Ladies: How often do guys hit on you online?

[Evilbunny]

I've met a lot of girls online, and I even dated one for a few months. The thing is most guys don't know how to talk to girls and they try to use the online environment as sort of a consequence free zone to try it out. Sometimes they're a little creepy or forward, and I'm sorry you have to put up with so much crap. Most of them are not mean people, or at least I don't think so. I think they just don't know how to act around girls is all.

 

[RN7]

I'm a guy and I've never hit on a girl in an online game because...well..it's an online game. They're on the game to play and have fun. I wouldn't want to be a random asshole. At least not like that. That and even if I were to seek some sort of relationship for some unfathomable reason, it would most likely never work out. On the contrary, I can say I've actually been hit on a couple of times by females in an online game. Yeah...it was...strange.

 

[Brutal Peanut]

I've been hit on by guys... and I'm a guy. Maybe I shouldn't play females on a roleplaying server...

I've played as a male paladin before, then they'd hear me over teamspeak or ventrilo.
Seemed to take the ladies AND the guys a bit of time to understand what the hell was going on..lol

 

[Hawk eye1466]

I actually have the opposite problem, I'm a guy and I can't get a decent conversation out of any girls online because they all voice block everyone.

What the fuck am I supposed to do when playing an RTS!? It's many things but it's not exactly balls-to-the-wall! It's either talk or sit here and watch my economy counters tick over for an hour.

This happened to me once and since she muted me I couldn't warn her that the entire enemy army was about to destroy her base then that happened and since she refused any alliance I couldn't send any units to help without declaring war on her. Then I got a nice message yelling about how since she was a girl I delibretly got her killed. But I do understand why they do mute people its rediculus how many people hit on any player they even think is a girl.

 

[damselgaming]

The best one I heard was when I was playing MW2:
"nicole1207, are you a girl?"
"Yes."
"Where are you from?"
"England."
"How old are you?"
"20."
"THAT'S SO F*****G HOT!"

ha, oh I wish I had more guys to play with online!

 

[Arctarus'sCookie]

Whilst I'm not a woman, I have seen people hit on women on MMORPG's. The guild I'm in WoW right now for example is like 50% females for some reason, and there are a shitload of creeps who constantly try and flirt with them. It's quite funny to watch admittedly, though I do feel sorry for the women. My friend (who's male) even pretends to be female because he gets so much free shit, he's been given gold, epics, crafting materials and so much more just for acting like an innocent, geeky girl.

But yeah, I'm not really surprised reading your post.

^ This is pretty much exactly my thoughts on the subject. It's ridiculous how much stuff some male gamers will do for a female gamer. Although, my current girlfriend and I DID in fact meet in an online game. (She started talking to me first. Just for the record)

 

[PissOffRoth]

I feel obligated to post this relevant (and amusing) video:

OT: I am a guy, so no.

Videos like this are actually painful for me to watch. It takes a serious amount of willpower to keep myself from pausing it permanently.

 

[AnAngryMoose]

I remember playing APB (before it got shut down) and was in the social district. I forgot I had VOIP on, and a load of guys started crowding around me. I asked my boyfriend 'what the hell?'.
He was laughing saying I'd left VOIP on, so they all knew I was a real girl

Also when I was playing Left 4 Dead and a guy asked if he could 'spray his boomer bile on me'. Urgh.

I think he might want to get that checked out if he's spraying bile on people...

OT: Again, another guy here, and I can't understand why guys even bother. It seems to me like most guys (online and IRL) are incapable of talking to a girl without hitting on them. It's... Well, it's kinda pathetic and I'm somewhat ashamed of my gender.

 

[ms_sunlight]

I never game online under a female name (usually use something non gender specific) and I don't use VOIP. There are reasons for this. This thread contains dozens of them.

 

[Dark Prophet]

Well I'm a guy and I get freak out by the sheer desire some players have for some random girl who just joined. I just don't get why my sex does this.

I think it's more like the absence of sex that causes be´haviour like that.

 

[Nuds1000]

I think this topic falls under this theory....

http://art.penny-arcade.com/photos/215499488_8pSZr-L-2.jpg

but this is just a more specific case,also I'm sorry you have to deal with desperate men just so you can enjoy a game.

 

[Racecar1994]

I've actually had a girl gamer proclaim with great pride on Left 4 Dead that she was a woman. I was indifferent at first, but then she just kpet gabbing on about it, and I couldn't keep a straight face after that XD

 

[GrimSheeper]

I have the same issue on World of Warcraft. Guys hit on me all the time. Some become obsessed. Even had a situation where a guy found out my personal info and showed up at my house. Yea it can be bad.

It's honestly that bad? I apologize for my entire gender... It's a bit sad that it's something of a sexual fantasy for a guy to have a girl seek him out and appear at his doorstep when a girl would be best advised to call the cops...

On to the topic itself. I am male and shouldn't really comment given the question, but I can't recall going crazy over the fact that a girl just joined a game I play. I don't play online very much for different, yet related reasons (some people online lose 45 points of IQ automatically and become intolerably obnoxious) anyways, so I can't really say much about it either. I'd hope it's the puberty-hitting minority that desperately hits on anything online even remotely female in the hopes that their unskilled, mouthbreathing attempts are met with some girl actually wanting to 'cyber' with them. Because as common knowledge dictates, girls love nothing more than angry boys playing halo and want to suck on their plasma swords all day...Now I feel like I should apologize for that metaphor...

I met my girlfriend online, but through a website that usually promotes 'art' (deviantart, namely) in varying states of quality and it was over writing a story rather than games, but it's a nice coincidence we both are gamers as well. Ironically it is almost the exact description of the 'Romantic Dream' from this thread. So that can happen as well, but it's not exactly common.

I am guilty of flirting with close female friends who know me for a long time and it's more of a 'joke' to make both of us feel better rather than genuinely pursuing a relationship. I wouldn't try that on a girl I just met online. Then it also had to be sorted out how I actually mean what I just said. It's usually close to PG anyways, it's not flirting when you talk about "spreading your hot sauce over their Tamale". Just being nice when their boyfriend did something stupid. Maybe I could be described as manipulative, but I honestly just want to be nice to everyone. It's not as easy with male friends though, that always ends rather awkwardly...I suppose I am not immune to being persuaded into treating a girl differently just because she has a cute voice and doesn't look weird when using the ^.^ emote, either. It's a simple mechanism in guys that makes us be all nice and friendly when a girl says she doesn't know how to play, but we'd quickly tell a guy to go "read the wiki you numbskull!" in the same situation...

 

[Alpha Maeko]

Not to sound my own horn, but I don't hit on anyone, online, and if I do, it's in jest.

People want to have a good time (obviously, because they're playing games), not wonder how their gender is going to get different responses from strangers.

 

[Flailing Escapist]

Ha never. But the first time I read the title I thought it said Ladies: How often do guys hit you online?

 

[HydraMoon]

Yes, I've been hit on while gaming online and while annoying, I can get over that. The stalking, screaming c**t at me for half an hour because I kicked some guys tail in a game- that got old after about the sixth time.

About ten years ago I simply started hiding my gender online. It was easier than being stalked all over the damn place. It's getting better bit by bit but it's still a PITA to be self-identified as female online. It's one of the reasons I don't connect my Steam, XBLA or PSN accts to anything else. It's also why I turned off voice, instant messages and 'what I'm playing/listening to/etc' on everything.

Plus, it's half hilarious and half pathetic now that I'm an 'old'. Most of these kids would never even see me IRL, I wouldn't exist to them. I work hard all day, take care of my husband and my family- I just want to shoot some aliens to unwind; I don't have the time to deal with flirty or abusive bs anymore so I just don't play multi much.

 

[Solo-Wing]

The gamer girl has a boyfriend? *Groans*

Honestly I don't see why a guy would hit on an online girl. Unless the girl happens to be in the same city as you, don't bother. Or if the girl hits on you first. Then jump in.

 

[Arif_Sohaib]

Another guy here;
I really despise these kind of people who make my gender look bad. I would probably already be looked down upon as a Muslim Pakistani and these people make the other group I belong to hated as well. And I do none of the things these groups are hated. I don't even talk to girls in real like or online unless it is about work/studies. Why are all things I belong to being targeted?

 

[GrimSheeper]

Sorry to hear about your illness and surgery I hope you feel a bit brighter soon.

As for charisma anyone who likes Deadpool is okay with me. Looks like you're another target for Fluffy Cthulhu. nyrawr nyrawr

You just told somebody with skin cancer to feel brighter?

I'm so sorry and I don't mean this as an offense to you, but I am laughing my ass off at that line for some reason. XP
My mind works in mysterious ways, so don't worry about not finding this funny at all.

 

[WhatHityou]

I'm a guy and I never really gotten why some people do that. I think I see a pattern where the person is somewhat immature. We have a player in our guild who gets hit on all the time which is hilarious because she alwase plays with her boyfriend while this is happening, It makes for some good laughs.

But the reason I don't get it is it lacks personality a kind of face to face conversation knowledge that makes it seem