Of course not. Everyone needs some time to themselves. It's when I get to come on here, or read a book.
Is it wrong in wanting to be alone?
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You definitely aren't alone on that notion. I love time to myself, the quiet and peacefulness of it. I have annoying siblings that always annoy me, and friends that always stir up dramatic bullshit in my friend circle. I like to get away from that kind of stuff.
I can totally empathize with that feeling. I love my family (all 50+ of them), but I need my space.
I can't be around people for an extended time either. It's perfectly understandable, you just need some space so you can recharge. Happens to me a lot.
One time in my childhood, my parents started working weird hours and one or the other of them ended up at home at any given time in the day. After about three weeks of having not one minute to myself, I had a really bad panic attack. Not fun, not fun at all. Also, that happened to be on Father's Day, so I couldn't go out for breakfast with them, which sucked a lot ...
One time in my childhood, my parents started working weird hours and one or the other of them ended up at home at any given time in the day. After about three weeks of having not one minute to myself, I had a really bad panic attack. Not fun, not fun at all. Also, that happened to be on Father's Day, so I couldn't go out for breakfast with them, which sucked a lot ...
not at all man. I bet out of those 48 cousins (I have about the same amount...just from one Uncle....) there are some that can be loud and annoying if you hang with them too much so it's understandable.
My immediate family LOVE to be a lone. When we go to my nieces birthday parties we usually hang just by ourselves and watch everyone else have fun. My brother in law gets really pissed off when we go to a birthday party and hold a table to ourselves (its six of us, we take up a whole table) and just chillax instead of dance and shit.
Hell even I chill by myself. I don't go out much, I don't like to hang out with my friends all too much anymore because all they do it go to parties, get drunk and be loud.
My immediate family LOVE to be a lone. When we go to my nieces birthday parties we usually hang just by ourselves and watch everyone else have fun. My brother in law gets really pissed off when we go to a birthday party and hold a table to ourselves (its six of us, we take up a whole table) and just chillax instead of dance and shit.
Hell even I chill by myself. I don't go out much, I don't like to hang out with my friends all too much anymore because all they do it go to parties, get drunk and be loud.
Everybody needs their space every now and again. We shall go mad if not able to get away from others for at least a little while.
i have the same problem and let me tell you, it's a lose lose situation. the only benefeit of it being a lose lose situation is there's no harm in trying to make your folks understand. i finally got mine to accept it and things have never been the same, sure I'M in a better mood becuse my buttons aren't being pushed so severely, but my relationship with my mother has become strained as a result.
I feel ya, a little too much even. Alone time is my kind of time. Dad was a douche, drank himself into the ground, mom booted him out when I was 2 and when I turned 18 he magically came to tell me how much me coming to this world ruined his life (first time I had ever seen him, solid parenting I know). Mom was always at work trying to keep us afloat so I learned to be alone and look after myself as a little kid and at 15 I started working in the same domain as her. I don't mind crowds and things, but family reunions are my definition of "been to hell, I can show you the devil" since even though we have no connection to them, my father's parents come see me to pretend they care and ask for money which we never give em but o well. Good thing I enjoy reading/gaming/walking around etc. Got few close friends that keep me sane.manic_depressive13 said:
Don't worry about your need to be alone, human beings tend to spend 2/3's of their time alone and are generally very adept at maintaining that status quo unless interference is in the equation (which it is here with your mother).Free Thinker said:
I had a similar problem, wanting to just relax on my own while getting hounded to join in with the activities. Just bear it for a while and then be straight with your parents. Maybe play the migraine card fully and ask to go lie down.
It's situational, sometimes you want to be alone, other times you like company.
I for one am positively dying for some solitude right now. For the next few days I'm in a hostel (bad) in China (worse). There is literally nowhere except my dorm where I can find some piece, luckily most of the other guests in there are gone all day (at night, like right now, not so much, which is why I've taken to carrying my headphones everywhere to drown out the masses with loud music).
Sweet, sweet sanctuary, in 3 days you will be mine.
I for one am positively dying for some solitude right now. For the next few days I'm in a hostel (bad) in China (worse). There is literally nowhere except my dorm where I can find some piece, luckily most of the other guests in there are gone all day (at night, like right now, not so much, which is why I've taken to carrying my headphones everywhere to drown out the masses with loud music).
Sweet, sweet sanctuary, in 3 days you will be mine.
Of course there's nothing wrong with it. Just as there are people who start to die inside whenever they are by themselves, there are those who prefer to have times of complete solitude.Free Thinker said:
As for the situation you're in, I say you should suck it up. My family can be annoying too and I've spent countless times finding new and creative ways to avoid them whenever I'm not required. However, family is an important part of your social network. They've known you the longest and you are an integral inheritor of their memory. This doesn't mean you can't ditch them for your own personal needs, of course you can. The very least you should do is keep up the appearance that you want to hang around them but are being dragged away by pressing personal matters.
In short, learn to lie. You know those people who talk about how lying, even with the best intentions, is a bad thing? They only say that because somebody suddenly stopped lying to them. The sudden truth hurts.