I find myself asking this question alot because despite everything and everyone around me pointing to the fact that I should want children, I really don't.
I am now 30 years old and have been single(happily) for a couple of years now. I really only have ever had one relationship where it got to the point of talking about children but now in hindsight I am very thankful that my now ex-girlfriend did not become the mother of a child of mine. All my mates, except a couple have kids as does my younger brother, so I have a nephew at least. I look at their kids and used to feel like I was missing out but in the last year or so I have come to the realisation that I don't want them.
I myself am a natural worrier. I worry about everything and could only imagine how I would be as a parent...I have 5 cats (2 burmese, a siamese, a tonkinese and a tortishell persian)and they are honestly my family. This will seem weird to non animal lovers or people that don't have pets, but I love them like I would any other member of my family. I know how much I worry about my cats constantly, so again I could imagine the nervous wreck I would be when it comes to kids.
There is also the really bad side to having children and I have seen it, not in my immediate family, as in my Mum n Dad but I have seen 3 of my Dads 4 brothers get taken through the ringer when they got divorced and then often had to just sit back while their ex-wives took off with most of what they owned and the kids. Then have to try and accept another man spending more time with his own kids than he does when the wife "moves on". I also have a mate right now, whose wife took off to Finland with his two kids. He hasn't seen them for 6 months. I just know from the bond I have with my cats, that the bond with a child must be something especially strong and can't begin to imagine the heartache and expense these sorts of situations cause. I know these are worst case scenarios but my worrying nature always puts these situations in the back of my mind. I just don't know if I could trust another person with something that important to me.
Don't get me wrong here, I actually love kids. Playing with my mates kids and my little nephew is awesome but I really have no desire to start a family of my own. I know it couldn't happen now as I am single but even in the future I can't see it happening.
Just thought I'd put this out there.
I am now 30 years old and have been single(happily) for a couple of years now. I really only have ever had one relationship where it got to the point of talking about children but now in hindsight I am very thankful that my now ex-girlfriend did not become the mother of a child of mine. All my mates, except a couple have kids as does my younger brother, so I have a nephew at least. I look at their kids and used to feel like I was missing out but in the last year or so I have come to the realisation that I don't want them.
I myself am a natural worrier. I worry about everything and could only imagine how I would be as a parent...I have 5 cats (2 burmese, a siamese, a tonkinese and a tortishell persian)and they are honestly my family. This will seem weird to non animal lovers or people that don't have pets, but I love them like I would any other member of my family. I know how much I worry about my cats constantly, so again I could imagine the nervous wreck I would be when it comes to kids.
There is also the really bad side to having children and I have seen it, not in my immediate family, as in my Mum n Dad but I have seen 3 of my Dads 4 brothers get taken through the ringer when they got divorced and then often had to just sit back while their ex-wives took off with most of what they owned and the kids. Then have to try and accept another man spending more time with his own kids than he does when the wife "moves on". I also have a mate right now, whose wife took off to Finland with his two kids. He hasn't seen them for 6 months. I just know from the bond I have with my cats, that the bond with a child must be something especially strong and can't begin to imagine the heartache and expense these sorts of situations cause. I know these are worst case scenarios but my worrying nature always puts these situations in the back of my mind. I just don't know if I could trust another person with something that important to me.
Don't get me wrong here, I actually love kids. Playing with my mates kids and my little nephew is awesome but I really have no desire to start a family of my own. I know it couldn't happen now as I am single but even in the future I can't see it happening.
Just thought I'd put this out there.
