Love and Relationships

[Zaverexus]

I'm sure this has been done before, I apologize, please don't tell me about it.
Having just had a great Homecoming at school and being in a relationship with an amazing girl (and being sick at home with time to think) I've been thinking about relationships lately and wanted to hear some stories from my fellow Escapists about their experiences.
Best/worst love/relationship moments?
Comments on love/relationships?
Things that make you think of people you love?
etc.

 

[Zaverexus]

Personally I think having a shared song is awesome:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O3CkfvYMCWM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sjcpI_3XsAk&ob=av2n

 

[Random Argument Man]

I've never lived a great relationship. My best was a nice girl. Her family hated me since I've slept with her. They were religious nutjobs. (No offense to any religious folk here. If you would've been there, there's no way that you would've liked those guys).

Note* She's the one who's been pressuring me to do it.

2nd Note* Last I've heard, she hasn't spoke to her family for 3 years now. Can't blame her. Her family was a bunch of lunatics.

 

[Spinozaad]

Been in a bunch of teenage relationships. Raging hormones, raging boners on my part. I was in rather... unstable mental state, and my girlfriends then were similar. The delusion that we'd "fight our troubles together". Yeah... Right.

But I grew up, and I learned a lot since I was young... ...er. And now I've been in a relationship for 2 years, but since februari it's become a distance-relationship and since september a long-distance, and well... Yeah...

Still, I've learned that love is fickle, and mostly deception. Just do what feels right, without becoming too much of an asshole.

 

[hyperhammy]

Best moment: Flirting and teasing, I think it's fun!
Worst moment: Being declined over and over again, eh, shit happens.
My comment: I'm currently not looking for a relationship. As some of you might know, my dog was just put to sleep, and I just don't feel like it at the moment.
Still would be awesome someday!
Things that remind me of loved ones: I would say inception, but I guess the girl I was with isn't a loved one anymore. So I'm just going to say German RnB!

 

[hyperhammy]

*shrug* I loved a redhead in my English class, never said anything, and love someone else.

It gets a bit confusing sometimes.

I'm pretty sure you weren't in love with her if you never talked...
that's an attraction!

Been in a bunch of teenage relationships. Raging hormones, raging boners on my part. I was in rather... unstable mental state, and my girlfriends then were similar. The delusion that we'd "fight our troubles together". Yeah... Right.

But I grew up, and I learned a lot since I was young... ...er. And now I've been in a relationship for 2 years, but since februari it's become a distance-relationship and since september a long-distance, and well... Yeah...

Still, I've learned that love is fickle, and mostly deception. Just do what feels right, without becoming too much of an asshole.

I agree! Love is a game, either you win or you lose, you should at least try to have fun!

 

[Zacharine]

Worst relationship moment:

I had bought an engagement ring, to propose to a girl I had dated for almost 3 years. I was 24, she 23 years old.

While on a saturday day on the town, I had planned to have a dinner with her in a real upscale restaurant, and pop the question right after the main course, so that either the dessert would be comfort food or a celebratory piece of cake.

Somewhere, between appetizer and dessert, she dumbed me. I was declared to be on the friends zone, that it was all over between us and that I could come collect some of my stuff from her place in the next week.

This came pretty much like a lightning from a blue sky. We had talked of going for an international vacation in a few months, and even selected a destination. We'd met eachothers parents. We pretty much spent every weekend together, and saw eachother often during the weeks despite living almost 20km apart.

Fast forward two weeks, and I see her out on the town with my best friend, apparently having the time of their life.

So I wrote her a letter, wishing her a happy life in it as sincerily as I could with my heart of the gutter, and added a copy of both the proof of purchase with the date underlined and receipt for returning the engagement ring to the shop. When she tried to call, I didn't answer. She didn't call again, and frankly I was happy that way. If she was sincere in leaving me, an engagement would have been a colossal mistake. And if she did that in the name of some kind of powerplay, or in an attempt to make me jealous, then she wasn't the girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with anyways.

My former best friend... let's just say I didn't keep in contact, and he didn't bother to either.

Happier moments: well, when a girlfriend later on decided to repay me for being a driver and pack-mule for her and her friends on a whole day of shopping - in a clothes exchange booth that had thick walls and proper doors...But even better was a picnic with the same girl on a fjord cliffside in Norway, watching a sunset. Seriously, the fjords are amazing.

 

[WingedIncubus]

*shrug* I loved a redhead in my English class, never said anything, and love someone else.

It gets a bit confusing sometimes.

I'm pretty sure you weren't in love with her if you never talked...
that's an attraction!

I did speak to her, just now about how I felt.

In other words, you had a crush but wussed out. It's okey, not all crushes are to be assumed. I had a crush on my hot English teacher in 8th grade and I am thankful that it wasn't mutual nor assumed, otherwise there might have been problems.

Love is something that develops after you assume attraction, you act on it, and get reactions from the woman that it might be mutual. Otherwise, it's just a crush.

 

[WingedIncubus]

Wrong. She was taken, and happily so. So is the girl I love just now. Doesn't stop me from loving her though.

If you truly loved her, you would have attempted to steal her away from his lazy-ass, no-good boyfriend.

 

[OManoghue]

I have the problem of getting picked up a lot but being emotionally cold. The idea of relationships bothers me, hanging out with an awesome girl for a few months is great though. Just for a little companionship.

 

[tomtom94]

I need to actually ask girls out.

I currently have a crush on a girl who I rarely talk to.
This makes it more difficult.

Worst moment? Being beaten to a previous girl by my absolute penis of a friend. Who has admitted that my crush on her was an incentive for him to ask her out.

 

[WingedIncubus]

He was a good guy, and they were happy. Why put someone you love's happiness at risk just to satisfy your own selfishness?

Huh, because you wanted her for yourself, happy with you and not with him? Because it is perfectly normal to do so from an instinctive, biological standpoint?

Reproduction isn't about altruism and "feelings", it's about picking a mate fit enough to pass your genes to the next generation. And yes, it involves poaching mates as well. But of course, you won't hear about that on Oprah or your run-of-the-mill Dear Ann advice column.

 

[WingedIncubus]

Just because I wanted her doesn't mean I am weak enough to split apart a perfectly good relationship just to obey my biological make-up.

As for reproduction, I don't want kids. Not now, not ever.

It's your loss on that one. People are free to hinder themselves by putting out artificial limits. But the pendant is, she isn't thinking about you when she is with him. Tell me, if the guy was some dweeb who you'd felt treated her like dirt, would you hold the same discourse?

Besides, you think every girl who tells you she has a boyfriend really has one? Many girls will say to strangers that they have a boyfriend when they aren't, either to hide the fact that she is alone, to weed out people they don't like, or to test the guy to see if he's manly enough to assume his attraction and stick up with her. So if you find it "weak" to approach a woman merely because she states she "has a boyfriend" and you believe her, you'll pass up a LOT of occasions.

 

[ThreeWords]

Not yet being out of my teens, I'm probably not in a position where I can comment on things like love, and have limited knowledge of relationships.
Doesn't stop me trying to give out advice and so forth =P

Being beaten to a previous girl by my absolute penis of a friend.

That sucks. Why is he you're friend if he's such a dick?

Wrong. She was taken, and happily so. So is the girl I love just now. Doesn't stop me from loving her though.

If you truly loved her, you would have attempted to steal her away from his lazy-ass, no-good boyfriend.

He was a good guy, and they were happy. Why put someone you love's happiness at risk just to satisfy your own selfishness?

I had this; not fun at all. My advice (if you're not already doing so) is be the best damn friend you can be, regardless of who her boyfriend is.