life is so....dull

[The Rockerfly]

Drugs is the worst thing you can do in your situation, you'll just get more depressed
I have been in a situation where everyone pretended to like each other and it was shit because when you actually needed help for anything it would always result in them trying to make it worse

What I think would be much healthier for you is a friendly atmosphere, everyone gets along and no one has any aggravation. It is wonderful having that kind of situation plus if you are about to start high school you might be able to find that atmosphere in class or with a group of friends

If you have no such luck, learn an instrument. Instruments are a great way to socialise with other people and you find you can put a lot of your misery into playing and you will feel a lot better.

I would also say get more exercise, not because I'm being nasty to you but the chemicals produced will help you feel a bit better and when you get in shape you will feel a lot more confident with yourself

Hope that helps

 

[Stormz]

Snape

Good! I implore you to do so. But try your best to get out of that mindset the bullies put you in. You can be anyone you want to be in this world, and the moment you let people hold you back for that, in a negative sense, is when you are limiting yourself for someone else. In this case, people who don't care period. It's not worth it, you should be out there being happy with your life and what you can accomplish within it. <3

I'll keep your advice in mind, I really appreciate you helping me out.

Drugs is the worst thing you can do in your situation, you'll just get more depressed
I have been in a situation where everyone pretended to like each other and it was shit because when you actually needed help for anything it would always result in them trying to make it worse

What I think would be much healthier for you is a friendly atmosphere, everyone gets along and no one has any aggravation. It is wonderful having that kind of situation plus if you are about to start high school you might be able to find that atmosphere in class or with a group of friends

If you have no such luck, learn an instrument. Instruments are a great way to socialise with other people and you find you can put a lot of your misery into playing and you will feel a lot better.

I would also say get more exercise, not because I'm being nasty to you but the chemicals produced will help you feel a bit better and when you get in shape you will feel a lot more confident with yourself

Hope that helps

I play piano. Not very good but do haha. Gonna learn the guitar. My biggest issue with both your suggestions is motivation. I want to look amazing and play guitar and piano like a pro, but getting me to practice is hard, I never have the willpower to do it. Same with getting in shape, any advice for that? :/

 

[The Rockerfly]

I play piano. Not very good but do haha. Gonna learn the guitar. My biggest issue with both your suggestions is motivation. I want to look amazing and play guitar and piano like a pro, but getting me to practice is hard, I never have the willpower to do it. Same with getting in shape, any advice for that? :/

lol don't worry if you play it badly, most professional musicians in pop culture play their instrument badly just keep on learning and you will always get better.

If you want to learn to write music, I can help you with that
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/for...sic-Theory-The-basics-updated-V7#comment_form

If you are lacking in motivation, listen to a really incredible musician or maybe watch a film based on music. That always gets my creative juices going

Also if you are going to learn the guitar I can give you a hand, suggest models, how to play and good songs to learn. However you have to motivate yourself as well but there are so many benefits from doing so, why not?

 

[Naheal]

I fixed mine by turning to sarcasm. You'd be surprised how well that works in social circles.

Also, people are pricks. Teenagers are worse pricks. Choosing not to hang out with people your own age doesn't mean that you're anti-social; it means that you're not interested in them.

 

[Stormz]

I play piano. Not very good but do haha. Gonna learn the guitar. My biggest issue with both your suggestions is motivation. I want to look amazing and play guitar and piano like a pro, but getting me to practice is hard, I never have the willpower to do it. Same with getting in shape, any advice for that? :/

lol don't worry if you play it badly, most professional musicians in pop culture play their instrument badly just keep on learning and you will always get better.

If you want to learn to write music, I can help you with that
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/for...sic-Theory-The-basics-updated-V7#comment_form

If you are lacking in motivation, listen to a really incredible musician or maybe watch a film based on music. That always gets my creative juices going

Also if you are going to learn the guitar I can give you a hand, suggest models, how to play and good songs to learn. However you have to motivate yourself as well but there are so many benefits from doing so, why not?

Thanks a lot, I'll bookmark your thread now and look it over later. I DO need to get motivated, it's just finding out a good way to do it. I'll do it one way or other though. Hoping my guitar class in school will be good a start.

 

[Ossian]

Hello fellow Escapists.

For the past 4 years, now going on 5. I've been living what I'd say is a horribly dull and uneventful life. I'm 16. So I've wasted a giant portion of my teenage life like this. I don't have any friends, I don't do drugs, party and have never had a girlfriend. I've been diagnosed with Social anxiety but never wanted that to stop me, unfortunately I think it has to an extent. I find it hard to talk to anyone and feel I don't connect with people at all. So for these past 4 years, I have not lived the life I want. I was homeschooled and just got back to school this year. I was hoping to make friends but that has failed miserably so far. I'm about fed up with this. I sit awake at night pondering what it would be like to be a social butterfly, to have tons of friends. I try not to let it get me down, but the fact of the matter is. I am down. I feel hopeless and lost. I feel incapable of doing anything about my situation at this point. It also doesn't help I really bad self esteem, surprised?

Any advice is welcome, and maybe some of you are in the same situation? though I really hope none of you are.

Totally in your shoes, except replace the fact that I was homeschooled until college, I live in wilderness, and I'm 21.
I can't really offer you any advice since I'm still in the situation. I'm going back to college in spring but I don't see myself making any permanent friends.

Do you have the problem that everyone you try and befriend has no interest in you? I'm a really shy person but I talk people's ears off just trying to get them to say anything about themselves (not in an annoying way) but it seems they just answer the question and offer nothing else. IT DRIVES ME CRAZY!!
Everyone has their own group of friends from highschool and they have no time for that kid walking around by himself. Meeeeh.

It will get better dude, because if it doesn't than it won't for me. I don't accept that. After you find the grove and get all those things you want (Friends, Girl friend, social outlets) your going to have a great story to tell of what you went through to become who you are. (Will be)

I hope some of that makes sense.

PS: I make better friends with teachers than with classmates, maybe because I don't try and be someone I'm not around them. Don't be worried of what they think about you. I always am and it makes me spaz out.

 

[The Rockerfly]

Thanks a lot, I'll bookmark your thread now and look it over later. I DO need to get motivated, it's just finding out a good way to do it. I'll do it one way or other though. Hoping my guitar class in school will be good a start.

Okay, good luck and if you want to ask me anything send me a PM, guitar lessons are always a good start especially if you want to write a song. If you want to learn a specific style (e.g. Metal, blues etc) then there are loads of free resources on the internet, you don't need to spend any money learning guitar

 

[Cupid]

Drugs and drinking, not worth it. Girlfriend, you have the rest of your life to waste money on women, don't start now. And as for friends; why in the hell would anyone ever want to be the center of attention?

Being the center of attention may be fun for a little while, but after that it sucks because you realize all your 'friends' aren't really your friends.

I have 4 friends at school, and I am perfectly happy with it; rather have 4 real friends, than have the entire school pretend to be my friend.

I agree with this post..although I do think he feels more alone than anything. I think 16 is a complex age anyway and filled with many different feelings. I have a younger brother who is 14 and looks 20. He goes through many different feelings and changes and I think this will continue for some time to come. It's just all part of growing up and getting older. Social anxiety is hard to deal with though, and the thing that most keeps you from stepping out a little more to make new conversations with new people to make those new friends. Sucks. I myself do not have this, but I am very very shy, which is probably the closest to what you may be feeling when approaching new people. Im the one at the lunch table listening to everyone else, until eventually someone will come over to say 'hi' or I'll ask them a question, and not to begin the conversation, it's more I have to ask! I think it's nice to have a gf at your age, but truth be told, nobody knows what they want at this age, and you will wind up with your heart broken in the end anyway..it's best to date with the feeling of it's not going to mean so much, and the end is just around the corner. But I think that is the way it is for many reasons, but it shouldnt stop you from wanting to date, just more or less think of it as a learning curve..girls can be fickle to say the least. As for friends, lol, they can be so overrated. All you need is one, to have many doesnt mean they will be there for you. Like Generic American has 4 friends, thats alot! So yeah, be patient with life, most things fall into place at just the right time. Hang in there.