Love

[deonte9109]

True love really isnt something that can be properly explained because its different for each person. My fiancee and I are deeply in love but how we go about expressing that love and came to that love is different from each other. She loves me because I was always there for her when she was having difficult times and I make her feel safe. I love her because when we was dating she was my best friend (female wise) and she always had a way of balancing me out. Love takes time and at 16 you have plenty of it. At least wait till you're out of high school before you say you truly love somebody.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

what is love? Is it a sexualised friendship; a deep emotional dependence on another person to the point where it aches to think of them leaving for any period of time; a mutual respect that exists independent of lust, but normally accompanies it?

Since I am the most qualified to answer this;

Love is what you feel.
If you feel love when you are 16, it is love.
If you are 70, it is love.

It's only a bunch of fools who want to point at younglings and say "Ho ho ho, that's not love. What we have is love! What you have is hormones."
They fail to take into consideration that people are different. Just because you're 16 doesn't mean you have to be immature or only think about sex.

Just out of curiosity do you say that because of age or are you a psychologist of some kind? :]

Because it's that persons feeling, not someone elses.

No no I meant in regard to the 'I am most qualified to answer this' part ^_^

 

[Creator002]

As for what is love? I am really not sure what love is but I think it might be the emotional attachment to the other person.

That's what my dictionary calls it, and that's what I'm sticking too.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

what is love? Is it a sexualised friendship; a deep emotional dependence on another person to the point where it aches to think of them leaving for any period of time; a mutual respect that exists independent of lust, but normally accompanies it?

Since I am the most qualified to answer this;

Love is what you feel.
If you feel love when you are 16, it is love.
If you are 70, it is love.

It's only a bunch of fools who want to point at younglings and say "Ho ho ho, that's not love. What we have is love! What you have is hormones."
They fail to take into consideration that people are different. Just because you're 16 doesn't mean you have to be immature or only think about sex.

Just out of curiosity do you say that because of age or are you a psychologist of some kind? :]

Because it's that persons feeling, not someone elses.

No no I meant in regard to the 'I am most qualified to answer this' part ^_^

Ah.

Because I figured that 9/10 on this forum would say that anyone above the age of 30 doesn't know what love is or some other depressing bit or bring up "It's only chemicals in your brain lol" - Which it is but that's beyond the point

Aah I gotcha ^_^ god bless those chemicals.

 

[RobCoxxy]

I have a feeling you don't like life.

I like life just fine, thank you very much.

1. Fuck off. No one asked you. You could've simply avoided clicking tthat little button and saved everyone including you a major headache.

Conversely, the OP could have avoided typing out that little message and clicking that little button, displacing more interesting threads in the meantime. If people are going to displace better threads, they'd damned well be ready to get a headache.

Meaning: fix what's wrong with you or leave society.

Trust me - I'd leave society if I could. Unfortunately, with almost seven billion people in the world, it's kind of difficult not to interact with people in some way.

Hating the only thing that keeps society sane is PROBABLY a sign that there's something wrong with you.

Ha. If that's sanity, then I don't want to see what insanity is like.

1. You got spurned once, and you're a crybaby.

Never been spurned, largely because my distaste towards love doesn't allow me to get into a situation where I could be spurned.

Don't think you're the only person to have been hurt like that. In the past four years, I've gone through plenty of harsh breakups but It hasn't turned me into a vile-spitting prick.

I haven't been hurt, probably because I hate romance so much. However, I do find the discussion of romance on the internet to be vile and distasteful.

Simulord's been through a LOT worse, and he's still the nicest person on the internet.

Which could be a contributing factor to why I let his relationship threads through. SimuLord has proven himself to be a decisive net contributor to the forum in other ways, including his reviews and his other threads. The vast majority of people that I see starting relationship threads are not, and until I leave the site (don't worry - it will be very shortly) or until all relationship threads that aren't by BonsaiK or SimuLord are contained within the Advice Forum, I will not cease to try to destroy them.

why all the hate for love though?

 

[comadorcrack]

Love is inexplicable and grossly inappropriate. Trying to understand it has driven men, better men than me, insane. It would be arrogant and unbelievably ignorant of me to try and describe what love is to you. Love is intangibly heavy. It is desperately proud. It is the pinicle and the downfall or mankind. Love is everything we strive for as people, even if we deny it. You'll know love when you feel it. It's not just teenage hormones, nor is it a sensible agreement between adults.

Love is... Love.

 

[Latinidiot]

What is love? Baby don't hu-*hit with a brick*

All you need is lo-*hit with a boulder*

Everybody PLAY THE GAA-*shot*

OT: Love is when you can be with someone in the same room, and don't need to do anything to be happy. Just being there with that particular someone is enough. Most of the time it has to come from 2 sides.


That's how I like to see it. And no one is really experienced in love. The only experience you gain through life is in what love is not.

 

[Something Amyss]

What is love? Baby don't hu-*hit with a brick*

All you need is lo-*hit with a boulder*

Love
Love is the only thing
So softly beckoning
Makes the world stand on its head....

*crickets*

Okay, so it's only well known commentary that gets one injured. Sweet!

(I'd quote the other ones too, but it would get a bit lengthy).

Love is simply hard to quantify. And at 16, there's a tendency for everything to feel like love. That's not to say you'll never experience it at 16, but in your teen years there's a tendency for everything to feel epic, including infatuation, lust, and obsession.

Unfortunately, it's easiest to tell love when you've lost it. Arrrg.

 

[BENZOOKA]

Love is what you feel. If you're a teenager, it might be puppy love, which is different from the adolescent love in a way, because it's the first, or one of the first, times experiencing something like that and it's more wildly driven by hormonal stuff. Teenagers can still be in love, no question.

It's also a rather vague term, and it's meaning is not to be taken so fucking seriously as things do tend to get treated here, by some angsty, dry, super-serious teenagers who hate everything they can't understand and think they know absolutely everything.

I love Monty Python. I love my godson. I love my mother. I love Hip Hop. I love my ex-girlfriend.
All those are true, but they mean different things, because...

...love is:

 

[SimuLord]

Simulord's been through a LOT worse, and he's still the nicest person on the internet.

Hey now. Aylaine's the nicest person on the Internet (and she's much cuter than me besides). And from what little I know of her, she's been through even worse than I have! I hope that's not a correlative relationship. Because if it is, I don't want to know what I'm gonna have to go through to achieve my goal of being a better person.

 

[TheTaco007]

a deep emotional dependence on another person to the point where it aches to think of them leaving for any period of time; a mutual respect that exists independent of lust, but normally accompanies it?

Bingo.

But yeah, I'm pretty close to your age, and even when I'm in a relationship I wouldn't call those feelings love. When you're under 20-25, it's mostly just hormones. (Friendship coupled with lust.)

The hard part is explaining that to your girlfriend. (Don't do it, it doesn't work out. Save it for breaking up with them.)

 

[Aur0ra145]

Love is taking out the garbage from her apartment to the dumpster, even though you don't have to.

Love is noticing the little things. Love is putting someone else first, before you ever think of yourself.

But with all these nice things said above, Love is most definately a give and take relationship, you need to get out of it about as much as you put in. In other words, you shouldn't be completely subservant to your spouse. You need to think critically and intelligently. Don't be afraid to call them out of stuff, it's part of being in a healthy relationship. I think people now days don't understand how to have good meaningful relationships with other people.

Have I been in Love? Why yes I have. In fact, I was the most dissenting, unenthusiastic, and the utmost non-believer in Love. Until, I met that one girl.

I'd had girlfriends before and all that stuff, never really even thought Love was a real deal then. Then, out of fucking nowhere it hit me like a freight train that just drank a powerthirst. Even then, I told myself that it wasn't possible, that there wasn't anyway I could possibly be anywhere near the 'L' word. "We'd only been dating 3 months, these things don't happen to me, I don't even like romance movies." Were just some of the things going through my head. The relationship lasted about 1.5 years, then we both mutually decided that we should start seeing other people (the last 6 months was a distance thing.) I still speak to her from time to time, and it's just been great being able to know her. But, it was one of those things that had to end. I'm not sad about it. I've moved on, started dating other people and such. In fact, the girl I'm dating right now looks rather promising.

@OP and others. I think the whole, "OMFG! I'm in Love and I met her last week!" thing is bullshit and mostly derived from people with low self-esteem and poor self-confidence. They need someone else to leach off of, because they can't do anything well by themselves.

 

[Pariah87]

I thought love was only true in f...*gets smashed in mouth*

Love is willingly giving another human being the power to bring your world crashing down around you, yet trusting them not to.

 

[C95J]

What is love? Baby don't hu-*hit with a brick*

All you need is lo-*hit with a boulder*

I would do anything for lo- *run over by Meatloaf on his motorcycle*

When I fall in lo- *haunted by Nat King Cole's ghost*

this could get out of hand...

with hilarious results

 

[SimuLord]

I thought love was only true in f...*gets smashed in mouth*

You're doing it wrong.

I thought love was only true in f...*gets a face full of poo from monkeys*

 

[Edorf]

What I consider to be love, is when you simply just want to be with a certain person 24/7, and cant go a day without thinking about him/her... When you're willing to take the a long way round home just to walk with him/her.

Yes/no/perhaps ?

 

[TaboriHK]

It's something you aren't going to figure out in your teen years.

 

[Sronpop]

Love, is a way of feeling.
LOVE! Is a way of feeling less alone.
So whats all the fuss about?

Fuck it.