I've got her number...now what?!

[BlueberryMUNCH]

Heya guys...about a girl again. Advice forum ftw.

So, there's this girl. I really like her, and I'm pretty sure she at least kinda likes me.
I got her number and we've been texting a bit...but...I'm running out of things to say and it's like FUFUFUFUFUUUUU>_<.

So guys, I need suggestions as to...what to...text about.

...veryimportantnote: YES SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. Don't worry though, I'm not gonna be a nob. Thing is, that rules out the chance of us meeting up outside, or inside school (Y).

So yuh, haalpmeh guys.

 

[Nerdygamer89]

If she isn't married, she's available. You wouldn't be a knob to pursue her as long as she seems interested. More on topic, just call her up and act natural. No reason to bring it up beforehand and get special clearance if you two are tight and are used to talking to each other.

 

[Zaverexus]

You can BS a million reasons to call someone. "I forgot to write down the homework" or "I need help with the homework" if you guys have the same classes. "I have something I really need to say over the phone" if you just want to come clean with it all. "The keyboard on my phone isn't working" is a nice one that you can't easily mess up unless she sees your phone a lot and even then you can say you don't have it cuz its being fixed or that it is already fixed. "I broke my fingers" if your that full of Bull or trying to be funny (if your trying to be funny she will inevitably ask what you really wanted to call about)

 

[aPod]

The fact that she has someone may mean you are ewasting your time. So long as you can take that chance, then here's my advice: Try to learn more about her. Ask a few questions and let things flow from there. What do you know about her? Try and talk about related subjects, or her interests. when you feel comfortable, call her one day and just chat. From there conversations should be more one on one and personal, in my opinion.

I hope this helps!

Well, I hardly think it would be a waist of time. You just have to learn how to gauge people and relationships. If the girl talks about how good her boyfriend is, yes probably a wasit. If she complains about him, or they get in a lot of fights well that is as good as being single. If you spend enough time with anyone some sort of relationship will develop.

She gave you her number after all, at the very least she has accepted the fact that you can call her, and here this is the number even. Like Zaverexus said you can make up any kind of BS reason. If she wants to talk to you you'll know it, because she'll try and keep you talking, and you likewise should try and keep her talking.

Anyways, best of luck buddy. If i were you i would call, the worst thing that could happen is she doesn't want to talk.

 

[latenightapplepie]

Bring up the possibility of calling her. I find voice-to-voice generally flows a lot better than texting. At least on an extended basis.

This. Texting and IM conversations are seriously flawed communication devices in the pursuit of romance, I've found.

Call her.

 

[weedalin]

Getting a woman's phone number is absolutely no guarantee that they have any sort of romantic feelings for you. I wish that people would learn this sooner rather than later.

This. Especially since it's really easy.

TBH, I would forego any middle-man communication modes and just talk to her IN REAL LIFE. She has a boyfriend, but I don't think that necessarily rules out a friendly meeting during school or something. Real-life conversation with other people around seems easier (for me, at least) than texting/calling.

 

[zombiesinc]

...veryimportantnote: YES SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. Don't worry though, I'm not gonna be a nob. Thing is, that rules out the chance of us meeting up outside, or inside school (Y).

So yuh, haalpmeh guys.

Unless you're worrying about running out of things to say because you enjoy talking to her as a friend, you shouldn't force conversation any further. On top of that, if you're struggling to keep the conversation alive that may be a sign that you two don't get along as naturally as, well, you should as friends.

If you really wish to keep the conversation alive, talk about something that interests you, and see if she's interested as well. The conversation should evolve as you two discuss specific things. If the conversation dies while texting, say goodbye, and talk to her on a later date. Generally when the conversation slows down, and there isn't much else to say, that's a good sign to stop, at least for the day. If you've stopped talking, and suddenly have something to share with her, go for it. Just, refrain from forcing the conversation to continue.

 

[rutger5000]

My first reaction was ask her out. But you said she already has a boyfriend. Well though luck for you, cause nothing is going to happen. Or at least that is if she isn't the kind of girl that cheats.
DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT BECOME HER FRIEND. You are interested in this girl, and you want to be something else then friends. Becoming her friend is lying to her, and if you become her friend, then that's the best you're ever going to become. Of course there is nothing wrong with being friends, but then you should decide to be just that. If you start a friendship while working an angle, then you're lying and in my opinion a rather horrible person.
Yes she might need a rebound if she breaks up with her current boyfriend, and there it could help that you're a friend of hers. But I doubt that you want or should wait for that, nor should you be all that interested.
You could still ask her out if you're clear that you want to be something different from friends. But then you're basically asking her to break up with her boyfriend.
The best thing you could do is to just forget about it. Move on to the next girl, you might want to stay in contact with the other girl. Just in case you happen to be both single at the same time. But I wouldn't recommend that, too much effort for a too small chance.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Dude, if she has a boyfriend, back away! Please!

Speaking as a guy who have lost a girl to another dude who wouldn't
let up (while we were together), I have to say that this is a horrible way to start a relationship.

Also having an affair with a girl who is in a relationship is a horrible thing to do to another person, really!

So my advice would be:
If she is happy with her relationship then let her slide, if she is not happy with her relationship then wait for her to end it before you pursue something. Starting a relationship on a sort of a ''lie'' is not the smartest move to make.

With regards to the calling her part. You really have to meet with her to figure out if you like her, texting and calling will only get you so far. You need basic human contact to see if there is indeed a spark.

If there is no ring on the finger she's free game. And when you really think about it, if she has a wandering eye then she's probably not happy with her current relationship, if she's not a raging slut of course. It all really comes down to a choice, what's more important, the possible risk of upsetting some dude you don't know and have no relationship with, or risk a certain female who fancies you being unhappy for a longer period of time. People leave people for others ALL THE TIME... it's a natural part of life. And alot of people enter relationships with people they know they won't be with forever.

OT: I would call her, constant texting of one another eventually gets stagnant after a time. Not only that but actually hearing your voice is much more effective then printed words on a screen. I usually call them first, and then text later.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

If there is no ring on the finger she's free game. And when you really think about it, if she has a wandering eye then she's probably not happy with her current relationship, if she's not a raging slut of course. It all really comes down to a choice, what's more important, the possible risk of upsetting some dude you don't know and have no relationship with, or risk a certain female who fancies you being unhappy for a longer period of time. People leave people for others ALL THE TIME... it's a natural part of life. And alot of people enter relationships with people they know they won't be with forever.

OT: I would call her, constant texting of one another eventually gets stagnant after a time. Not only that but actually hearing your voice is much more effective then printed words on a screen. I usually call them first, and then text later.

Her boyfriends a total dick and they're not even that close xD juss'sayin.

Anyway, update time. I think I should have clarified that we aren't in the same year at school; she's actually in the year below (yeahyeah don't gasp, there's only a 3 month age gap).
We say a brief hai in corridors and stuff but they are really narrow at school so we can't really stop and chat -_-'' biyyaaa.

Thanks for all the suggestions though guys, really appreciate it. Keep em'coming><.

 

[default]

Learn to be charming first up...

XD's and texty speak is NOT charming (whenever I see an XD I want to slap the person who sent it in the face), it's just shallow and annoying. Talk about each other, especially her, what you both love and have in common. Ask how her day has been, talk about your own, talk about each other.

But seriously mate, if she has a boyfriend she's off limits. Do you want to get decked? How do you know what their relationship is like?

If they split up, then perhaps she's 'fair game', but don't just jump in and go for it. Make sure she wants it too before you try, and you have to make her like you back.