Is it true that you can't change a whore into a house wife? (No offence to females)

[Phasmal]

I don't see guys being called `whores` very often (not seriously, anyway). But, I'm interested to know what it is about sleeping around that renders someone incapable of being marriage material.

I think we have slightly different definitions of what "whore" means since we live in different places... Whore does not just simply mean a woman who gets around here, theres more to it than that. (If you're gonna argue about that, I'm just going to point to the fact that the "real" meaning of the word is prostitute anyway.)

And you don't see guys being called whores very often? How is that relevant to the OP's question? You're drifting off topic again, into the realm of stereotypes and what not. Let's stay on topic for once.

I'm confused, you ask me to stay on topic and just after dodging a question I asked.
And it's relevant because I'm wondering why it's okay to call women who have casual sex prostitutes. As if the mere act of sleeping around is a bad thing just if you're a woman (hence, don't seem men being called whores).

 

[hazabaza1]

Well, would you change a large part of your personality to be in a relationship with someone who you don't want to be in a relationship with?

 

[Riki Darnell]

Alright so there's this girl that I really like and we have spent a lot of time together in a kind on off relationship but I've figured out that she "gets around". I wanna make this girl my girlfriend but every time I try to get close with her its like she moves father away if you get my meaning. I know we have the same interested and everything I know she likes me to a certain extent. So how should I approach this situation? If you guys could give me some advice or pointers it would be greatly appreciated. If I could maybe get a female perspective that would also help.


Thanks
-Wickatricka

Well, OP I think I'm the only one who isn't offended by your title lol. Infact my old Psych. teacher used to say that except he'd say "ho into a housewife". So don't let anyone pressure you into changing it.

As a female, and I know this sounds cliche but, it depends on the girl really. I knew two girls in high school that were, well, whores. One of them met her husband and has been married for 5 years now with 2 children. They seem to be doing well and love each other very much. The other girl was bouncing around from house to house, couldn't keep a steady relationship, and last I heard was a hard core druggie. So like I said, sometimes people can change their ways if they meet the right person/get the right motivation.

So have you straight out asked her to be your GF yet? She might be afraid of commitment or even afraid of getting emotionally close to someone (which might explain the getting around thing) Best of luck to you tho!

 

[yeti585]

Just another one of those topics where anyone who says something remotely controversial is labeled a sexist pig. Doesn't exactly help your cause...

Remotely controversial? Yeah, might be just a little more than that.

Not to mention deciding the word "whore" is the best to describe a woman who "gets around".

I don't see how it's more than remotely controversial. The guy just asked if the saying is true. Plus, unless he made the saying (it is a rather old saying), he didn't really choose the word "whore". But then again what do I know? What's okay today gets you lynched tomorrow.

OT: 'Dunno.' But, if she just keeps moving away, then that's your sign to stop poking the roadkill with a stick. -It's already dead.

By the way, saying "No offense" in this situation is not the OP trying to get out of blame. It is the OP acknowledging that the phrase is bad.

 

[lRookiel]

Why do I think this thread will get locked, very very quickly?

 

[Chemical Alia]

My female perspective on this is that you should grow up a bit. But maybe you should try discussing this with her. Maybe even show her this thread! I'm sure she'd appreciate that.

 

[Kahunaburger]

I'm shocked, shocked, that this topic was posted on a forum that just spent the last week collectively baaaawwww-ing about the idea of a feminist critique of problematic character tropes in games.

 

[Renco van der Tang]

"Make this girl my girlfriend" alone makes me think you have an attitude problem, and calling her a whore for sleeping around kind of just confirms that.

 

[Qitz]

Few things that need to be provided.

How old are you two? Is she in College, going into College, coming out, or, god forbid, still in High School (which I'll smack the skull off your face if it is.)

Second, what do you mean by "gets around?" Seems obvious, but for all we know you could only know she has a different boyfriend every few months, which isn't "getting around" so much as "this guys an asshole, I'm leaving."

Also, how do you know she "likes me to a certain extent" as relationship material? Could be she just sees you as someone cool to hang out with and if that's the case there's nothing you can do to change that perspective without coming off as a creepy ass dude who only wants to be around her to date her.

Since "every time I try to get close with her its like she moves father away" it seems she's just not into you and could think you're just some judgmental twit if you've aired this sort of thing to her, as in, just coming out and saying "you get around a lot, have you ever thought of having a stable relationship?" Which I would agree with as this is none of your business.

Still, need more information.

 

[Phasmal]

It's not a bad thing. I'm just saying it might not be the best idea to try and kick up a relationship with someone who is extremely promiscuous. Quit twisting my words here.

Thats a big switch from `Yes 100%` that someone like that can't change. People can and indeed do change. Perhaps your personal experiences have made you cynical of this, but I seriously doubt that once you have been promiscuous there is no going back. In fact I know people (male and female) who have done exactly that. And people who were aggressively monogomous who went the other way. People are fluid and all that.

Look, I gotta go make dinner. I'll just agree to disagree with you here, I may not agree with your opinion but I respect your right to have it and all that.

 

[Launcelot111]

She can change on her own time. You seem to be trying to force the issue, and in my experience, that's doomed to failure

 

[FamoFunk]

Lol, House Wife? What era are you living in?

According to you standards, I used to be a 'whore', but I'm very settled into a relationship and have a family.

Maybe you're butthurt She wants to sleep with everyone but you.

 

[scorptatious]

I wanna make this girl my girlfriend but every time I try to get close with her its like she moves father away if you get my meaning.

0_o

She really does get around. XD

OT: Geez another one of these threads? If I knew how much these came up I would have brought some popcorn.

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

I'm shocked, shocked, that this topic was posted on a forum that just spent the last week collectively baaaawwww-ing about the idea of a feminist critique of problematic character tropes in games.

female depiction in games doesn't have anything to do with this thread.

 

[itsthesheppy]

Protip for life: If you ever find yourself saying "No offense to _____, but..." or "Now I'm not racist/sexist/homophobic, but...", just stop. Stop talking. Whatever you were going to say was going to be sexist, racist, homophobic, or cause offense. If you don't want to cause offense, either rethink your opinions about people, or shut your mouth. If you're going to be a misogynist, you can at least sack up and cop to it, you coward.

And speaking of cowards, dear OP: She's not a whore, and given how you view her, I think it's safe to say she's made the right choice in not wanting anything to do with you romantically. I'd count my lucky stars she even bothers to talk to you. Go work on your interpersonal sensitivity, work out your gender issues, and maybe try again with someone who hasn't already pegged you for a creeper.

 

[Kahunaburger]

I'm shocked, shocked, that this topic was posted on a forum that just spent the last week collectively baaaawwww-ing about the idea of a feminist critique of problematic character tropes in games.

female depiction in games doesn't have anything to do with this thread.

Yeah, I'm sure that a forum having a knee-jerk reaction to any critique of objectification and that forum having a thread unironically calling a woman a "whore" are completely unrelated. No possible connection there, no siree. I'm, like, so startled by this thread's existence.

 

[Johnny Impact]

You cannot change anyone into anything. People will be what they will be. They may choose to change, or they may not. You have no say in the matter. She keeps pulling away? She doesn't want you that way. Move along.

 

[subtlefuge]

I find it surprising that you would respect a female opinion. You very clearly don't respect anything about this girl that you want to pursue.

That's not a female perspective, it's a guy stating clear facts.