is it worth it?

[RaikuFA]

I dunno, I have been very lucky first time

But giving up is not wise, sure there are a lot of Gold-diggers and cheaters out there, but there are also some who will be really worth it. And when you find someone good for you, you will be damn glad that you didn't give up.

true. but ive been hurt and rejected so many times i dont feel its worth it

 

[Erana]

Well, part of what happens in these sorts of string-of-bad-relationships things is that they, for some bizarre reason, feel inadequate if they do not have a mate, so they jump blindly at any chance for a girlfriend/boyfriend without referring to any real standards.

Relationships are meant to benefit both parties, not to fulfill some sort of requirement. If its obviously not going to be emotionally fruitful from the start, just don't do it.

(Not pertaining to the OP) What bothers me to no end is when people in a string of bad relationships then come here and instead of wanting to discuss their problems, they go, "Women are terrible bitches. Who agrees with me?" and only shows any effort or respect to those who agree with them. And then, of course, they do this at an odd time of day where the mods are asleep. -.-
/annoyed rant

Still, OP, I feel no obligation to have a boyfriend at this time. If I find someone right, I would pursue it, but otherwise I'd leave it be for now. Perhaps things would change if I were single in my 30's or something.

 

[Brandon237]

I dunno, I have been very lucky first time

But giving up is not wise, sure there are a lot of Gold-diggers and cheaters out there, but there are also some who will be really worth it. And when you find someone good for you, you will be damn glad that you didn't give up.

true. but ive been hurt and rejected so many times i dont feel its worth it

Quitters never win and winners never quit, so long as you stay open to opportunity you will find someone eventually

 

[flagship]

Take some time off from dating and re-evaluate the locations/contacts you use to meet women. There are plenty of good women out there however since a lot of them are either in a relationship, reclusive or shy meeting them can be tricky if you just go through normal channels.

 

[Lilani]

i was on another forum where people are saying its mens fault that guys are scared of dating and ive explained my situation. its like this:

"i just got out of a relationship. this is my 4th one. all of them just wanted money

like i said im ugly as sin, so ive actually got to work to get a relationship. im also not happy with having to work so much to get so little in return(ie, she just yells at me, wants money from me or just all right out cheats on me). i dont think its worth it if thats all relationships are"

would you not want to date if you kept on getting into situations like the above mentioned? cause people keep on saying its not worth it to stop doing it if this keeps on happening

As a woman, I have noticed the best and longest-lasting relationships start as friendships. My parents started this way, and they've been married 30 years. When you first meet a woman, don't try to ask her out then. That's just really creepy and desperate, and the only women you'll snag with that sort of bait is the creepy and desperate ones.

So just try to make friends, just as you make friends in any other sort of situation. Not only does this allow for your relationship to develop naturally, but it also gives you a way to get a feel for her nature before you commit yourself. It will be a slow process, but it will be rewarding in the end. I've been executing this strategy for about two years, and I'm happy to report I have a boyfriend now--the most amazing and caring guy I've ever met. So, trust me when I say it will be worth it.

 

[BonsaiK]

i was on another forum where people are saying its mens fault that guys are scared of dating and ive explained my situation. its like this:

"i just got out of a relationship. this is my 4th one. all of them just wanted money

like i said im ugly as sin, so ive actually got to work to get a relationship. im also not happy with having to work so much to get so little in return(ie, she just yells at me, wants money from me or just all right out cheats on me). i dont think its worth it if thats all relationships are"

would you not want to date if you kept on getting into situations like the above mentioned? cause people keep on saying its not worth it to stop doing it if this keeps on happening

That's why you've got to put your foot down and demand respect - not from others, but from yourself. More self-esteem and self-confidence means that you won't be walked over so much, you'll attract more and better people (regardless of looks) and you'll demand higher standards.

All sorts of things are worth doing, but what's worth doing is worth doing properly, or not at all.

 

[MaxwellEdison]

just buy a wife off of the internet.

in all seriousness, don't give up buddy, always someone for someone

thats the thing. i dont wanna date. i dont think im even supposed to, i know im ugly as sin. ive considered surgery. its not worth it because it just further proves my point on how women are shallow

I had sympathy until I read this.
You know what women just LOVE?
Self-hating misogynists!

/head desk

Look, I was once like you, so here's what you do. Do what makes you happy. Get good at it, be you, and be confident in this. Show your confidence off, frequently. Doing what you like has the side benefit of bringing you near women who enjoy the same activities, and thus enjoy men who are good at those activities. Bam, you just made yourself less depressed and attractive to women. You don't have to be a dick, or muscled, or even attractive. You just need to be a kind, confident, male.