I've Had Enough!

[eatenbyagrue]

And to be perfectly honest, despite all the crap he gives me, he's still my dad.

ARRRRGH! You're seriously pissing me of with your "he's still my dad" bullshit.
Why should that make any difference? He's an arse!
Come to Europe! We need you!

It's messed up, but thats how I was raised.

People are hard-wired to seek acceptance from groups. It's a cultural thing, and being raised in said culture my entire life, I don't know how to think any other way. I'm much more free-spirited and open minded than most, but the fact still remains that I'm a product of that kind of culture.

Its weird and alien to Americans and Europeans, yes, but thats what happens when cultures develop differently.

 

[Xorghul]

This is part of why I hate humanity.

 

[happysock]

Stick it to the man lol. Anyway good on you next thing you know you'll be head of a revolutionary movement

 

[JacOak]

Nasty. Seems to me you're in that "no going back zone" now. Fight against the restraints and hypocrisies of your parents - show them the error of their ways.
It's the best thing to do.

Also, your Dad sounds a helluva lot like mine (minus the old-money stuff). Tell me, has he ever given you a contemptuous look as soon as you enter the room?

 

[Dusty Donuts]

Fellow Escapists, let me tell you something about myself.

The story is not in the getting in, but in the night before. My father, bastard that he is, called me to the living room, and told me "I fully expect you to fail this, and I'm only letting you embarrass yourself so you can't whine about how I never supported you." That my friends, is possibly the WORST thing a father can say to his eldest son right before an entrance exam, bar none.

Me being me, I'd probably make some sort of stupid joke about it. Fully encompassing the seriousness of the situation, I hold that joke.
Why? Just why?
Another question, how do they treat your younger brother?

 

[eatenbyagrue]

Nasty. Seems to me you're in that "no going back zone" now. Fight against the restraints and hypocrisies of your parents - show them the error of their ways.
It's the best thing to do.

Also, your Dad sounds a helluva lot like mine (minus the old-money stuff). Tell me, has he ever given you a contemptuous look as soon as you enter the room?

I can sense that look even before I enter the room. Its his default expression

Fellow Escapists, let me tell you something about myself.

The story is not in the getting in, but in the night before. My father, bastard that he is, called me to the living room, and told me "I fully expect you to fail this, and I'm only letting you embarrass yourself so you can't whine about how I never supported you." That my friends, is possibly the WORST thing a father can say to his eldest son right before an entrance exam, bar none.

Me being me, I'd probably make some sort of stupid joke about it. Fully encompassing the seriousness of the situation, I hold that joke.
Why? Just why?
Another question, how do they treat your younger brother?

Just as bad. He told my brother the same thing when he was taking his high school equivalence test (he dropped out of high school), and before taking an exam to enter a culinary institute in Canada.

Let me put it this way: after the kid dropped out of high school, dad forced him to take a job at the family restaurant. After 2 years, the kid started to get good at the job, even without having to rely on nepotism: he was the go-to-guy in the bakery department, and could be trusted with all sorts of responsibilities.

Then dad said "Okay, now quit your job, I don't want you to work there." To this day, neither of us can come up with an explanation for why he did that.

 

[Burck]

*snip*
So, after a year of this, I've finally had enough. I waited until this weekend, when they would be gone Saturday and Sunday, to move the PC back up into my room. Its my way of telling them "I HAVE HAD ENOUGH OF YOUR SH*T, AND I WON'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!" It was the moment where I would finally grow a spine, instead of quietly hoping they would relent, I would go and seize my opportunity to improve my life. Carpe diem folks, seize the day.
*snip*

Wait, so your idea of saying "I HAVE HAD ENOUGHT OF YOUR SH*T" is to be passive aggressive?
Passive aggression solves nothing. Be direct. You've stepped up from "quietly hoping" to quietly acting, so take it up another notch and act loudly.
Take up your issues with your parents directly, confront them. If they don't listen, try getting a group therapy session to see if that helps get through to them.

 

[Disaster Button]

So, after a year of this, I've finally had enough. I waited until this weekend, when they would be gone Saturday and Sunday, to move the PC back up into my room. Its my way of telling them "I HAVE HAD ENOUGH OF YOUR SH*T, AND I WON'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!" It was the moment where I would finally grow a spine, instead of quietly hoping they would relent, I would go and seize my opportunity to improve my life. Carpe diem folks, seize the day.

Moving your PC, hmm. What a BOLD statement

Why don't you just move out? Or talk to your parents. Not the kind of sit down over a cup of tea talk. You tell them what's going to happen and tell them what dickholes they are. Couldn't hurt. They seem to do it to you often enough

 

[Lenny Magic]

And do you feel good after writing all that? I really hope you do. because my advise to you is to tell them how you feel. Good luck

 

[BaldursBananaSoap]

Get on the first plane you see and never look back.

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

My girlfriend is the same way. Her parents (or father rather) beat her and mentally abused her as a kid and so she's developed anorexia, depression, insomnia, and an intense need to please others. The last one causes her to constantly be the "nice guy" and help everyone else with their problems and sacrifice her own well being for her "friends" who are simply using her for a little therapy. One day she'll snap just like you did. Anyway man good for you for taking that first step and I hope it all works out. When dad gets home stand your ground and don't be afraid to get angry. I bet a little unexpected assertiveness would throw him off.

 

[Sparrow]

Wah, wah, wah.

It's an old argument, but what the hell: Alot of people wish they were as well off as you.

 

[Dr Ampersand]

Le snip snip snip

Wait, so your idea of saying "I HAVE HAD ENOUGHT OF YOUR SH*T" is to be passive aggressive?
Passive aggression solves nothing. Be direct. You've stepped up from "quietly hoping" to quietly acting, so take it up another notch and act loudly.
Take up your issues with your parents directly, confront them. If they don't listen, try getting a group therapy session to see if that helps get through to them.

Ghandi begs to differ.

On Topic: I'd invite your father to have a talk and remind him that he expects you to fail yet you pass and that he doesn't control you.

 

[eatenbyagrue]

Wah, wah, wah.

It's an old argument, but what the hell: Alot of people wish they were as well off as you.

I never claimed to be the worst sob story. Off the bat, I can name several good things about my life: I live in general comfort, people generally agree that I'm quite the smart fellow, I'm genuinely nice to a fault, etc.

I never asked for sympathy either. I just had a load I wanted to get off my chest. The idea behind it, as I explained, is catharsis.

 

[Georg8]

*hug* im glad your getting it done, but hey being sensitive isnt all bad the ladies love it

 

[G1eet]

And I plan to leave. I know its not considered cool to like the Americans, but honestly, after living with the kind of crap being a Filipino gives me, I'd rather be an American, or pretty much anything that isn't here in the East.

Yes, moving here to the U.S. is a good idea. In fact, my hometown has a large Filipino population. I'd bet 85% of the doctors working in the private sector are either first or second generation Filipino.

You'd just have to get used to living alongside rednecks and the occasional "white trash". But if you get a nice house in a good part of town, it can work out very well.

And you would have to get used to snow. Lots of it.

Edit: We also have a few local newspapers that you could get a job at.