I've Been Given an Ultimatum

[Legendairy314]

Well after coming home today I was, once again, told how socializing with friends is the Devil and finding a job is the one and only Jesus Christ (Frustrated Exaggeration). After slightly neglecting trying to get out of jury duty my parents were outraged that I had only spent a half hour trying to postpone the summons so I could go to school. I guess this was the straw that broke the camel's back. I have until the end of next week to find a job or...well...I'm assuming they're gonna kick me out of their house or take away my car. The problem is that I'm already going to be working at a haunted house this year and yet that's not good enough.

So what I'm asking is for two pieces of advice. What should I do about my parents who have the power to take away college from me and how can I find a job in this market ASAP? (Live in California just to help relieve location confusion)

 

[aba1]

Sounds to me like you arn't paying for school and thats mostly where your parents frustration comes from. School is not cheap my parents don't pay a penny it's up to me to pay for it all how much of yours do you pay for?

 

[LiraelG]

Can I ask, what do you do for your parents? Do you help around the home? Do you clean or cook? Have you spoken to them about why school is important and what you hope it will lead to? Do you have a plan for the future?

Why do they worry?

My parents get a bit angsty about my lack of a job, but they also hate the idea of a dead end job. They're afraid I'll become lazy and sit at home for the next year. That idea is hell. I WANT to be doing things, but I live in the middle of nowhere without a driving license and without public transport and my dad doesn't want to spend time driving me around. I understand their worry though, so I'm focussing on my driving test and voluntry work to build up my CV for now... Could you speak to them about what they would like you to do? Or will they simply say, 'Get a job'?

 

[SilentCom]

Sort of sounds like they are paying for everything. If you're afraid they'll take away your car, tell them that without it you can't drive to work. If you're afraid they'll kick you out of the house, tell them that without a home, then you might have to resort to a life of crime to survive with no job.

If you parents really care about you, they won't do either. If they are truly willing to do either one of those, then screw them. Also, remember that you need to give an honest try at finding a job and not just a season job at a haunted house. They are probably concerned that you aren't taking your future seriously.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

Tell them to fuck off.

Penetrating the job market at the moment is near impossible, it's who you know and not what you know.

Tell them to blame a global recession rather than you.

Although it doesn't quite help, it's damn true. This is exactly what fucked over my entire career life, still finding a job 3 years later after school because of it. :|

 

[Takumashii]

Are you in college right now? If so there are jobs specifically designed for students, although most of them are not that fun, but easier to find. A fast food place would be a good option too, there seems to always be a position open, just go to a lot of places and ask if they're hiring. Don't only look for something you want to do for the rest of your life when you're still in or about to go to college, just find something with flexible hours.

Your parents seem to be overreacting a little, but maybe it's because you have put off finding a job for so long?

 

[Legendairy314]

Sorry for leaving a few things out and thanks for the advice. I am currently going to a city college because it's cheaper, Non-school expenses (We have a special bank account set-up for them) are coming out of my savings account, I have been looking for a job for the last few years, and I generally try and help out around the house.

I recognize that a seasonal job isn't a permanent solution but when they said I just need to get a job, and I did, they immediately told me to ignore the 500$ it would provide and continue looking elsewhere. The main problem they seem to have is that they believe the job market is thriving. They hear stories "every day" of how a co-worker's 16 year old son is currently working 3 jobs that they landed yesterday. I've tried to get connections through friends and such and it just isn't helping. I even worked at a fast-food place only to get laid off because they had too many workers. Still not good enough I guess and now that school's started up again I have very little time, if at all, to go out and actively look for a job. Online applications don't count for anything to them.

 

[Takumashii]

Sorry for leaving a few things out and thanks for the advice. I am currently going to a city college because it's cheaper, Non-school expenses (We have a special bank account set-up for them) are coming out of my savings account, I have been looking for a job for the last few years, and I generally try and help out around the house.

I recognize that a seasonal job isn't a permanent solution but when they said I just need to get a job, and I did, they immediately told me to ignore the 500$ it would provide and continue looking elsewhere. The main problem they seem to have is that they believe the job market is thriving. They hear stories "every day" of how a co-worker's 16 year old son is currently working 3 jobs that they landed yesterday. I've tried to get connections through friends and such and it just isn't helping. I even worked at a fast-food place only to get laid off because they had too many workers. Still not good enough I guess and now that school's started up again I have very little time, if at all, to go out and actively look for a job. Online applications don't count for anything to them.

Is there a job center at your college for student jobs? And I would ignore what your parents say about online applications, they don't have to have such control over the methods you choose to find a job. I would agree with your parents that a haunted house job is not enough, they probably mean a regular job. I don't know if all colleges have a job center, but it's very nice to be able to apply for dozens of student jobs without having to fill out multiple applications, so definitely look into it.

Also tell your parents how much you're looking, since they may not realize it and think you're just trying to get out of it.

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

Sorry for leaving a few things out and thanks for the advice. I am currently going to a city college because it's cheaper, Non-school expenses (We have a special bank account set-up for them) are coming out of my savings account, I have been looking for a job for the last few years, and I generally try and help out around the house.

I recognize that a seasonal job isn't a permanent solution but when they said I just need to get a job, and I did, they immediately told me to ignore the 500$ it would provide and continue looking elsewhere. The main problem they seem to have is that they believe the job market is thriving. They hear stories "every day" of how a co-worker's 16 year old son is currently working 3 jobs that they landed yesterday. I've tried to get connections through friends and such and it just isn't helping. I even worked at a fast-food place only to get laid off because they had too many workers. Still not good enough I guess and now that school's started up again I have very little time, if at all, to go out and actively look for a job. Online applications don't count for anything to them.

Sorry to hear that your parents seem so unforgiving. I've been out of college for almost two years and I can't find anything (also live in California). I currently work my same retail job. I know online applications don't mean anything to them, but some of the best resources I've used to find current jobs, have been places like:

CalOpps.org
Governmentjobs.com

I've actually landed several prospects with those websites lately.

 

[Uncleblaze]

time to start whoring yourself out then. cant say i'd pay to see that. if your parents love you they wont kick your ass onto the street. try starting a under the radar house cleaning and lawn mowing service. it works depending on where you live and how well people take care of their houses. i hear selling drugs is also a good way to go to get cash... just putting that out there.

 

[Browncoat86]

Sorry for leaving a few things out and thanks for the advice. I am currently going to a city college because it's cheaper, Non-school expenses (We have a special bank account set-up for them) are coming out of my savings account, I have been looking for a job for the last few years, and I generally try and help out around the house.

I recognize that a seasonal job isn't a permanent solution but when they said I just need to get a job, and I did, they immediately told me to ignore the 500$ it would provide and continue looking elsewhere. The main problem they seem to have is that they believe the job market is thriving. They hear stories "every day" of how a co-worker's 16 year old son is currently working 3 jobs that they landed yesterday. I've tried to get connections through friends and such and it just isn't helping. I even worked at a fast-food place only to get laid off because they had too many workers. Still not good enough I guess and now that school's started up again I have very little time, if at all, to go out and actively look for a job. Online applications don't count for anything to them.

I can only assume that when they said "go get a job" they didn't mean "go get a seasonal job" which is probably why they are dismissing it. The only advice I can offer is that places such as Grocery Stores, Movie Theatres, Fast Food joints and many, many stores in malls basically have a "revolving door policy" when it comes to employee's. It's been my experience (from both sides of the counter) that as long as you maintain basic hygiene, and have at least a base understanding of the English language, they will hire you.