Just friends

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

These threads are everywhere!

Just ask her out.

But that would imply that I don't care about her feelings, and how she is going through an emotionly distressing time.

 

[MorsePacific]

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Finding out your position actually did clarify a lot of what you said. I guess the fact that I seemingly never had problems being comfortable around girls helps a lot when I tell people to be themselves.

I don't believe in the friend zone mainly because I'm madly in love with a girl who I've considered my best friend for two years and didn't even feel remotely attracted to her as more than such for a large portion of it. The "friend zone" to me signifies some kind of point of no return when your relationship is doomed to be nothing but a friendship. Human emotions are so chaotic and fluid that saying that a relationship could never come of it is just ludicrous to me.

 

[barbzilla]

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Finding out your position actually did clarify a lot of what you said. I guess the fact that I seemingly never had problems being comfortable around girls helps a lot when I tell people to be themselves.

I don't believe in the friend zone mainly because I'm madly in love with a girl who I've considered my best friend for two years and didn't even feel remotely attracted to her as more than such for a large portion of it. The "friend zone" to me signifies some kind of point of no return when your relationship is doomed to be nothing but a friendship. Human emotions are so chaotic and fluid that saying that a relationship could never come of it is just ludicrous to me.

Nothing is ever final, I think most good relationships start off as friends and build on that. I think I need to find a better term than Friends Zone as it apparently gets misread. There are times though that being just friends isn't going to change. Sometimes the person you are interested in just has no interest in you. You can't really engineer a relationship from that, however I think having a good friend is its own reward as well.

I am very happy for your relationship and I hope it remains fulfilling.

 

[Artemus]

Brosef.


So. I've got a 'girlfriend' who lives across the country, literately. I've never seen her face, I've never heard her voice, and all I know is her name and AIM account. This has been our relationship for the past year. She's super touchy about going anywhere past where we currently are due to past guy problems.

Sometimes, being a friend is all you can be. Even when you give your all to her, she may still be 'blind' to your generosity, and go for some other douchebag. Voice your opinion (don't force it, voice it), and stand by her. Once he dumps her, you'll still be here. Eventually, she'll get the picture. And even if she doesn't, you'll still be her best friend, which is what she /really/ needs.

Sure, it's frustrating, even kind of heart breaking to see the one you care so much about go the way she obviously shouldn't, but there's only so much one can do about it.


I guess you probably already knew all of this. By the sounds of it, my entire post has been moot. But I wanted to comment here for a few reasons.

1. You're a boss, and I couldn't read this thread because your massive guts were in the way.

2. You sound like a guy who knows how to properly treat a woman. Reproduce, and Humanity can be restored.

Good luck to you sir. You're not alone.

 

[Instinct Blues]

Just ask her if she wants to hang out sometime and have some fun. Go bowling, go to the movies, anything that you both think is fun times and then have said fun times. Then see where it goes from there.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

I'm in the same situation pretty much. This girl I'm crazy about is dating this douchebag who treats her like property instead of the beautiful girl she is. She's sweet and funny and caring. She's at my house most of the time because she doesn't want to be with him and she even admitted to liking me and knowing that I'm better for her. I wish she'd dump him already