpie
I don't mean to speak on behalf of them, but isn't that pretty offensive to asexuals? Some people just...aren't interested in sex. It's not that they can't have sexual pleasure; it's just that they're not sexually attracted to men, women, or anything inside or outside. Some can still feel romantic or emotional attraction, just like you can feel something for your siblings or a friend without sexual arousal, and some enjoy sex
only when it's to satisfy their partner.
So I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it. That kind of mindset can also lead people to think, "Oh, maybe you're just gay in denial" or "you should get yourself checked out;
everyone should want sex". It's just different, is all. Remember, as recent as fifty years ago, homosexuality was still classed as a disorder, and now, in most civilised areas around the world, it's classed as just as much of a healthy sexuality as heterosexuality, the societal norm which seems to have been even more hammered into our system through media where the guy "gets the girl" at the end of the film.
