Ladies: How often do guys hit on you online?

[Radoh]

I get some to an extent. I've been told that I have a very "melodious" voice and that "Being killed by you is a pleasure."

 

[0p3rati0n]

Being a male I never do this. I do wonder though when I encounter a girl gamer if she is legit or just her on the mic and her boyfriend playing. But I never troll girl gamers. In fact I play with one regularly and we personally know each other. She's not someone I would date, but she's enjoyable to play with and have conversations while playing.

 

[Nimcha]

In the interest of full disclosure, I must admit I have flirted with other girls online, but they didn't seem to mind at all.

 

[manic_depressive13]

Doesn't really happen to me. Most of the time they can't tell I'm a girl, but if they find out for whatever reason (I have to go on vent during WoW, or they recognise that the freaking stupid username my brother gave me on HoN is in the feminine form of Greek, etc.) Yeah, even then I just get "LOL you're a girl??" and a conspicuous lack of viscious swearing directed at me. Honestly I prefer it when they think I'm a guy. I have been "hit on" a couple of times, but I was always under the impression that they were just taking the piss, and didn't really mean it. Because, you know, that would be insane. I usually just respond with "right..." and change the subject anyway, and so far everyone's gotten the hint.

 

[Zac Smith]

Guy, girl, monkey? I couldn't really care who I was playing against, as long as it's a good game in the end, and they arn't douches, it doesn't bother me at all

 

[chibivash]

i tend to avoid it by never speaking while in a match. it works well enough, and i listen to what the other guys have to say. plus, i'm too cheap to spring for a mic.

 

[scorptatious]

As a guy, I don't see any reason why I would try to hit on a girl through an online video game. Besides, isn't that was online dating sites are for?

I feel obligated to post this relevant (and amusing) video:

OT: I am a guy, so no.

LOL, I don't know whether to laugh or feel sorry for this guy.

 

[Thanatos5150]

I admit, I flirt with girls playing games online.
I also flirt with girls in person.

As a matter of fact, my "Just being nice", default form of social interaction is, I am told, actually flirting.
So, in that respect, it seems that I flirt with everyone.

This infuriates the girlfriend, and I'm trying to cut back. Seriously trying to cut back. Problem is, I'm not even aware I was flirting half the time!
"! Stop flirting with the waitress!" she says...
"Oh, shit. I did it again?" I says...

 

[the_green_dragon]

It's simple supply and demand. Gamer guys are like 90% of the gaming population (not including casual games ok) the rest are the 10% females. Now gamer girls, while not only rare are also highly prized, like bar of gold. Hen's teeth are rare but of no value.

Thus when a guy finds a girl online they're like "OMG!!! Must try and flirt with girl....." and more often then not they epically fail. (which is partly why they play MMORPGs all day long instead of going out and meeting a real life girl)

Actually studies have found it's like 65/35, but most female gamers don't voice chat, use character names and avatars that make them seem male, and other similar actions specifically to avoid that scenario.

yeah 65 to 35 is still a huge gap. And as u mentioned girls not advertising the fact they're girls means an even bigger gap.

I don't suppose you ever stop and think about the implications of women feeling uncomfortable enough to go through all that just to avoid broadcasting their gender?

I never said it was right to make girls feel uncomfortable when they're just trying to enjoy their MMORPG or killing noobs in COD, I'm just trying to explain why it happens.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

Alot but I kind of ignore it because they are just doing it because you are a girl not because they like you or anything.

We shouldn't have to hide it, some men should just learn some decorum.

 

[Korihor]

I play video games and I am in every right a girl.
I play Dragon Age, I own a PS3, and I have been playing video games since I was 7.
I do not even own a Wii at this point.
That is 20 years of being a serious gamer.
I do admit in a lot of ways I am not normal because I have Autism / Asperger's.

As for getting hit on online.
It happens a lot when ever you admit you are a girl who is fairly attractive.
I never got to any site where I am going to get it hit on because I am just as likely to suffer harassment because I am a girl.
A lot of guys figure they do not have to treat me right or that I should just let them win because as a girl, I am an inferior gamer/person.
People figure because it is online they do not have any consequences and should be able to treat me any way they want.
As a 27 year graphic design student who has the classic "hour glass figure" I get looked at even in public a lot.
This is even though I am about 20 pounds overweight.
In short I tend to stick to my PS3 where I do not suffer harassment because I am a girl unlike WOW.

 

[Smooth Operator]

In the interest of full disclosure, I must admit I have flirted with other girls online, but they didn't seem to mind at all.

Aha, a solution to all our problems was found, guys start training your girly voice!

 

[feauxx]

In the interest of full disclosure, I must admit I have flirted with other girls online, but they didn't seem to mind at all.

Aha, a solution to all our problems was found, guys start training your girly voice!

lol, don't encourage the creeps to be even creepier

 

[Scizophrenic Llama]

I've never really harassed women or flirted with them over the internet, just seems silly. At best some obviously non-serious sexist jokes are made and laughs all around were had.

 

[Imp_Emissary]

I used to really want to play online games. Then I thought of all the horror stories I heard about having an obviously female username from my friends and decided I wasn't interested.

The newest number I've heard is that something like 40% of gamers are female. Yet as far as I know there are few safe spaces for them. None of my fellow gamers participate in forums because what a hive of sexism and male privilege they are (here included, sorry to say). I've been heavily warned off playing online FPSes because of how unbearable one of my friends found it.

If anyone hit on me while I played a game, I'd fucking ragequit. I am not there to flirt, I am not there to be your little insipid male fantasy, I am not there for the HURHUR GIRLS DON'T GAME jokes. Oh, look how clever you are, making light of the fact that despite being a sizable part of the audience, women are almost universally ignored and feel marginalized and objectified in gamer culture.

Newsflash: games are a form of escapism. I get enough marginalization in my day to day. Why you I subject myself to more in my favorite hobby?

I'll stick to single player, thanks.

To be honest, all online games are full of @$$holes, but I guess it must be even more horrible if they find out your a girl. That make me sad.

When we all come into the world we see mother as God, but when men grow up it seems a good deal of them then see women as just pieces meat.

If I ever daughters I'm going to have to hate the world even more than I do now.

Also, the last time I saw the numbers; the worlds pop. was about 52% Female 48% male. So maybe it will get better. Until then, not to offend, but I'm relieved to be male.

 

[Riff Moonraker]

I've found myself quite addicted to TF2 as of late, and subsiquently I've often found myself as the only female on whatever server I reside. This results in a lot of teasing and trolling, both of which I expect going in.

What I wasn't quite prepared for was how many guys seriously seek relationships through such meetings. I mean really, I've played MMORPGs before and never have I come across so many desperate guys in my life. One guy said if ever I find myself in southern Pennsylvania I should look him up, just before signing off. And so many others have ended up moaning and groaning when I mention the TF2 hat my boyfriend gave me for my birthday (and the physical version he bought and packaged like a gift in the game).

So, fellow ladies, how often do you find this happening? Not being teased or trolled for being a female on the Internets, but being creeped and hit on, by completely straight-faced guys?

I have seen it happen scores of times playing Halo, Gears, or anything else that you can hear the other players speaking. It seemed as soon as people heard a girls voice, they immediately started in on her. Its a shame, really, and with internet anominity its almost impossible to stop. I have tried to get people to stop to no avail, as have friends I play online with, but nothing mattered. Sure, we can all file complaints against them, but what good is that going to really do?

I have several online friends that are girls, and we just usually stick to being in a party, to avoid it altogether.

 

[Anonybody]

I prefer to let people simply assume I'm male in online games, and I never use voice chat. The few times my secret "female gamer" identity has been revealed, the reactions have been anything from 'Cool, let's play' to rather nasty sexual harrassment. I've been through the obligatory stalking too, of course. I'm never flirty online, I'm just there to play the game, but I've still had a lot of male friends crushing on me.

Spoiler: Romantic Dream

Just a city bo--err..wait, wrong one.

It's the nervous boy on the internet who finds a girl that's been through some storms. Through Emails and IM's, the two get closer and closer until they fall in lurrrrve. People actually believe stuff like this

This is pretty much how I met my big geek of a boyfriend .

 

[Nimcha]

In the interest of full disclosure, I must admit I have flirted with other girls online, but they didn't seem to mind at all.

Aha, a solution to all our problems was found, guys start training your girly voice!

Haha! I like double standards when I can use them to my advantage.