I don't think you're worried about the big v. I think you're sad about not getting with the girl you like. Keep trying.
losing my virginity and how i feel used
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that's the way it's supposed to work, brah
Nah just kidding. Just don't go around telling people this, they'll probably make fun of ya
Nah just kidding. Just don't go around telling people this, they'll probably make fun of ya
Dude it could be worse, look on the bright side of things. #1 Lost your virginity, #2 Can find someone who does want a relationship, #3 She prolly wasn't right for ya if she was willing to jump into bed with someone that easily after a few drinks.
All I could think about was this song...toxbox said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ENnAa7rqtBM
I feel for you, bro. It didn't happen to me, thankfully, but I despise one-night stands and people with that attitude so I can guess how you must feel. All I can say is learn from it, don't make the mistake again and, next time, get to know a girl, make sure she likes you, then ask her out and see if it leads anywhere. Y'know, a typical relationship scenario.
Meanwhile, some of us are still wanting to get rid of our virginity but can't due to difficulties dealing with the opposite sex. And then you come here saying that you feel bad about it? Boo-hoo for you. >:-(
As long as the woman doesn't have an STD and I have a condom, I don't care if it was a one night stand. I do want a woman who I can be in a long-term relationship with, but I also want to have a little fun before I find the one woman I want to be with the rest of my life.
As long as the woman doesn't have an STD and I have a condom, I don't care if it was a one night stand. I do want a woman who I can be in a long-term relationship with, but I also want to have a little fun before I find the one woman I want to be with the rest of my life.
I've seen you around these forums, and you're really starting to bother me. You greatly over estimate the "stigma" of virginity - if anything, you'll be stigmatized for constantly posting self-hating rants about the topic.RAKtheUndead said:
Men don't have a virginity, so there's that. Only women have a physical virginity. That's the good thing about being a man. We get to pick when we lose it because it's all in our heads.
This was your first time, but technically you can block it out and say it doesn't count.
This was your first time, but technically you can block it out and say it doesn't count.
the first time is always disappointing. the number of people who are satisfied with their first time, if it's not zero, is pretty close to there. if you had fun, great! if not, you know for next time that drunken hookups are not your thing, and try to have fun with it next time.
I'm not actually participating in this part of the conversation, but I got a little laugh when I read your response and then saw your username.The Virgo said:
OT: To the OP- I highly doubt you would have felt anything life-changing if you had lost your virginity in the middle of a relationship with someone you cared about. It's just another step in your life, and there isn't any grand pre-virginity | post-virginity barrier.
Oh, and don't tell any girls that you're a virgin, because that would be bullshit lying (and I don't think girls would be impressed, for that matter)
You should have waited four more years, so you wouldn't have given a damn if you were used or not. That little bit of personal shame increases exponentially every year after 20. Would you rather have gone four more years a virgin and still done the same thing anyway? You can't have your cake and eat it, too. Most of the time you don't even get cake. Buck up, buckaroo.
I'm sorry it had to happen for you like that man. But hey, it's not the end of the world, and maybe you'll find someone special to do it with in the future, and then it may be a bit more meaningful.
There is a positive way to look at this, even without resorting to rather childish measures.
You care for this girl. You got to have sex with this girl that you care about. Maybe it will be a little awkward, sure, but that's just shit that happens, and really, if it was leading up to this then any awkwardness you end up feeling is just getting through all the awkwardness all in one go, instead of over months and months of tension. Soon enough, you can go back to being friends, and everyday life. Maybe you stay friends for the rest of your life, maybe you drift away like people do sometimes regardless of there intimacy. Hell maybe in time, you 2 will get together, (it's probably more likely now). But you will always have a moment of intimacy with someone you care for to hold on to, and that's more then most people get there first time. It sucks, its confusing, you wish things were different, and that's totally understandable. But things didn't turn out that bad, and in time, you will be able to contextualize what happened and think back on it fondly.
You care for this girl. You got to have sex with this girl that you care about. Maybe it will be a little awkward, sure, but that's just shit that happens, and really, if it was leading up to this then any awkwardness you end up feeling is just getting through all the awkwardness all in one go, instead of over months and months of tension. Soon enough, you can go back to being friends, and everyday life. Maybe you stay friends for the rest of your life, maybe you drift away like people do sometimes regardless of there intimacy. Hell maybe in time, you 2 will get together, (it's probably more likely now). But you will always have a moment of intimacy with someone you care for to hold on to, and that's more then most people get there first time. It sucks, its confusing, you wish things were different, and that's totally understandable. But things didn't turn out that bad, and in time, you will be able to contextualize what happened and think back on it fondly.