is my dad wrong in this situation?
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Eh. It's all opinionated. Homosexual/sexist slurs are used A LOT as encouraging methods. Heck, a lot of people use those slurs in every day life. Just because his father doesn't necessarily branch himself away from the common usage of those slurs doesn't mean he is a poor parent. So he uses slurs, so what? It's not like he forced his son's arm into the hot oven or beat his son for his lack of action.Mortai Gravesend said:
You don't think there's the possibility of psychological damage when the kid is 14 years old and is probably confused as fuck due to being a little ball of hormones at this period in life?Lawllerskater said:
Sorry but the "meh everyone says it" defense falls flat when he steps outside of the common slur usage like fag and specifically mentions multiple ones, all having to do with homophobia.
The dad is a twat. If he needs to try and shape his son in the image he sees fit rather than let him develop into the individual he should become, then there's probably some serious insecurity/shortcomings in his life. And to make himself feel better, he's taking it out on his own kid.
This does not a good parent make.
If I learned anything from the movie Hot Rod, its that in order to earn your dad's respect, you gotta kick his ass.
Your dad's a bloody wanker. None of the stuff he natters about seems relevant to how "manly" a fellow is....
Hey, like I said. It's all opinionated.
You can think that using slurs is a bad method. You can also think using the corrective method of training dogs (i.e. Usage of collar correction or shock collars) is bad.
You can think that nations should use TEDs (Special shrimp nets that allow turtles to swim through them without being injured or caught) in order to harvest shrimp instead of just normal nets.
It's all opinions. The thing is we shouldn't have to enforce how one should parent a kid just because that's how WE see "good parenting". I don't know what "good parenting", because I'm a 20 year old college student. What the hell do I know about parenting? All I know is that my father used slurs such as "pussy" if I weren't up to the challenge. He used it in a more playful manner, but I'm not psychologically scarred. Heck, I'm glad he pushed me. He helped me accomplish into getting into a good college. He helped me get into martial arts and achieve my black belt. Though, all of this aside I'm not saying this is a GREAT method. But at the same time I'm not saying it makes him a bad parent either.
You are all entitled to your own opinions, I get it.
Heck, you are all judging a father over one scenario about trying to get his son to toughen up. You are taking this single situation and coming to the conclusion he is a bad parent.
You know what, I'll play your game then.
You are all horrible people who are short sighted.
You are not entitled to your own opinions, because I think that you are wrong. You are horrible people.
You can think that using slurs is a bad method. You can also think using the corrective method of training dogs (i.e. Usage of collar correction or shock collars) is bad.
You can think that nations should use TEDs (Special shrimp nets that allow turtles to swim through them without being injured or caught) in order to harvest shrimp instead of just normal nets.
It's all opinions. The thing is we shouldn't have to enforce how one should parent a kid just because that's how WE see "good parenting". I don't know what "good parenting", because I'm a 20 year old college student. What the hell do I know about parenting? All I know is that my father used slurs such as "pussy" if I weren't up to the challenge. He used it in a more playful manner, but I'm not psychologically scarred. Heck, I'm glad he pushed me. He helped me accomplish into getting into a good college. He helped me get into martial arts and achieve my black belt. Though, all of this aside I'm not saying this is a GREAT method. But at the same time I'm not saying it makes him a bad parent either.
You are all entitled to your own opinions, I get it.
Heck, you are all judging a father over one scenario about trying to get his son to toughen up. You are taking this single situation and coming to the conclusion he is a bad parent.
You know what, I'll play your game then.
You are all horrible people who are short sighted.
You are not entitled to your own opinions, because I think that you are wrong. You are horrible people.
He's an Ass, a Massive one..And I've known people like him. Good luck dealing with him, it'll get better soon.
If you were another year or 2 older and you didn't reach in and grab it, i'd call you a pussy.
But at 14 you're totally ok with not wanting to do various quasi-dangerous things yet.
Deal with it for another year, at which point it should be easier to get a job (apply at McDonalds - they're big into that whole 'use kids cause they're cheap' thing) and then start saving.
By the time you're mid to late 16 to 17 if you ever get too pissed off with your parents, just leave. You'll have enough money to live on your own for a while, and you could always crash with your friends or other famiry.
But at 14 you're totally ok with not wanting to do various quasi-dangerous things yet.
Deal with it for another year, at which point it should be easier to get a job (apply at McDonalds - they're big into that whole 'use kids cause they're cheap' thing) and then start saving.
By the time you're mid to late 16 to 17 if you ever get too pissed off with your parents, just leave. You'll have enough money to live on your own for a while, and you could always crash with your friends or other famiry.
most places will not hire until you are 15, and my dad was a huge douche to me i told him to shut the fuck up cause i may not have been as strong as he was but i had 3 times the life experience and 5 times the smarts.
Heh, my dad called me a poof for using nice shampoo/conditioner and moisturising.
Not nastily but just as a general jibe. Shut him up quite nicely when I landed a 16 year old missus...
My advice, just go with it. Steal the thunder as it were. Kinda takes the fun outta mocking someone when they do it themselves, plus if he really hates homosexuals then it should freak out knowing he raised his son to be one.
That or you could always just accuse him of projecting his latent homosexual issues onto you.
Not nastily but just as a general jibe. Shut him up quite nicely when I landed a 16 year old missus...
My advice, just go with it. Steal the thunder as it were. Kinda takes the fun outta mocking someone when they do it themselves, plus if he really hates homosexuals then it should freak out knowing he raised his son to be one.
That or you could always just accuse him of projecting his latent homosexual issues onto you.
Take burning foil out of oven through use of tongs, tea-towel, oven-mit, whatever.
Fling burning foil at dad's face.
Empty lasagne onto his lap.
Slap the now empty dish across his face.
Yell in his face, "Whos the fucking pansy now, *****?"
Spit on his face.
Light up a cigarette, inhale deeply and shake your head in disgust at him.
I guarantee he will never mess around with you again.
Fling burning foil at dad's face.
Empty lasagne onto his lap.
Slap the now empty dish across his face.
Yell in his face, "Whos the fucking pansy now, *****?"
Spit on his face.
Light up a cigarette, inhale deeply and shake your head in disgust at him.
I guarantee he will never mess around with you again.
In a technical sense, yes it is an opinion. Having an opinion and acting upon an opinion in a over-the-top manner are two different things.Mortai Gravesend said:
Some people don't like homosexuals. It's their religious view. Get over it. The world is full of different viewpoints and it isn't going to change. People are taught different things and have different views upon it. If someone thinks murdering children is good, well then yes it's still a god-damn opinion. I don't get what's so complex about what is considered an opinion.
I also never said I thought "sexist gender roles are a-okay". You seem to take my argument and slap on your extended version of the story onto it. I'm all for gay rights. I'm all for gender equality. I understand slurs are hurtful terms, but that's all beside the point. I just don't think one saying these slurs should be stamped with the title of "Horrible Father of the Year". There are plenty worse fathers out there. Go yell at someone beating or raping their infant. I'm Chinese. People have called me a *****, or have made asian stereotypes against me. Sure, I don't like it, but I'm not going to go and think they're going to grow up and suddenly become the WORST FATHER IN HISTORY because they were angry and resorted to name calling.
I wasn't playing a victim. I was making a dumb joke, mocking you. Maybe I should've put quotes around things or made the font more playful. Eh. I guess sarcasm and jokes are too much for people in this OMG SO SRS MATTER.
Seriously, this is such a small stupid case. A dad tells his kid to stop being a [insert derogatory name here]. This isn't a grim topic. This is just a common thing in America.
His dad isn't a bad father. He resorted to name calling.
He didn't beat the shit out of his kid.
Sweet baby Jesus I'm feel like I'm talking to people with paper hearts.
You're all probably going to hate me because I called your hearts paper now.
Ohhhh nooo, I'm going to grow up and become a horrible father! Someone stop me! Paper hearts!
Dont try and out tough him out smart him, trust me it will work the best. Also stand up to him, hes being a bully you have to stand up to a bully, if he hits you call CPS