Is it that hard to find a virgin?

[CODE-D]

They teach sex ed in school but neglect to teach that a boy will/do/say anything and wait forever for first time sex.
My friend(an ass) was this guy, took many girls virginity with all the bull he spit out. After he got the sex he didnt care. I the nice guy got nothing but nowadays Im the ass because Id rather have girl whos a virgin like me and hes the accepting nice guy(even though he hasnt changed). You can see why now Im not such a nice guy. My choices are girls who bought some guys bull or girls who honestly loved someone else with all their heart. Sigh...life, forget love is what Id want but loneliness sets in and that desire for the first time experience lingers.

 

[Vault101]

again I want to ask the same question I did before

why is the act of sex imoral? am I somehow more "moral" because ive never had sex? if I do have sex will I lose some kind of "purity" that Ill never get back?

anyway Im surprised at the mount of "moral" people here

I dont drink much or do drugs...mainly because I dotn care for that kind of crap and never had the chance anyway

BUT Im not about to pretend Im any more morally rightious than others, I self indulge just as bad if nto worse (on videogames and caffine)

I doubt I'd be able to sway anyone's opinion, so I won't bother trying to.

Personally, I believe that it's immoral because it goes against Christianity. I understand why it is, though... when I marry someone, I would MUCH prefer them to have never had sex before. Can you honestly say that you're not the same?


Sex is something that is supposed to be special. Well, that's what I think, anyway.

ok..so now I understand where your coming from (though I dont agree)

I think it depends on your perspective, the problem I have with the religious veiw on things is it mixes sex and morality, and as far as Im concerned I dont think those too have to have much to do with each other

If I have sex with a guy under the right circumstances I dont think Ive done anything wrong or imoral....

anyway if to you sex is suposed to be special...then thats great (and many non virgins also hold that veiw), but just because somone has sex out of wedlock, doesnt mean it still cant be special, and I think the "no sex before marrage" is kind of outdated..and very limiting

now you could and probably wil find somone who accpets your veiws and you and all that nice stuff..I just dont think you need to limit yourself to "a virgin" because I dont think all "non-virgins" are courrupt in a way, you like somone, you are well within your right to sleep with them, a healthy sex life is not a bad thing

 

[cainx10a]

Wow, OP, you're a complete sexist fuck.

And no one else is calling him on this?

He is NOT sexist. As a 25 y/o virgin, I am more interested in long term relationships, and yes, my partner must be a virgin as well. Don't like it? Get over it.

The fact that someone has had sex before does not mean that they aren't interested in long term relationships. You - and OP - are subtly suggesting that someone who isn't a virgin couldn't possibly want or be capable of anything other than meaningless sex. You're attributing a false sense of higher worth to yourself and people like you, based on something as arbitrary as never having had intercourse.

Virginity is not a sign of purity and good moral fibre. It just means you haven't popped your cherry yet.

If you personally want to wait for a virgin like you, that's fine. I don't think I've seen many people in this thread suggest otherwise. What is not okay is to look down on anyone who didn't make the same choices as you did. It is not okay to reduce someone to the state of their broken hymen and ignore all the things that make them a good person and a loving partner.

I agree it's not okay to be judgmental about others choices in life, but again, I really don't think either OP or myself are blasting non-virgins for not abstaining or some religious BS like that. It's just personal preference.

 

[Legendairy314]

I'm much more lenient when it comes to finding a girl I like. While I'd prefer someone who doesn't drink, smoke, etc... or is a virgin I can be reasonably understandable. Drugs like Marijuana, tobacco, and alcohol I'm alright with if it's for recreational use and they don't pressure me to do it. Them not being a virgin, as long sex is not all they're looking for in a relationship, is alright too.

 

[Shadowseraph]

Not on this site. Hey-oh!

 

[Nihilism_Is_Bliss]

I think your problem starts with your definition of 'morals.'
But if I start arguing about morals we'll be here all night, so we'll skip that.

You should probably be more concerned with finding someone you're compatible with, than going out with someone just because they haven't had a taste of alcohol before legal age.

I'm certainly not a wild person, but even I think your standards are ridiculous. Not ridiculously high, just ridiculous.

 

[Galletea]

If one of your requirements in a relationship is that the other party be a virgin:
YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG!
I know it's probably been said, but seriously, don't be so daft. Being a virgin won't make it better for either of you.
More importantly, are you going to go around with a questionnaire for every possible love interest?
You said it yourself; it's a weird thing you have and you should get over it.

And I wouldn't know, I haven't been looking for any recently, but with the over sexualisation of children and the problems with teenage pregnancy and std's, I guess it might be a tricky one to find. But then there are probably a few about who wish they still were.

 

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

I'm a girl. A 16 year old Junior. Never drank, smoked, done it.[small]Though I've never had a boyfriend. [/small] I didn't think anyone appreciated that anymore.

 

[Trippy Turtle]

I have never done any of that unless you count having a few jelly shots. I didn't have them just because they have alcohol though.
My only real deal breakers in a relationship are smoking and generally being a *****.

 

[Brinnmilo]

The only reason you would specifically want to sleep with a virgin is because you are uncertain or frightened that you wont match up to their previous partner. If because of that you miss the opportunity to get closer to some really nice people then that would just be too sad. The illegal drugs I can agree with (though I'm pretty lax on the use of pot), I'm not too fond of any kind of smoking (mainly due to the health risks), the no drinking I don't understand.

Personally I think you are purposefully setting a target that will drastically decrease your odds of finding some one. Perhaps because of your own insecurities or past events?

But hey, who am I to give advice or criticise? I'm just another sad, lonely guy on the internet.

 

[Faladorian]

I hate to say this kind of stuff, but I really, really doubt you've ever gotten laid, or, as long as this attitude of looking down on others continues, ever will.

But, good thing you apparently don't want to. Cleans the gene-pool of some of the obnoxiousness.

I'm sure you don't hate to say it. You probably got a nice little rush from being condescending.

I never understood the point of saying "you've never gotten laid." Why, if I'm voicing a clear opposition to it, would I do it anyway? And why do you assume I wouldn't hate it if I did?

The superficial pleasure that people get from sex is of no interest to me. It just turns them into mindless hedonists. The unfortunate tragedy of the human race is that it's people like that, those who pretend not to be slaves to instinct, but the moment they see a carrot on a stick they simply forgot they were supposed to exhibit some sort of, I don't know, self control, are the ones who procreate the most.

At this point, the population is so high I can only assume that the majority of the population are just the slimy aftermath of stupid, careless people who don't know how to(or even worse, refuse to) use birth control. And that said, a person is only as good as their nature and nurture, both of which I assume to be shit if their parents are too.


That, my friend, is what needs to be cleaned out of the gene pool. If you think I'm the problem, I hope your descendants enjoy a future filled with moronic apes.

 

[Phasmal]

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Kay, but what about people who aren't virgins but don't fuck everyone they see?
A lot of people seem to think we are operating with only two options here; virgin or whore.
Thats not the way it works.

Also, `people are shit if their parents are shit`? Wtf?
What about people who are abused by their parents? Are they automatically doomed?

 

[Faladorian]

Kay, but what about people who aren't virgins but don't fuck everyone they see?
A lot of people seem to think we are operating with only two options here; virgin or whore.
Thats not the way it works.

Might as well be. Sorry.

Also, `people are shit if their parents are shit`? Wtf?
What about people who are abused by their parents? Are they automatically doomed?

Essentially. They will most likely either become abusive themselves, or neurotic wrecks. Either way, they're not particularly useful. And depending on what we're going to call "abuse," it could just be exaggeration. Being hit as a kid isn't always child abuse. If mild enough, it's just discipline.

 

[Phasmal]

Kay, but what about people who aren't virgins but don't fuck everyone they see?
A lot of people seem to think we are operating with only two options here; virgin or whore.
Thats not the way it works.

Might as well be. Sorry.

You don't need to be sorry, just because you say that's how it might as well be, doesn't mean that's how it is.
There are people perfectly capable of having sexual relationships only within long-term relationships, and having those turn out to be healthy relationships. Just like there are people who stay virgins who end up staying with the person they married and lost their virginity to.
Live and let live basically.

 

[Faladorian]

You don't need to be sorry, just because you say that's how it might as well be, doesn't mean that's how it is.
There are people perfectly capable of having sexual relationships only within long-term relationships, and having those turn out to be healthy relationships. Just like there are people who stay virgins who end up staying with the person they married and lost their virginity to.
Live and let live basically.

And here we have it, ladies and gentlemen: the first person who actually understands that I was expressing my opinion, not declaring fact.

I thank you sir, and good day.

 

[miketehmage]

Scottish Male here:
I've drank underage (I live in Scotland, and have Irish roots, that was bound to happen the moment I was born.)
I've smoked (and can't understand how anyone gets addicted. Sure the headspin is cool and stuff but I'm told that fades when you smoke regularly. I have smoked on multiple occasions but it certainly isn't a regular occurrence, and if I was told I had to go the rest of my life without a cigarette, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.)
I've had sex (never with a virgin though)
I've never used illegal drugs (but absolutely would do pot if it was offered.)

 

[DeleteThisAcc]

Yes she "will enjoy sex with me" and my neighbor while I am at work.

No, they sleep with your neighbor because you treat women like whores. For some reason, they get resentful when you do that.

and "If you're married, and having great sex with your partner, that's AWESOME. That's why virginity is overrated. " WHAT?! OBVIOUSLY EVERYONE HAS SEX AFTER MARRIAGE. But I don't need wife that had sex with half of the damn city I live in.

Your words are more telling of your own personal insecurities than anything about what sexually active women actually do.

So, here's the problem with your terrible logic: If a woman having sex makes then into cock-craving whores, then won't your wedding night turn your wife into a cock craving whore? Won't she be out and about looking for dick everywhere she can because you've gone and awoken her hungers?

Oh it's you again... trolling again...

"No, they sleep with your neighbor because you treat women like whores. For some reason, they get resentful when you do that."

WHAT?! And you know that because I said that woman who had a lot of sex for fun will most likely have sex with other men after marriage?

Stopped reading after this : "If a woman having sex makes then into cock-craving whores, then won't your wedding night turn your wife into a cock craving whore?"
because:
a) you did not read what I wrote before. If woman had sex with half of city and claims to be it normal isn't she "cock-craving whore"? Do you think that woman that had sex with anyone to buy her a drink in club will not do same after marriage?
b) that is obvious trolling

"Won't she be out and about looking for dick everywhere she can because you've gone and awoken her hungers?"
Do not drinking person after first try of alcohol "awakens" thirst for it? NO. Do alcoholic have problems with limiting alcohol intake? YES.

Is it your job in this forum to try provoke users with low post count by misinterpreting what they write?

 

[AlAaraaf74]

I never drink, nor do I do drugs. I'm 17 and almost everyone at my school does those awful things.

 

[General Ken8]

I've never smoked or chewed, never had sex, but I've TRIED a few drinks, just one sip to see how they tasted.
And yes, I'm in high school