i've got a question....

[Stinovitch]

Do you guys and girls ever had the feeling you were completly alone? Do you ever have the feeling you can't share your thoughts and your feelings? This very moment I'm in that situation. I've been gaming for, I think, all my life, but somehow I feel like i'm the only person who likes videogames in this world. I don't know any person in my neighborhood ( is that how it's spelled?) who likes videogames and I'm feeling really alone at this moment... The question is: am I the only one here? Am I the black sheep here? Is there anyone out there who felt or feel the same way?

 

[PFCboom]

No, you're not the only one. You're never the only one. Even if you NEVER meet someone who has been through the same circumstances as you, it's a 99.999(repeating)% chance that someone has felt precisely the same as you. Fact.

 

[Berithil]

No, you're never the only on-

No, you're not the only one. You're never the only one. Even if you NEVER meet someone who has been through the same circumstances as you, it's a 99.999(repeating)% chance that someone has felt precisely the same as you. Fact.

What he said.

Yes, I have felt like that from time to time. Just never about video games. I know a ton of people who play video games, so I guess you should do some searching. Video gaming isn't a obscure hobby only for the nerds anymore. I'm sure there is someone around where you live that plays games.

 

[PFCboom]

It's occurred to me that what I said may have been a little callous and dismissive of your feelings, OP. My apologies.

I understand what you're going through. Not about gaming, my brother and all my friends are gamers. The feeling of being alone in something is similar, no matter what you're alone in.
I look around me and see my friends and associates being successful in... well, a lot of things, it seems. They're getting promoted before me, and finding love (or something like it) a lot more than me. I'm making progress, but it's slow. So slow, I feel like I'm standing still, next to (seemingly) everyone around me. I have big ambitions in my life, but the way things are going, I'm not sure they'll all happen. So much to do, so little time, or something like that.
I'm not delusional. I'm smart enough to be at least somewhat self-aware about the nature of the problem. I'm the problem, or at least part of it. I could've been promoted a few months ago if my higher-ups weren't so worthless, but I would've been promoted even sooner if... well, like I said, part of the blame for my issues lies with myself.
But I'm not alone, and certainly not suffering the most. My friends and family - the ones whom I envy - are here to help me, just as soon as I ask. So... there's hope.

 

[Nouw]

I used to have that feeling then I realized I can lurk the internet. No seriously, go on a message board about whatever you feel like discussing and join in. I always have this feeling after watching a film or finishing a game and immediately browse through the internet to read up on what other people felt about it. Feels good man.

 

[tippy2k2]

If someone tells you that they have never felt alone, they are lying to you.

At some point in everyone's life, you are going to feel that way. It could be as simple as no one shares your hobby (not that it makes it less important) or as big as you seeing your life going nowhere while all your friends are getting sweet jobs, buying houses, and starting families while you're stuck spinning your wheels with a ton of school debt and living in a studio apartment all alone T_T

...just as a random example
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[King of Asgaard]

all your friends are, buying houses, and starting families while you're stuck spinning your wheels with a ton of school debt and living in a studio apartment all alone T_T

I suppose it depends on what country you live in, but buying your own house and starting a family isn't that important everywhere. Case in point, my brother is 28, still lives with the rest of the family and has no interest in starting his own family, and he's quite happy.

OT: There was a time in my life where I was bullied consistently for eleven straight years.
I live in Malta, where geeks like me are few and far between.
Feeling alone is an understatement.
Luckily, it passes, as all things do. OP, you're a member of the illustrious Escapist, where you'll find many who share your tastes and will listen to your woes. You're in good hands here, you just have to ask.

 

[bojackx]

Well yeah, like everyone else. I can't say it's ever bothered me about video games, but in the sense of just not having people around I can confide in.

If the usual "go out and make pals" isn't doing you any help then do what I'm trying to do; make yourself okay with being alone. If you feel so alone it's probably because you don't trust anyone enough to want to confide in them, so if you can be totally okay without anyone else around then you'll never have to worry about your trust in someone being broken.

I'm definitely not saying you shouldn't try to make friends, or get more social, just that being totally alone isn't so bad to begin with.

 

[FamoFunk]

Yes, I've felt alone. Never about video games, just generally day-to-day life.

 

[Ratties]

Well I have given up when it comes to finding someone. I wasn't really trying all that hard to begin with. Literally don't care anymore. Like to say that I thought about it quite a bit when I was younger. Go and look at it as more of a disaster than a good thing. Relationships never felt real to me for some reason. Almost felt like a parasitic relationship where one person is always doing more than the other. Pretty much the ones that are pretty on the level, look crappy to me as well. Have to say that it is impossible not to feel the sting of being alone because our society likes to shove it in our face. Most girls don't like a guy thats been alone for a long time.

 

[Olas]

I also find it ironic that you're saying you can't express your thoughts or feeling when you're doing just that in your post. I know it's not the same, but whatever.

Look, I'm alone probably 90%+ of the time, so while I know this isn't a contest I'm pretty sure I'm worse off than you in that regard, though I like being alone. Being around lots of people is stressful, being alone makes me feel free and empowered. Based on you're post though I'm guessing you're probably the opposite, you sound like you're miserable, sorry I guess.

 

[Joccaren]

Trust me, a majority of the people in this world will have felt like you do about something at some point.
So far as videogames go, yes and no for me. In my family the attitude it that they're a waste of time. In my friend groups, every single one of them, including the 'normal' cool people who are the antithesis of your stereotypical nerd/gamer, plays games, and some are even taking courses in game design.
So far as other things? Yeah. I feel alone. Every day. For the last 6 years or so. Nobody I can talk to about some things. Well, there are people that I can talk to, but they're never around - my more distant friends that are still some of the best I have. It sucks, hopefully it'll end eventually, but if not you're better off finding some way to deal with it. How you do that is up to who you are, and what you want, and I would recommend not taking advice from the Internet on that one.

 

[MeChaNiZ3D]

Obligatory "Of course not, fool, there are several billion other people in the word" remark aside, yeah, I'm the same. To those who are saying "Aren't you doing that already in the OP?", not the same thing. It's having no-one to voice actual personal concerns to who cares. The solution is live with it. If it's just in the area of videogames, start smiling because you're in a better position than a lot of other people.

The best analogy I can give is trying to get someone else invested in an RPG character that you have made, except that plenty of other people manage to do it, something that rarely happens with RPG characters.

 

[Whateveralot]

It's neighbourhood

On topic. I havn't ever felt lonely. I felt solace in loneliness. Company in singularity. Sovereignty over mind. Being alone from time to time has never harmed me. I sometimes flee social contact for a while even now. Not because I'm mostly introverted, but because I've learnt to deal with loneliness so well that company can be tiring.

 

[MrRaggaedeman]

I`m in a similar situation. Most of my friends either start being successful in their career or get married and start their own families while I`m stuck with a terrible job. I know that I always could talk to them but I don`t really know about what. I feel kinda alone and left out in my situation.

 

[Sethzard]

At some point everyone feels alone, it's a sad fact of life.
My advice is try and find people to talk to on the internet. I have quite a few gamer friends IRL but I also have loads online and we all share gaming in common, this means that I will normally have someone to play with and after a while talk to.

 

[The Funslinger]

It's occurred to me that what I said may have been a little callous and dismissive of your feelings, OP. My apologies.

I understand what you're going through. Not about gaming, my brother and all my friends are gamers. The feeling of being alone in something is similar, no matter what you're alone in.
I look around me and see my friends and associates being successful in... well, a lot of things, it seems. They're getting promoted before me, and finding love (or something like it) a lot more than me. I'm making progress, but it's slow. So slow, I feel like I'm standing still, next to (seemingly) everyone around me. I have big ambitions in my life, but the way things are going, I'm not sure they'll all happen. So much to do, so little time, or something like that.
I'm not delusional. I'm smart enough to be at least somewhat self-aware about the nature of the problem. I'm the problem, or at least part of it. I could've been promoted a few months ago if my higher-ups weren't so worthless, but I would've been promoted even sooner if... well, like I said, part of the blame for my issues lies with myself.

I kind of know that feeling. I'm 18, the youngest of three, and I feel like the black sheep of my family. My sisters got better grades in their GCSEs than I did, and better grades in their A levels than I will. My oldest sister got a 25+k job two months out of university, when it was only supposed to be a temp position and my other sister is a very promising med student.

By comparison, my grades are very average, and I'm trying to work towards a Journalism degree, and get in shape to go into the Royal Marines, which may or may not happen. I might feel better about it when I start to get some return on this; get my degree and maybe even make it into the marines, but at the moment with nobody really offering very much encouragement, and every visit by my uncle turning into a "those two girls really are incredible, aren't they?" discussion, it's hard not to feel like a bit of a fuck up.

 

[Guffe]

I don't think I have a friend who doesn't game to some extent...
Some play more and some play less but everyone has played videogames at some point, more than just one game!

 

[Sacman]

It's neighbourhood

Well, in Americaland, it is "neighborhood"... with no "U" as with everything else, we really hate those things...

Yeah, I feel that way a lot... pretty much all the time... and in real life, I am alone... I am completely alone, unable to communicate or connect with anyone in any meaningful way... So, no... I suppose that you're not the only one who feels that way...<.<