Ladies: How often do guys hit on you online?

[Mouse One]

The funny thing is, depending on what industry studies you read, somewhere between 30 to 40% of the players of AAA games and MMOs are women. "What?" I hear you cry. "It's got to be like 10%, maybe." Sure. On voice. My wife gamed for her entire life, and she never ever voiced. Heck, she rarely played female characters. When she did, she got swamped with date requests. But she wasn't a teen girl, and had reached the point in life where that sort of thing is more amusing than annoying.

So, is it a problem? Yeah. Will it go away? Unless we ban immature males from videogames (insert joke here), probably not.

 

[Wild_Marker]

I stand with the guy who said it's hard to find a gamer girlfriend. Seriously, it is! I've never actually found one online (though i tend to play with friends mostly and don't play MMO's) but I've heard of many cases where a couple met playing. And those probably encourage the rest of us.

I'll admit, if I ever find a woman while playing, I'd at least try to be nice and add them to my friends list. See if I can get to play along her again and again until we become friends. And yes, then I would probably hit on her.

Damm, did that sound too creepy?

 

[Smooth Operator]

Well, as a male, I can certainly defend the guys. I don't see what's so wrong with them looking for relationships online. They might just want to make a better attempt to get to know the girl before trying to start something.

wait, are you saying that guys online are trying to get to know the girl better??? not from my experience... the conversation through textbox is usualy something like:

anonymous:are you a boy or a gurl?
me: um...girl
anonymous: how old are you??
me:18(lie btw, not giving my info out)
anonymous: do you want to cyber?
me has left the game

OT: never ever play territory war! (a lot)

But isn't that the fastest way of getting to know someone intimately?

 

[Fern Williams]

I have the same issue on World of Warcraft. Guys hit on me all the time. Some become obsessed. Even had a situation where a guy found out my personal info and showed up at my house. Yea it can be bad. Just try to be careful of who I play with and who I let know I am a girl. However i don't think its a bad thing for a man to peruse a relationship with a woman online. Just go about it the correct way and if she says shes not into it back off. ^.^

 

[Doclector]

Well, as a male, I can certainly defend the guys. I don't see what's so wrong with them looking for relationships online. They might just want to make a better attempt to get to know the girl before trying to start something.

Truth. I don't see what's wrong with getting to know a girl online. Hell, I've made friends via online games, why not more?

However, shouting "hey do you want to suck my ****!?" at a girl on halo is once, twice, a million times, wrong.

Have I tried it? No. If I were an rpg character, my charisma would be minus 3789. I don't want to ruin someone's day by attempting to hit on them as being hit on by me from the females perspective surely feels like a lovecraftian horror lurching out of the darkness towards them.

 

[AMX58]

as a guy I rather let the women hit on me and well it works but no i dont do online hitting man thats crazy

 

[Kopikatsu]

I stand with the guy who said it's hard to find a gamer girlfriend. Seriously, it is! I've never actually found one online (though i tend to play with friends mostly and don't play MMO's) but I've heard of many cases where a couple met playing. And those probably encourage the rest of us.

I'll admit, if I ever find a woman while playing, I'd at least try to be nice and add them to my friends list. See if I can get to play along her again and again until we become friends. And yes, then I would probably hit on her.

Damm, did that sound too creepy?

At last you're up front/honest about it. So you lose creepy points! Good job.

But no, you're still creepy. Sorry! (It's a joke.)

 

[Wild_Marker]

I have the same issue on World of Warcraft. Guys hit on me all the time. Some become obsessed. Even had a situation where a guy found out my personal info and showed up at my house. Yea it can be bad. Just try to be careful of who I play with and who I let know I am a girl.

Holy crap, that's scary!

Also, that's the plot of "The Guild". Which makes it double scary (and makes The Guild "based on a real story")

 

[Divine Miss Bee]

this happens to me more often than i'd like, but not very often. there are two or three guys who are repeat offenders and who don't take my "get lost" messages, but for the most part, they backed down when i started seeing someone.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I actually know a guy who chats women up online tells them he loves them then when they want to be his gf acts like he doesn't know what they are talking about and tells his friends they are a liar, I know of at least 3 women he's done that too and he honestly doesn't see anything wrong with it.

:/ I dunno maybe it's just me being oversensitive.

Wow, while I think they clearly didn't know him well enough to be trying to be his gf, he sounds like a real jerk to be doing that to them. I don't think you're being oversensitive about it at all... If someone did that in real life it would be pretty apparent how messed up it is, and online doesn't really change that I think. Person will still be hurt by it =/

The worst thing is most of them think it's somthing they did wrong and carry on being friends with him. My sister says to me he is a jerk and I shouldnt be friends with him anymore but I get on with him and I don't have alot of close friends. It does worry me how it reflects on me though.

 

[Riff Moonraker]

If you admit your a girl you get accused of being an attention seeker and men say we should keep it quiet and we won't get bothered. Why on earth should we? Don't you guys have any control over yourselves.

Remember, it only takes a vocal few to ruin things for everyone. We most certainly are not all like that.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

If you admit your a girl you get accused of being an attention seeker and men say we should keep it quiet and we won't get bothered. Why on earth should we? Don't you guys have any control over yourselves.

Remember, it only takes a vocal few to ruin things for everyone. We most certainly are not all like that.

Oh I know that don't worry I was just generalising sorry.

If I were an rpg character, my charisma would be minus 3789. I don't want to ruin someone's day by attempting to hit on them as being hit on by me from the females perspective surely feels like a lovecraftian horror lurching out of the darkness towards them.

Stop being so hard on yourself lest I strike you about the head with my cthulu plushie.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

My sympathies OP. Sounds like it really sucks. Especially if you already have a boyfriend.

Chicks don't play video games, what are you talking about?

Of course chicks don't! I mean.. how does this:

Even hold a controller? Obviously they cannot.

Now, GIRLS on the other hand DO play games. Case in point, My girlffriend.

 

[FallenRainbows]

If you admit your a girl you get accused of being an attention seeker and men say we should keep it quiet and we won't get bothered. Why on earth should we? Don't you guys have any control over yourselves.

Remember, it only takes a vocal few to ruin things for everyone. We most certainly are not all like that.

Pretty much this. Vocal Minority, I for example (and most people on the forum) are lovely chaps don't let a few cretins ruin your online experience or view of men, best part about the internet: The mute function.

 

[Andreas55k]

As i man...
I say i dont HIT on girls online

Though i try to be friendly... manly because 9 out of 10 of the girls i have meet online were able to hold a serious conversation without including the words "Your a sheit" for ten seconds

Apologies to my fellow men for that, but apparently i attract idiots...

 

[AstylahAthrys]

All the time. I've been told I have a nice voice, which doesn't help with that I bet, but it's honestly starting to get annoying. I used to think it was a bit amusing, but the amount of "I love you" or "hey sexy" messages I get do bother me now. I suppose it's better than being told to get offline, girls don't play games (which I have also been told plenty of times), actually it's a lot better, but that doesn't mean I happen to enjoy those messages from complete strangers.

Honestly, the best way to hit it off with a girl online is to be nice to her. Girl sounds cute and is nice and you like playing with her? Just be a good guy. I've met some extremely nice guys over the internet that I would love to date if I knew them IRL that acted like normal, funny dudes.

 

[creepy_rabbit]

Never happened to me, but that's prolly because there are so many more guys than girls online that they might mistake me for a guy playing as a girl.

 

[Kopikatsu]

If I were an rpg character, my charisma would be minus 3789. I don't want to ruin someone's day by attempting to hit on them as being hit on by me from the females perspective surely feels like a lovecraftian horror lurching out of the darkness towards them.

Stop being so hard on yourself lest I strike you about the head with my cthulu plushie.

It's possible that he isn't being so hard on himself as much as he's being honest. I can say that because I'm also in the heavily negative charisma side of things.

Not being able to leave the house during a particularly sunny day because of prior issues with skin cancer doesn't help with the 'cool' factor. (Fun fact: Surgery sucks when the anesthetic wears off while they're in the middle of stitching the hole in your body back up!)