Looking underage (The Good Vs. The Bad)

[snappydog]

Well, I'm 19 now, but when I'd just turned 18 I went to a bar with some workmates. You had to be at least 18 to even be in there, let alone actually buy any drinks, so you got checked at the door. They let me in without bothering to ask for ID, but the woman behind me they wouldn't let in. She hadn't brought her ID with her because nobody ever checked her anymore.

She was my manager, and 36 years old. Yup, precisely double my age, and yet they checked her and not me. She would have taken it as a compliment, except y'know, she couldn't get into the bar.

 

[Hiroshi Mishima]

I guess I'm kinda.. I dunno. I've always been told I look older than I actually am. In high school I was mistaken repeatedly for someone in their 30s (when I was in my teens). I suppose the beard didn't help, but hey.. I like the thing, although I trim it more regularly now.

What I wanted to say was that.. well, I actually think it's really cool that some people look younger than they are, I'm also kind of attracted to younger looking girls, regardless of their actual age. My best friend (and ex) looks and sounds like she's 12, except for the size of her breasts - which somehow look even larger because she's only 5 feet tall. More than once she was mistaken for my daughter, which was admittedly a bit awkward for both of us.

I dunno. I see people who -don't- look younger always trying to be younger looking, and then you have people that -do- look younger wishing they looked more their age. Considering I look, and generally feel, far older than 31.. I guess I'm a tad envious. I remember when I had a full head of hair and my beard was a vibrant reddish colour. Now it's fading with lots of white/blonde hairs and is predominantly brown, like the hair on my head (which used to be a lighter brown, and then blonde before that).

I suppose what I really wish is that the hair on my body would make up its mind. I have soft facial features, despite the fact I've super thing hair on top (but not the sides) and scarred, worn looking hands.

EDIT: thinking about it a bit.. I suppose my appearance is probably fitting. I don't typically fit in with people my age, anyways. Never have. I've always gotten along better with people older, or younger than myself. Children can be more accepting than adults, and older people... I dunno, just tended to get on better with adults when I was a child. Maybe it's because I wasn't into the same stuff a lot of kids my age were.

 

[cerebreturns]

"sucks now rocks later?"

Yeah, never heard of a woman who doesn't take advantage of looking 16 when she's 22. Espcialy since at that age most men are horrible perverts & the women are also, so it works out for both involved (not saying they arn't at older ages too)

At 12 they wish they looked older sure...

 

[alandavidson]

I'm in my mid-twenties and have never been carded, stopped, or questioned about my age. Most people assume that I'm in my mid thirties due to the scars, limp that sometimes flares up, and and already receding hairline.

Captcha: Stay Safe.

Thanks Captha, I will.

 

[Adamantium93]

I have the opposite situation. I'm fairly tall and I have a very deep voice. Although I've been told I have a baby face, I can grow facial hair very quickly and within a day I have a very dark shadow going.

When I was sixteen (freshly turned sixteen) I was offered tequila at a hotel in Miami. Often times restaurants assumed I'd be drinking and brought me a wine glass.

Its also useful because even among people who are older than me they often see me as equal or older than they are and don't treat me like the "little kid"

The only downside though is that people have always expected me to be much more mature and competent, even those who knew my real age. There was much less leeway for screwing up when I was in grade school and I lost the "puppy dog" look very early.

This also once led to an awkward moment when somebody thought my mom (who looks much younger than she is) was my older sister and started hitting on her.

Yeah, not exactly OT but thought I'd share.

My advice: use it to your advantage and be happy you'll look younger when you get up in your years.

 

[Sku1c]

When I am unshaven, I can pass for around 30. I'm 26 and a half.

When I'm clean shaven, I can pass for 16. At least until I speak.

My voice has been described as that of a chain smoking 40 year old :/

I have a rather "feminine" face, and when I was younger, I would be mistaken for a girl all the time. It makes me seem younger than I really am.

You wouldn't happen to be my long lost twin, would you? Seriously, you described me perfectly.

 

[TheFinalFantasyWolf]

People usually assume that I'm 13-15 years old, boy are they surprised when I say 19.
I realized a few months ago that the only place I didn't need to prove my age was at my local games store. I kinda beamed thinking that they thought I WAS over 18. Until I realised last week that every single time I have purchased a mature game in store, my mother has been with me on each of those occasions. I usually buy online, Australian prices and all.

I use to hate looking young, especially in High School, however after starting University, I've begun to embrace the childlike youth. Getting hit on by 25+ year old men feels especially creepy, knowing I look like a tween, but none the less I still love this youth.

 

[CrimsonBlaze]

A few year back (though it tends to happen to me still), I was always mistaken for being in high school and not always recognized as an adult. In some situations, it wasn't all that bad, but in others, it was riddled with WTF.

The good was that many complemented on my youthful appearance. Many couldn't believe that I was an adult, but once listening to me speak and express my thoughts and ideas, there was no denying it. It also made it easy for many people to speak with me more comfortably because I don't seem intimidating.

The bad is not getting noticed. All the dates that I had in the past few years were all because I had to approach women and speak with them, cus' they didn't feel interested in a young looking guy. I also got ID'd everywhere I went, even when going out with some of my other friends who where the exact same age as me and they didn't get ID'd. Also, a lot of people tend to have low expectations of me because they expect to be "young and naive."

I'm just blessed to have a youthful look because when I'm much older, I'll look like I'm in my prime when in fact I'm in my 40s or 50s.

 

[Robot Number V]

Ugh, all the time. I was singled out and carded in a Casino, I've had waiters pre-emptively remove my wine glass....Once, while wearing a "Batman" shirt, I had a waiter tell me something along the lines of "Batman eats his vegetables", when he noticed that part of my meal was the only thing left on my plate. (A) I was getting to it, and (B) I'm twenty-one fucking years old, and I'll eat what I want, asshole.

But I guess it'll come in handy later in life, so....I still feel generally positive about it.

 

[Shinsei-J]

I've been told I look like a very young Stephen Fry and people have aged me anywhere between 18 and 25.
I'm still not 18, got half a year left.
Though I think it has to do with my mannerisms more than anything else.
The only thing holding back my age gauge is the fact I can't and won't be able to grow facial hair till I'm 30.

 

[farscythe]

Kinda wish I had your problem. At 17, I was being mistaken for 30.

same for me mate..since my 18th people have assumed im a thirty some..they still do..but at least now im only a year off from being one...so..maybe in a few years ill look younger than my age for the first time
(on a side note tho.....being that older guy...kinda worked for me at 18 19 ..and the shock when you tell people your age is kinda fun)

 

[Relish in Chaos]

I'm 17, but people normally guess my age correctly or I think I'm one or two years older than I am, due to me being quite tall (I'm taller than my 40-something-year-old mother, and a bit taller than my 22-year-old sister - then again, males on average are taller than females when they catch up in puberty).

Aside from my height, I'm fairly spotty and only recently bought my first shaver, meaning that I had sideburns for quite some time. So there's that.

 

[Frostbite3789]

My sister hates looking as young as she does, she's 25 this month and she gets ID'd whenever she buys alcohol. She really hates that I, at 23, do not. My advice for anyone with this problem is to grow a beard, they work wonders.

I would if I could. I can not shave for three weeks and all I have to show for it is I look like a high school kid who hasn't learned to shave yet. And I turn 24 in 6 days.

 

[You Can't Take the Sky From Me]

I would if I could. I can not shave for three weeks and all I have to show for it is I look like a high school kid who hasn't learned to shave yet. And I turn 24 in 6 days.

Oh, I'm terribly sorry... Now I feel bad. I've had a full beard since I just decided to stop shaving everyday when I was 18.

 

[Poerts]

My sister hates looking as young as she does, she's 25 this month and she gets ID'd whenever she buys alcohol. She really hates that I, at 23, do not. My advice for anyone with this problem is to grow a beard, they work wonders.

I can vouch heavily for beard growth, if you've got the gender and facial blessing for it. I'm 22 and have kind of a baby face. Most people think I look about 16 or 17 when clean-shaven. However, I randomly proved capable of growing a pretty sweet beard last Movember, and have been reveling in it ever since. Most new people I've met since then are surprised to hear I'm not in my late 20's.

As for differences... I get ID'd about as much as I ever did, but random strangers suddenly call me Sir every now and then (which is goddamn weird), and I find that people take me a bit more seriously in general. I've also had a few friends tell me that I suddenly seem like an actual adult now, though that might have more to do with general style changes and a recent confidence boost.

 

[You Can't Take the Sky From Me]

I can vouch heavily for beard growth, if you've got the gender and facial blessing for it. I'm 22 and have kind of a baby face. Most people think I look about 16 or 17 when clean-shaven. However, I randomly proved capable of growing a pretty sweet beard last Movember, and have been reveling in it ever since. Most new people I've met since then are surprised to hear I'm not in my late 20's.

As for differences... I get ID'd about as much as I ever did, but random strangers suddenly call me Sir every now and then (which is goddamn weird), and I find that people take me a bit more seriously in general. I've also had a few friends tell me that I suddenly seem like an actual adult now, though that might have more to do with general style changes and a recent confidence boost.

You know what is really weird? Getting called sir at 14 because you act and talk like someone twice your age, and that was pre-beard, although beards are still great.

 

[Kae]

wheb I went and bought alchohol for the first time ever the guy didnt ask me for ID...I was shocked

people think I'm alot younger than I look, I'm 21 and I could pass for a 16 year old if I tried

when I was 18 my dad got me into the Zoo on a "childs" ticket....I'm assuming a childs ticket is like 12

Hah, my father used to do the same thing with movie tickets, it annoyed me to no end.

OT: Eh High School kids still won't leave me alone... I'm 22...
And I can't punch them back because I'd go to jail, it's not fair T^T

ah kids will leave you alone if there's a chance they might get hurt.....yeah ok....when your going into anti teenager defense mechanisms it can get a bit on the depressing side. I think i'm lucky in the regards that i'm a pretty big fellow so I usually just need a level of sternness to mediate things.

Still it can be a bother.

Eh that's not true, these ones don't care about getting hurt, I'm tall-ish, I've got a scar on my left eye, I always look angry and my knuckles are filled with cut marks and I've even walked in front of them while they were dripping blood and that didn't scare them at all, if what you said it's true I'm pretty sure they wouldn't even get close to me.

 

[knight steel]

Makes it easier to pick up children:

Joking-joking-put down the hammer-I'm obviously kidding.........or am I?

 

[rawfy]

wheb I went and bought alchohol for the first time ever the guy didnt ask me for ID...I was shocked

people think I'm alot younger than I look, I'm 21 and I could pass for a 16 year old if I tried

when I was 18 my dad got me into the Zoo on a "childs" ticket....I'm assuming a childs ticket is like 12

Hah, my father used to do the same thing with movie tickets, it annoyed me to no end.

OT: Eh High School kids still won't leave me alone... I'm 22...
And I can't punch them back because I'd go to jail, it's not fair T^T

ah kids will leave you alone if there's a chance they might get hurt.....yeah ok....when your going into anti teenager defense mechanisms it can get a bit on the depressing side. I think i'm lucky in the regards that i'm a pretty big fellow so I usually just need a level of sternness to mediate things.

Still it can be a bother.

Eh that's not true, these ones don't care about getting hurt, I'm tall-ish, I've got a scar on my left eye, I always look angry and my knuckles are filled with cut marks and I've even walked in front of them while they were dripping blood and that didn't scare them at all, if what you said it's true I'm pretty sure they wouldn't even get close to me.

Yeah I'm probably wrong, although the kids that your talking about sound like the type that wouldn't be too shy about testing an older fellow. How do you carry yourself around? It might sound funny but even holding an upright posture (that's actually more suitable/healthy for spine alignment) as opposed to the sort of slouchy position that people generally carry can really go a ways.

It's part of that primitive pack mentality that us humans haven't completely grown out of yet...hehe

I don't want to be overly pesky so I'll stop.

 

[Mr F.]

As I lost my passport, not being able to buy smokes is a real ***** for a smoker. Yet that is mostly down to overzealous wankers in stores.

I appear to be older then I am as far as many are concerned. I get mistaken for a 27 year old ALARMINGLY regularly. I once had a classmate say "Hello ser" because he thought I was a lecturer. I mean, sure, I am older then most of my peers (21) and I powerdress a lot of the time because I like to do so. Yet seriously. Being mistaken for someone far older then you are is annoying.

Sometimes people think I am younger then I am. This is getting progressively rarer though.

Only problem I have is I have dated people who are slightly younger then me who look a lot younger then me. Thats creepy. Used to get weird looks when I was 18 cause my 16 year old girlfriend looked about 14. And, as I have said, I looked about 20 at the time. So yeah.

Looking younger is shite if you are dating someone older then you.