Just want an opinion

[Fridge]

Ok guys and gals, I'm going to make this short.

As of yesterday I was diagnosed with stomach cancer, because of this I text my ex girlfriend of 4 months just to let her know because we're supposed to be friends, we hang out in the same circles and if the roles were reversed I'd expect to be told myself.
I sent the text about 12 hours ago now and... nothing. Not a text, phonecall, facebook message or any other form of communication. I know her number hasn't changed and I also know she can't block my texts (same network and I can't so she can't) I also know she's on contract so having credit isn't an issue.

Here's the thing, we didn't split because one was cheating on the other or through any other bad term, we split because as she put it "the love was gone". So its not as if we hate each other.

I'm just looking for opinions... or something. Actually no, if I'm entirely honest, I also wanted to vent.

 

[Gurk]

It sounds like you've got enough stress in your life. If you can help it, don't worry about her. Some people just aren't worth the energy. <3

I hope you get better OP.

 

[Erana]

Time is different for people who don't face life-changing events.
She may have just lost her phone or something; no need to get worried if she hasn't seen a text. Take care of yourself right now; I'm really sorry to hear about your diagnosis.

 

[LinkasZelda]

Have you guys been talking consistently?
If so, then she might just be busy. I know how it is, I get a panic attack every time my boyfriend doesn't reply for a few hours, but if you're sure that you're friends then she's probably just caught up.

Even if you're not, hearing that someone who use to be close to you has stomach cancer is not exactly something a decent person would ignore.

Chances are, she's just busy or didn't have a chance to read your text yet.
If not, and she's really ignoring you, then she really isn't worth the stress.

I hope you get better.

 

[Dark Knifer]

Maybe saying something like that to her might just leave her speechless. She probably just doesn't know what to say.

Really hope you recover though. All the best.

 

[Lullabye]

My opinion is that you are clearly not over her and you need to sort out your feelings about her. Preferably before you die of stomach cancer, as I would assume it would make teh deathbed alot easier.
[sub]Ya know, worst case scenario I would imagine[/sub]
Though I'm sure you'll get through the cancer fine, maybe not so much the girl.....

 

[Bon_Clay]

Shit dude sorry to hear that, but stay positive now that its diagnosed they can start treating it.

As for the ex girlfriend maybe she hasn't read the message, texting isn't the best form of communication, maybe you should try calling or talking in person if you can.

If she did read it already maybe she doesn't know what to say or how to respond. I don't know you so I don't have the emotional reaction to the news that someone who knows you would have.

If she just didn't feel like answering then that would be a pretty rude thing to do, so if you were on good terms I can't see why she would do that. I hope you have some other close friends you can talk to in the mean time.

 

[Fridge]

Cheers for the responses, I'm not all that worried about the actual cancer thats the thing. I'm pretty sure its been got early and the doctors think I'll be fine before I go travelling in September (although if I'm not then I'll deal with it).
I'm just trying to get a grip on where I stand really and see if maybe someone else can think of a reason.

As for being over her, yeah I'm totally not, but thats besides the point.
I text a friend who I've not seen in 4 years and she responded within moments. I was mainly doing it because as I said if roles were reversed I'd want to hear from her not a friend.

 

[ZeroMachine]

Have you guys been talking consistently?
If so, then she might just be busy. I know how it is, I get a panic attack every time my boyfriend doesn't reply for a few hours, but if you're sure that you're friends then she's probably just caught up.

Even if you're not, hearing that someone who use to be close to you has stomach cancer is not exactly something a decent person would ignore.

Chances are, she's just busy or didn't have a chance to read your text yet.
If not, and she's really ignoring you, then she really isn't worth the stress.

I hope you get better.

Third possibility- she's young and/or freaked the fuck out and/or wondering if he's trying for what this guy said:

Forget her, and bang as many chicks as you can before you go in for chemo.
Pity sex is still sex.

Which, for the record, is fucking pathetic.

So maybe she just doesn't know how to respond. Reasonable in certain circumstances.

 

[Fridge]

Forget her, and bang as many chicks as you can before you go in for chemo.
Pity sex is still sex.

Yeah, I don't think I'll be using that as a chat up line.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Pretty sure she has no idea how to respond to that over TEXTING.

Seriously, dude. Why the fuck would you send information of that magnitude in a fucking text message? They're supposed to be for quick planning or small talk, not stuff like CANCER.

And hey, here's an idea: JUST CALL HER. You probably should have called her or waited to tell her in person in the fucking first place.

Goddamn....A fucking text message? Really?

 

[ZeZZZZevy]

She may not have responded for any number of reasons, don't just assume the worst.
1. the text may not have reached her (this has happened to me on multiple occasions)
2. she lost her phone
3. she doesn't know what to say
etc.

Just take a deep breath, step back, and focus on more important things in your life.

 

[ZeroMachine]

Pretty sure she has no idea how to respond to that over TEXTING.

Seriously, dude. Why the fuck would you send information of that magnitude in a fucking text message? They're supposed to be for quick planning or small talk, not stuff like CANCER.

And hey, here's an idea: JUST CALL HER. You probably should have called her or waited to tell her in person in the fucking first place.

Goddamn....A fucking text message? Really?

Another good point. It's why I fucking hate texting. My last relationship ended over text. It's annoying as hell.

 

[Fridge]

Pretty sure she has no idea how to respond to that over TEXTING.

Seriously, dude. Why the fuck would you send information of that magnitude in a fucking text message? They're supposed to be for quick planning or small talk, not stuff like CANCER.

And hey, here's an idea: JUST CALL HER. You probably should have called her or waited to tell her in person in the fucking first place.

Goddamn....A fucking text message? Really?

Yes a text. And lord knows when I'll next see her to speak to her, we may run in the same circles but we've been avoiding one another for a bit to stop uncomfortable moments.
As for calling her I could have done that, but to be honest I'm not sure she would answer and I really don't want to put it in a answerphone message. So I used the only other option I had, a text. It was a spur of the moment thing while the information was still filtering in my head.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Pretty sure she has no idea how to respond to that over TEXTING.

Seriously, dude. Why the fuck would you send information of that magnitude in a fucking text message? They're supposed to be for quick planning or small talk, not stuff like CANCER.

And hey, here's an idea: JUST CALL HER. You probably should have called her or waited to tell her in person in the fucking first place.

Goddamn....A fucking text message? Really?

Yes a text. And lord knows when I'll next see her to speak to her, we may run in the same circles but we've been avoiding one another for a bit to stop uncomfortable moments.
As for calling her I could have done that, but to be honest I'm not sure she would answer and I really don't want to put it in a answerphone message. So I used the only other option I had, a text. It was a spur of the moment thing while the information was still filtering in my head.

Well....Alright, I guess that makes sense. In that case, I don't know. If I had to guess, she just doesn't know how to respond because it's such big news. I don't knew you or her well enough to judge the situation properly, though. Why don't you talk to some mutual friends about it? Seems like they'd have a better angle on the situation.

 

[manaman]

Forget her, and bang as many chicks as you can before you go in for chemo.
Pity sex is still sex.

Yeah, I don't think I'll be using that as a chat up line.

You should. Presented right it works quite well.

Wait, bad manaman, that's horrible advice. You shouldn't take advantage of the situation like that.

As for the text. Screw it. Why worry about that person's response so much?

 

[Fridge]

Pretty sure she has no idea how to respond to that over TEXTING.

Seriously, dude. Why the fuck would you send information of that magnitude in a fucking text message? They're supposed to be for quick planning or small talk, not stuff like CANCER.

And hey, here's an idea: JUST CALL HER. You probably should have called her or waited to tell her in person in the fucking first place.

Goddamn....A fucking text message? Really?

Yes a text. And lord knows when I'll next see her to speak to her, we may run in the same circles but we've been avoiding one another for a bit to stop uncomfortable moments.
As for calling her I could have done that, but to be honest I'm not sure she would answer and I really don't want to put it in a answerphone message. So I used the only other option I had, a text. It was a spur of the moment thing while the information was still filtering in my head.

Well....Alright, I guess that makes sense. In that case, I don't know. If I had to guess, she just doesn't know how to respond because it's such big news. I don't knew you or her well enough to judge the situation properly, though. Why don't you talk to some mutual friends about it? Seems like they'd have a better angle on the situation.

No no thats fair, I was just seeing if I could get some outside opinion. I've not told any of my friends that I see regularly yet, mainly because I just went home and pottered around trying to get my head around it.

 

[Fridge]

Forget her, and bang as many chicks as you can before you go in for chemo.
Pity sex is still sex.

Yeah, I don't think I'll be using that as a chat up line.

You should. Presented right it works quite well.

Wait, bad manaman, that's horrible advice. You shouldn't take advantage of the situation like that.

As for the text. Screw it. Why worry about that person's response so much?

I've done well enough without that particular chat up line... maybe I'll keep it in reserve