Kind of a sensitive question

[Captain Underbeard]

but my question is since this is obviously a huge thing and massively upsetting to everyone involved am I an extremely horrible person for wanting this all over and done with so me and my girlfriend can start trying to move on and heal from the experience so we can try in the future if were still together

It's not a horrible thing to want to get over it.

But everyone else needs time to grieve. If you aren't accepting or helpful with their grief, that'd make you a horrible person.

Don't be that person dude

 

[Abseith]

Well thanks everyone for the words of confidence we went through with the first half of the process today and its been a hell of a long day to say the least thursday the final part happens but we found out the head had grown at least 3-6 mm in the last week which is rapid growth and was not going to slow down so that restrengthened our resolve to go through with what we did

also found out it was a boy which was kinda nice and upsetting at the same time for me because i wanted a boy

weve agreed to let the hospital do an autopsy to see what really went wrong where and should find out in about 6 weeks time

thanks again to everyone who read this and took time to respond it means a lot right now

 

[Terminal Blue]

Well thanks everyone for the words of confidence we went through with the first half of the process today and its been a hell of a long day to say the least thursday the final part happens but we found out the head had grown at least 3-6 mm in the last week which is rapid growth and was not going to slow down so that restrengthened our resolve to go through with what we did

That is very severe. It sounds like you made the right decision.. poor thing though.

You don't have to stay strong for anyone's sake, just remember what your girlfriend has been through. The most important thing is that you don't push her and give her space to grieve if she needs it, not that you act like a stoic pillar of support all the time. Grieving together is sometimes easier than grieving alone. I'm sure it's been a difficult experience, so avoid putting any pressure on your relationship. Make sure you're helping each other, not just feeding off each other.

I really hope things start to look up for both of you, and I'm glad the process seems to have gone okay so far.