Kinda embarassing problem, ho! Warning, explicit content.

[Doclector]

Okay...this is gonna be awkward. Reeeeaaal awkward.

Okay, basically...I wanna f***. And nothing else.

Not literally thinking of nothing else but f***ing, thank god that hasn't happened in a while. I mean, I don't want a relationship, but I do want to f***.

There are several problems with this. For one, I am terrible with women. I can make them laugh, I can get their attention through just how wierd I am at times, but I can't do much more than that.

For another, I'm a virgin. At twenty years old. Yikes. Apparently, I should be saving it for someone special. Whom? The reason I don't want to be in a relationship is that I believe if I did, she'd just find someone better and drop me like a good series on the fox network. If I find someone special, she ain't sticking around. Honestly, it's got to the point where I just want rid of my virginity, and not just because I'm embarassed, I actually want to do this.

I am all sorts of ungodly kinds of ugly. My personality would be my strong part, which would be helpful if I was looking for a relationship, but I don't want a relationship, I want to f***. People don't tend to like one night stands with ugly people. Especially one with no experience whatsoever.

I don't often see myself as the kind of guy to "do-and-dash". I don't want to be that kind of guy, but for some reason, be it instinct, be it testosterone, be it sexual frustration, be it just the fact that I'm going out more, and seeing more people who I would like to f***, I want a one night thing. I just don't get it.

I have tried relieving myself, it only works for so long.

So advice? Am i kidding myself? Is there anything wrong with just plain wanting to lose my virginity, and not caring about whom I lose it with? Is there something terribly perverted about me? Am I a terrible person? Is there any end to these pointless questions? Does this sound like the plot to an american pie movie? How many F-bombs can I fit in a single post?

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Okay...this is gonna be awkward. Reeeeaaal awkward.

Okay, basically...I wanna f***. And nothing else.

Not literally thinking of nothing else but f***ing, thank god that hasn't happened in a while. I mean, I don't want a relationship, but I do want to f***.

There are several problems with this. For one, I am terrible with women. I can make them laugh, I can get their attention through just how wierd I am at times, but I can't do much more than that.

For another, I'm a virgin. At twenty years old. Yikes. Apparently, I should be saving it for someone special. Whom? The reason I don't want to be in a relationship is that I believe if I did, she'd just find someone better and drop me like a good series on the fox network. If I find someone special, she ain't sticking around. Honestly, it's got to the point where I just want rid of my virginity, and not just because I'm embarassed, I actually want to do this.

I am all sorts of ungodly kinds of ugly. My personality would be my strong part, which would be helpful if I was looking for a relationship, but I don't want a relationship, I want to f***. People don't tend to like one night stands with ugly people. Especially one with no experience whatsoever.

I don't often see myself as the kind of guy to "do-and-dash". I don't want to be that kind of guy, but for some reason, be it instinct, be it testosterone, be it sexual frustration, be it just the fact that I'm going out more, and seeing more people who I would like to f***, I want a one night thing. I just don't get it.

I have tried relieving myself, it only works for so long.

So advice? Am i kidding myself? Is there anything wrong with just plain wanting to lose my virginity, and not caring about whom I lose it with? Is there something terribly perverted about me? Am I a terrible person? Is there any end to these pointless questions? Does this sound like the plot to an american pie movie? How many F-bombs can I fit in a single post?

Don't worry about being a virgin. You ain't missing a thing. I've found sex to be very over-rated. But, I have found that if you really want something to happen, stop actively searching for it and focus on other things. Then, it will eventually happen.

But, if you're really just looking for an easy lay right now, I guess go to a club that has rave night with some other guy friends and just sit where you are noticable but secluded. They will come to you. If you ignore them and bassically act disinterested in what they have to say, they will only want you that much more.*

*This in no way applies to all women, merely those that go to clubs on rave night. I am not trying to be an asshole.

 

[chaosyoshimage]

I used to be like that, now I don't really give a damn. All I want now is that "meaningful realtionship" thing, it intrigues me to no end, but I have no clue how to go about finding one. I guess if you just want to get laid, booze or something, I don't know, I'm not helpful at all.

 

[Slash Dementia]

It's nothing. You shouldn't worry about losing your virginity at all. Sure, sex sounds fun and all, but I'd rather have it with some meaning--even if some people think it's lame. I don't want some random that I don't care about, and what if things go wrong with said person and they become accidentally pregnant. I would never be willing to take that chance--especially having a girlfriend.

You're over-thinking these things. Don't doubt yourself about having a relationship with someone because it's so much fun to do so. I'd say most people are worth being with. I didn't think I was, but apparently I am.

I can't give advice for one night stands because I don't care to think of it.

 

[Avistew]

Is prostitution legal where you live? If so, there is that. Otherwise, you mind find people who also only want the sex on craigslist or something.
Good luck.

Also, define "ugly"? You might be some people's type.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Okay...this is gonna be awkward. Reeeeaaal awkward.

Okay, basically...I wanna f***. And nothing else.

Not literally thinking of nothing else but f***ing, thank god that hasn't happened in a while. I mean, I don't want a relationship, but I do want to f***.

There are several problems with this. For one, I am terrible with women. I can make them laugh, I can get their attention through just how wierd I am at times, but I can't do much more than that.

For another, I'm a virgin. At twenty years old. Yikes. Apparently, I should be saving it for someone special. Whom? The reason I don't want to be in a relationship is that I believe if I did, she'd just find someone better and drop me like a good series on the fox network. If I find someone special, she ain't sticking around. Honestly, it's got to the point where I just want rid of my virginity, and not just because I'm embarassed, I actually want to do this.

I am all sorts of ungodly kinds of ugly. My personality would be my strong part, which would be helpful if I was looking for a relationship, but I don't want a relationship, I want to f***. People don't tend to like one night stands with ugly people. Especially one with no experience whatsoever.

I don't often see myself as the kind of guy to "do-and-dash". I don't want to be that kind of guy, but for some reason, be it instinct, be it testosterone, be it sexual frustration, be it just the fact that I'm going out more, and seeing more people who I would like to f***, I want a one night thing. I just don't get it.

I have tried relieving myself, it only works for so long.

So advice? Am i kidding myself? Is there anything wrong with just plain wanting to lose my virginity, and not caring about whom I lose it with? Is there something terribly perverted about me? Am I a terrible person? Is there any end to these pointless questions? Does this sound like the plot to an american pie movie? How many F-bombs can I fit in a single post?

20 year old man, desperate to have sex. Will wonders never cease.

Seriously guy, there is nothing wrong with you. This is all completely normal. The ugly thing is unfortunate, but there are ways to mitigate that. One, make sure your hygiene is impeccable, and dress well. Two, do awesome things. Learn to play an instrument. Pick up a sport and excel at it. Be the smartest guy in the room. Just pick SOMETHING, and be excellent at it. That's attractive. And above all, be confident, be funny, be humble, and be nice. Then you can be the ugliest man in all creation and women will still want to fuck you.

 

[Doclector]

Is prostitution legal where you live? If so, there is that. Otherwise, you mind find people who also only want the sex on craigslist or something.
Good luck.

Also, define "ugly"? You might be some people's type.

Like something that crawled out of the devil's ass crack, thought it to be a wonderful morning, then had acid thrown in it's face.

 

[Archedgar]

To OP:
I understand where you're coming from, I'm pretty SUPREMELY F***ing ugly myself, but that's never stopped me from approaching women and giving it a shot.
Women, unlike us men, aren't really superficial when it comes to sex, you could be the ugliest, most deformed mother shampooer ever and they still won't care as long as you have CONFIDENCE and CHARISMA.

You just need practice and you need to really give it a shot, stop worrying about "Relationships" and "The Right One", just go out and ask a girl out, keep it light, try to make her laugh and see what develops, if she's DTF that's great, if she isn't but DOES want to keep seeing you, that's great too, if you get shot down, no big deal, there are plenty of women out there.

If you have trouble filling in the blanks here, try to practice in front of a mirror.


The OTHER issue;
You're worried that your lack of sexual experience might frighten some women away, well here's a thought, STOP TELLING PEOPLE YOU'RE A VIRGIN. This should be a no-brainer, but since you're inexperienced, I feel I should really warn you about that, women don't want a virgin the way men do. First of all; I assume you know how sex works? what's that? you do? then you're set! While I admit it, practice does make you better, as long as you don't get overexcited and never make it from the first pitch to the final out, you're fine.

I hope things go well for you. I was once in your situation and it was really hard to get out.
Trust me, confidence is what draws women, more than looks and money, CONFIDENCE... and charm, but definitely confidence above all else.

 

[Archedgar]

Oh for fuck's sake, I had a really long post responding to the OP but the captcha failed and now I have nothing.

Let me summarize since I don't have the energy to make such a long post again;
1- Women don't care about looks as much as you think they do. Confidence and charm are far more important than anything else, more than looks, more than money.

2- Your lack of experience isn't a big deal, as long as you know the fundamental basics of how the deed works. You may frighten them by saying you're a virgin, it doesn't work the way it does for men, we want virgins, women generally don't, with some rare exceptions. They don't want you fumbling down there and if you're the kind of guy who talks about his virginity, you're telling them you're the kind of guy who fumbles.

3- Don't be afraid to fail, approach women, ask them out, there are only three possibilities really
* She says yes and she's DTF(SCORE!)
* She says yes but she isn't DTF (Okay good start anyway)
* She says no (Oh well)


There are MANY women out there, what you have is a lot of insecurity, you need to get out there and try it, trust me. I used to be like you, but what you need is to bite the bullet and really try to put yourself out there. If you're worried that you won't know what to say(you claim you're good at talking to women so maybe) ; practice in front of the mirror, talk to a friend and roleplay.
YES I know how that sounds, I know you don't want to , but try it.


I hope you get out of this ditch man, I really do. Keep things light, don't worry about "The Right One" or "Relationships" yet, just play it cool and have fun. Don't be afraid to get shot down, that fear is your worst enemy.


GL.










Edit:
OH #*%^*& DOUBLE POST.

It looks like the site was lagging or something and it actually didn't eat the first post as I had imagined. Sorry.

 

[MaxwellEdison]

Why is wanting to have sex a bad thing? Christ, you're an animal. You're SUPPOSED to want to fuck all the time. That's seriously why the species has been around this long. Embrace it.

But generally, lighten up about relationships, it's not as hard as you think. My advice:
1. Jack off more?
2. Gain confidence through getting good at what you love, getting to meet new people, etc.
3. Ease yourself into confidence w/ the preferred gender.

OR, if this is "medical issue" level obsession, just buy a hooker.

 

[chuckman1]

Honestly it sounds like what you want might be a prostitute.
Think long and consider it.
If this is what you want USE A CONDOM. You don't want a kid with a hooker.
And watch out I'm not sure where you live but some places are harsh on prostitution for some reason.

Not that I'm saying you should it just sounds like it could be what you want.

 

[sir.rutthed]

Go easy on yourself man. Sex isn't the end all be all of life. So you haven't mixed certain fluids with certain other people's fluids. Big deal. Try to focus on something else in your life and just relax.

 

[thespyisdead]

Like something that crawled out of the devil's ass crack, thought it to be a wonderful morning, then had acid thrown in it's face.

either you really ARE ugly (which i find highly unlikely), or you have low self esteem.

if the later seems to bother you more, (which i think it is) you should just change your style. put somethin on that makes you feel confident in with your self. grow a mustash, if you have to(or if you already have one, then shave it off). next you should stop thinking of what other people think of you because they do not to think too often.

once your self esteem has been taken care of, talk to random women in your university(?) during lunch breaks. do not think of them as sex objects at this stage, but as one of your friends. talk about at first about subjects that interest you, and listen to them and continue conversation from there. make a naturally flowing conversation. after that is done, say it was nice talking to them, and leave it at that

once you feel, that approaching women feels natural, just repeat the things in the previous step, and add the asking for the phone number, and see how things move from there...



other than that i've got nothing

 

[thespyisdead]

arg... @£$%& forum!!!! double post!!!

 

[dryan21]

Just go to a club/pub or something similar, drink, and just talk to some women, even if you don't get anywhere, you will get some experience and feel more comfortable with it in the future. In my opinion, if its your first time, get fairly drunk. It will just make you more confident and less insecure about it.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

everything there is to say has been said above. follow that advice given

 

[postblitz]

trust me, you're not the only guy who was a virgin at 20. follow advice given above and chill out.. peace!

 

[gazumped]

Seriously guy, there is nothing wrong with you. This is all completely normal. The ugly thing is unfortunate, but there are ways to mitigate that. One, make sure your hygiene is impeccable, and dress well. Two, do awesome things. Learn to play an instrument. Pick up a sport and excel at it. Be the smartest guy in the room. Just pick SOMETHING, and be excellent at it. That's attractive. And above all, be confident, be funny, be humble, and be nice. Then you can be the ugliest man in all creation and women will still want to fuck you.

As a woman I can say... this is very true.
And if you're looking for sex instead of relationships then this is more likely to get you laid with no strings attached than, say, trying to be a really good person so that women will fall for you.

Also, my boyfriend's brother's a virgin at almost 30, it happens, you're actually doing fine.

 

[Giftfromme]

Okay...this is gonna be awkward. Reeeeaaal awkward.

Okay, basically...I wanna f***. And nothing else.

Not literally thinking of nothing else but f***ing, thank god that hasn't happened in a while. I mean, I don't want a relationship, but I do want to f***.

There are several problems with this. For one, I am terrible with women. I can make them laugh, I can get their attention through just how wierd I am at times, but I can't do much more than that.

For another, I'm a virgin. At twenty years old. Yikes. Apparently, I should be saving it for someone special. Whom? The reason I don't want to be in a relationship is that I believe if I did, she'd just find someone better and drop me like a good series on the fox network. If I find someone special, she ain't sticking around. Honestly, it's got to the point where I just want rid of my virginity, and not just because I'm embarassed, I actually want to do this.

I am all sorts of ungodly kinds of ugly. My personality would be my strong part, which would be helpful if I was looking for a relationship, but I don't want a relationship, I want to f***. People don't tend to like one night stands with ugly people. Especially one with no experience whatsoever.

I don't often see myself as the kind of guy to "do-and-dash". I don't want to be that kind of guy, but for some reason, be it instinct, be it testosterone, be it sexual frustration, be it just the fact that I'm going out more, and seeing more people who I would like to f***, I want a one night thing. I just don't get it.

I have tried relieving myself, it only works for so long.

So advice? Am i kidding myself? Is there anything wrong with just plain wanting to lose my virginity, and not caring about whom I lose it with? Is there something terribly perverted about me? Am I a terrible person? Is there any end to these pointless questions? Does this sound like the plot to an american pie movie? How many F-bombs can I fit in a single post?

Lol how is this embarrassing? Sure you only want to have sex? You're not the only one. I was a virgin till 21, so you're not alone there either. A good place to start is reading about The Game, but to only take some parts of it to heart, not all of it. And you may find yourself capable of doing things you hadn't previously thought possible. Also depending on where you live, you can hook up with the local lair and make things happen.

Just become a little more outgoing, get more exercise and you will be fine.